Three things that dark glory tells us.

Three things that dark glory tells us.

0 1 Don't let anger be the perpetrator of your life.

"Anger cannot be properly handled. Anger sometimes turns into other emotions, and other emotions sometimes turn into anger. In the end, the whole emotional processing system is disordered and falls into the dilemma of depression and anxiety. " Suppressed anger will not disappear, and it must be seen before it can be cured. A lot of anger accumulated in a person's heart actually comes from: firmly believing that he is not seen, unloved and accepted. Just like Dong En, although revenge is pleasant, her soul has long been riddled with this heavy hatred-she can't let herself live a normal life easily and happily, dare not fall in love, or even allow herself to laugh, as if she would forget hatred when she smiles.

Being angry is as important as eating well.

Freud regarded "sex" and "aggression" as the two major driving forces of living. If a person can't attack or hurt others, he won't live a good life at the same time. Only an enterprising person can turn primitive instinct into vitality. Just like in "Dark Glory", Dongen made the bully pay the due price in order to give voice to all the victims. Driven by anger, he worked to save money, was admitted to the teacher, and finally sent the bully to prison. Anger turned into self-motivation and became a powerful force to support her to live.

The ability to learn anger.

In order to let anger "push" us behind our backs, we must first express our anger clearly and clearly, and we need to use the dialectical behavior skill of "decisiveness". Decisiveness means clearly expressing your feelings and views on the status quo, without expecting others to understand you. After the anger is formed, we need to adopt a "gentle and firm" attitude. Psychologist kohut used "determination without hostility" to describe how a person sticks to his position in a friendly way when talking about "how to defend himself".