If you train a child to study abroad, can you stand the fact that the child will not return home after his studies?

This topic has certain practical significance. There are enough children studying abroad in China.

My child graduated from International Studies University, majoring in English. After graduation, I was dissatisfied with my work income and went to Singapore for three years.

This is another choice, either stay in your new job or go back to China. So, she chose to continue her studies and went to France for two years. Go back to the beginning.

She went back to China and got her first job with a tax of 9600. This is the probation salary for half a year. This made her feel bored and her visa was about to expire, so she went back to Europe. Then work in Germany and get married.

The whole process was decided by herself. Study, work, get married.

As far as I'm concerned, I'm not involved at all. It's entirely her own business. I always mind other people's business at home. Including parents.

As for personal pension, as I said, it is not a matter to have money to support the elderly. In addition, I am eligible to apply for a green card to Germany. Of course, I'm unlikely to go. If it is an English-speaking country, I will pick up English and get familiar with it. I should be able to handle it every day. German is really a complete shame.

Personally, I feel more at ease in a foreign country if I have the ability. I don't have a domestic background, so it's too difficult to get along well. For example, my child can speak several languages and Chinese, which has great advantages. Her salary is higher than that of most local people, and she has many opportunities, because big enterprises in China have the need to live in Germany. Need to hire someone like her. Similarly, big German companies need people like her to contact China. For her, staying in Germany is the right choice. Besides, making money is very comfortable. The pressure is not great. The treatment is good. There is also paid annual leave, more than one year and one month's salary.

If you earn the same amount of money at home, you will be as tired as your grandson. How is she? She has the courage to sign up for the marathon. I signed up for triathlon again. If you go back to China, it's almost impossible. Quality of life is actually two kinds of results.

She is a self-funded international student. If she doesn't sing high-profile, that's understandable. In my opinion, China is not much more than her, but much less than her. This is not a talent. The ability is only enough to make a living. If you don't keep dragging your parents down, you will win. Ordinary people are not qualified to sing high-profile songs.

In short, how to choose is a matter for international students. Parents had better stay out of it.

It will clear up when the children are all well.

As a mother, I will answer this question, and my answer is yes. I support my children to settle in any country in the world. As long as my son is happy and successful, can become a useful person and does not cause trouble to the country or society, I will support him wherever he goes.

There are two reasons:

First, we have children, not for ourselves, but for mankind. When the children grow up, our task as parents will be completed. We are lucky that the children can get care and support from our own side. If no one takes care of it, choosing to go to a nursing home is also a big trend in the future.

Second, parents' love for their children is far-reaching. The greatest love in the world is the love of parents for their children. Parents are used to making long-term plans for their children and trying to find a good future for them.

When my son was very young, I began to plan his growth route. My parents' beloved son has planned for him from the moment he has a child. Many parents around me are like this. They work hard for their children. As long as their children are good, they will be happy.

It is human nature for parents to love their children, but how many parents' love hurts their children?

Although parents are elders, they may not be able to handle everything clearly, but they also have their limitations.

My niece graduated from 985 prestigious universities in China and studied in Australia. After graduation, she stayed in the local area and resolutely refused to return to China! I'm 35 years old, I'm not in love or married, and I travel around the world during various holidays every year. If she is financially independent, she can do whatever she likes, so I won't complain here. The point is, she's still eating! Both parents are working class. My mother retired and found another job, and she couldn't bear to eat and wear. They tightened their belts just to give their daughter a house in Australia! With her major and work experience, it is easy to find a job with an annual salary of more than 300,000 in first-tier cities in China. It is not difficult to relieve financial difficulties in a few years, but whenever she asks why she doesn't go back to China? She would say: Life in Australia is slow, comfortable and comfortable. The domestic rhythm is too fast for 996 to stand! But have you thought about your parents? When they should support themselves, they should work hard to save the down payment for your house. You fly around every year just for a happy holiday, and a plane ticket costs your mother half a year's hard work? They dare not let you know that they are sick in China and are unwilling to go to a big hospital for treatment? Looking at grandchildren of the same age around their knees, children are worried and filial, and they only have admiration and grief? It's not selfish. What is this? You only think about yourself. Have you ever thought about this old man who has been thinking about you all his life? What do you mean, give children freedom! Freedom is based on economic independence and financial freedom, okay? ? People who eat old people have no right to say freedom! ! !

There's no point in saying so much! Why? Because their parents like it? I am very happy!

Studying abroad is an important form of education at present. International students generally face two choices after graduation, whether to stay abroad or return to work. These two choices are also a dilemma for children. Staying abroad means that you may leave your hometown, and you may face no good development when you return home. So, how should parents treat their children's choices? If I want to, I can consider the following aspects:

First, going abroad is the only way to cultivate international talents. With the development of diversification in the world, it is the general trend for students to study abroad. This is not only the wish of many children, but also the demand of society. Therefore, being able to go abroad is generally beneficial to the development of children. Of course, there is no need to let children go abroad too early. My suggestion is that it is best to go abroad for postgraduate study.

Second, the choice of children in the future is a child's business. There is a concept in China that raising children for old age means helping them when they are too old to move in the future. However, with more and more students studying abroad, this concept has gradually faded in children's minds. When they choose employment, they think more about career development and personal future development. They seldom think about their parents' future. Parents should also change their ideas. Whether their children are happy in the future is the basis of their choice, not whether their parents are happy as the standard for their children to choose their future life. Because these children have lived abroad for a long time, their ideas have changed, and it is difficult for them to follow the tradition.

Third, parents also have the freedom to choose. With the development of China's economy and society, whether children stay abroad is not a big problem. Parents can go abroad at any time. During my visit to America, I met many parents of migratory birds. Their children have got a green card in the United States, and their parents have retired in China. At this time, most parents choose to stay in China for half a year and stay in the United States for half a year. Because of the visa problem, tourist visas can only stay in the United States for half a year. In addition, the current travel expenses are not expensive. To tell the truth, the cheapest way to and from the United States in the off-season is 3000 yuan (Beijing to Washington).

Therefore, it is a child's development problem for children to study abroad, and parents can't stand it. They can go abroad at any time as long as their health permits. Moreover, according to the regulations of some countries, children whose parents have reached a certain age abroad can also apply for a green card and live permanently abroad. It depends on your choice.

Let me go. It doesn't matter whether you are a citizen of the world or a villager of the earth. Children can go anywhere as long as they want. The big deal is to go to his house several times while his legs and feet are still good. How can you tie a child to your belt? ! As adults, children are the masters! 1994, my son just entered the university, and Singapore is willing to provide all the expenses for the new undergraduate stage, with full rewards to ensure a job, and only requires five years of service after graduation. He refused and we agreed with him. In 200 1 year, he interrupted his master's and doctoral studies and wanted to go abroad at his own expense. We also agree with him that he naturally won the full prize. He will stay in America after graduation, which is no problem for us, as long as you are happy. What is the use of a child who can't be independent? !

200 1 After graduating from high school, the children went to study in European countries. After graduation, they worked in a local company for three years. At the same time, they became nationals of that country and started their own company. I support his choice not to return to China, which is also the purpose of sending him to study abroad. For example, he went to college in China, and now he is at most a migrant worker in a private enterprise.

As a parent, I certainly hope my children can go back to China and stay with them. What's more, most of our generation are only children. When middle-aged people are carefree, children don't feel lonely even if they are not around, but with the growth of age, physical function and physical fitness decline, naturally there will be many things that can't be done. At this time, children will be taken care of.

But we have to consider children's own ideas, because they have their own independent personality, their own life goals and plans. Parents will respect their children's opinions if they insist on staying abroad. After all, parents can't fully participate in their children's lives.

We can only give them advice and let them know that the domestic economy is developing rapidly and there are more opportunities to play their potential. If they want to work hard and achieve a brilliant life, it is wise to return to China for development.

My son asked to study abroad. I have one condition: don't come back when you go out, and don't go out when you want to come back after studying. Now my son has worked in Canada for more than two years after graduation and received an invitation to immigrate.

The subject asked, if I train a child to study abroad, can I tolerate the child not returning home? The answer is definitely unbearable.

Why do you say that? There are several reasons:

1. Standing at the national level: At present, China has made great progress in many fields, such as high-speed rail, unmanned aerial vehicles, Huawei's 5G technology and infrastructure. But at the same time, China still has a long way to go in other fields, such as medicine, physics, chemistry, big data, chips and so on. It is better to look up at the sky than to work hard. It is better to stand on the shoulders of giants, so that you can walk faster and see farther. Therefore, I let my son study abroad in order to return to China one day and "learn from foreigners and learn from them", rather than not returning home. If that's the case, if he doesn't go back to China and serve other countries after his studies, it's against our original intention, and I'm sure I can't stand it.

Second, from a personal point of view: I agree that children go abroad to study in the hope that they can feel foreign cultures, broaden their horizons, cultivate the ability to live independently, and cultivate strong willpower, so that he can make progress in life and study, which is believed to be beneficial to his future development. After all, children have mastered a basic skill-the language is superior, and it will be relatively easier to find a job. I believe he will create his own happy life on his own, and he will be more patient in educating his children in the future. And we will have something to rely on when we are old. And if he doesn't return to China after finishing his studies, the children I have worked so hard to raise and cultivate will become foreigners, which is unacceptable to me psychologically anyway; What is even more unacceptable is that we are old, sick and our children are not around. Think about how bleak it is. So on a personal level, I can't accept it either.

But at the same time, children are born an independent life, and the purpose of parents' training children is to make them live independently, especially to train their children to study abroad. Therefore, since the love between parents and children is destined to be gradually separated, we must know how to leave gracefully. Therefore, although I hope my child can return to China after school, if he doesn't want to return to China, our parents can't force him. On the contrary, we should always wish our children happy work, health and happiness.

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Thanks for reading the comments.

Can bear it.

Take children's ideals and happiness as the standard.

As long as the child is healthy and happy, knows what he wants and why he is fighting, I will support her to pursue even if Qian Shan stops her, and I will provide all conditions to help her realize it. I will also open my wings and hug her when she is frustrated, and I will always leave a lamp and a bed for her to rest.

Love is not what I want.

On the contrary, she is happy.