Married for 3 1 year, my husband cheated many times. What happened to the wife who chose to forgive?

Let me tell you a little story. A girl 16 years old is in love. This love lasted for 8 years. After careful consideration, she married her boyfriend.

Since then, 3 1 year. Although there are no children, their careers are developing well, and both husband and wife have strong economic strength. Now people are middle-aged and have money and leisure.

This kind of life looks beautiful. 16 years old, you enjoy the beauty of love. In your twenties, you entered the marriage hall. After more than 30 years, you will have a pair of lifelong partners. That's it.

But would you be surprised if I told you that behind this marriage, the husband has been cheating and the wife has been forgiving, especially since the wife has her own career, and they have no children, and they can bear the husband's cheating again and again?

It sounds strange, but I don't think it's true.

But this story is true, and its prototype is the Hong Kong actress Cecilia Yip.

When Cecilia Yip is mentioned, many people will think of Xu Xian in The Legend of the New White Snake.

Cecilia Yip's husband Chen Guoxi is a veteran Hong Kong filmmaker, businessman and photographer. Cecilia Yip/kloc-was an advertising model at the age of 0/6, and Chen Guoxi was an assistant advertising director. They met and fell in love and got married in Paris eight years later.

After the marriage, Cecilia Yip's husband was repeatedly cheated by the media, including Taiwan Province actress Anya and Anita Mui's former agent Wang Huimin.

When asked by the media, Cecilia Yip always chooses to support her husband. Once, she jokingly replied, "I think it must be because a big bottle of peach blossoms was inserted at home during the Spring Festival. They are all peach blossoms! "

Another response is: "If the other party is willing to lie to you, that is, the other party is still nervous about you, it is worth doing business."

In a word, since 1988 got married, Cecilia Yip has repeatedly chosen to forgive her husband's infidelity.

Many people think that as long as a man has cheated once, he will have a second and third time as a wife, and it is absolutely unforgivable for his husband to cheat.

In fact, in today's increasingly high derailment rate, many wives will still choose to forgive their husbands for cheating.

Although cheating men are all the same scum, it is different for women to forgive cheating men.

The first situation is passive forgiveness.

This type of woman, because of the objective environment, can't resist her husband's infidelity and can only endure it silently.

For example, due to economic reasons, the husband is the main source of family income. If divorced, the wife cannot live independently for the time being.

Now many voices are urging women to be economically independent, but economic independence will not happen overnight.

Not every woman can be a full-time wife for many years like Luo Zijun of Lili in The First Half of Life. After the divorce, she was accompanied by a girlfriend with high income and high IQ like Tang Jing, and loved and protected by Gao Fushuai like He Han.

In reality, it is difficult for most women who have no income or low income for many years to achieve economic counterattack quickly. Even if you are hardworking, smart and studious, you should have a chance.

Due to objective circumstances, a wife who chooses to forgive does not really forgive her husband. They just suppress their hatred and resentment, and once it breaks out, it will be terrible.

In A Dream of Red Mansions, Jia Lian is as tough as Wang Xifeng, cheating again and again. Due to the persuasion of Jia Mu and the restriction of marriage form in ancient society, it seems that there is no choice but to make a big scene.

But she later forced Jia Lian's concubine, Second Sister You, to death, which was an outbreak.

Most wives who forgive passive husbands have no initiative in marriage.

If the husband does not reflect on the harm he has done to his wife, he will continue to cheat without fear. Such a marriage does great harm to the wife's body and mind.

The second situation is active forgiveness.

Such women have no objective conditions and independent economic ability, and care more about the integrity of marriage than the harm caused by their husbands' infidelity.

For example, Cecilia Yip was very successful in his career. Xu Xian in The Legend of the New White Snake is almost a generation's childhood memory. She won an Oscar for the film Seven Days of Love.

There is also a small S who has his own career. She also chose to forgive her husband for every infidelity.

Unlike Xiao S, who has three daughters, there is also the daughter factor to consider whether to divorce.

Cecilia Yip and Chen Guoxi have been married for 3 1 year and have no children. Forgiving an unfaithful husband is an option for Cecilia Yip.

Women who voluntarily forgive are angry in the eyes of onlookers, but they don't care. They feel good about their married life, and it is meaningless for others to say more.

Most importantly, such women have more initiative and voice in marriage, which is often said on the Internet: "I can forgive you or change you."

A typical example is the marriage of Ma Yili and Wen. At that time, we can say "Do it well and cherish it" and choose to forgive the article. Now, we can also say "after that, everyone is happy" and live our own lives smartly.

Women who are also hurt by their husbands' infidelity and take the initiative to forgive them have a higher degree of control over their own lives and have room for advancement and retreat. Marriage is a way of life for them.

However, in any case, cheating on her husband is very harmful to her wife.

The wife of the forgiven husband should not only maintain the feelings of marriage and family, but also heal the harm caused by betrayal in marriage.

At this time, the attitude of the husband is very critical.

After a man chooses to cheat, he doesn't want to leave his wife, so he needs to bear his wife's negative emotions completely.

A friend of mine told me that she first knew the day when her husband cheated on me. She felt as if she had been stimulated. As long as she sees reports about extramarital affairs, she will think of herself, then make a scene with her husband and even insult him.

Every time she loses her temper, she feels terrible, but her husband has been suffering, always feeling sorry for his wife and always trying to compensate her twice.

When it just happened, my friend told me that my husband was cheating on me, and I couldn't help crying. Now that a few years have passed, it is too light to carry.

She said that she chose to forgive because her husband sincerely apologized and the economic conditions could not live alone.

More importantly, the two talked in depth several times and reached a consensus: they still want to maintain this marriage.

Under this premise, the wife tries to heal the hurt caused by betrayal, and the husband actively cooperates, so that the wife can feel his contribution and change to the family.

If extramarital affairs are a crisis in marriage, then if you want to continue to maintain marriage, you need both husband and wife to work together to tide over this crisis. It is impossible to rely on the efforts of only one party.

Everyone has their own requirements and standards for marriage.

Whether or not to forgive the cheating husband is a choice made by the wife according to her own situation, but the result of the choice has a great relationship with her husband's attitude in later life.