Only when you have dreams in your heart, you must be harsh on yourself

Text/Little Man Yao

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When you were twenty, you said, "I have a dream. When I am thirty, I will open a restaurant." The bakery sells homemade pastries and brewed coffee. "For this reason, you went to baking school. I rushed to a few classes and then got a little tired: "Oh, I finally made it to the weekend. I'm too tired. I want to have a good rest, so I won't go to study this time."

But morale deteriorated again. I was exhausted, and gradually I didn't want to go anymore: "My best friend made an appointment to go shopping together, so let's take a day off. We haven't seen each other for a long time."; "I'd better stay at home with my boyfriend, otherwise he will have objections." ; "It's 40 degrees hot outside, how can I crack it if I don't want to go out?"; "Why is it so troublesome to learn baking? I'd better not take it seriously and just treat it as a hobby."

You said I wanted to open a photography studio for a few years, but I bought a lot of professional lenses, but my photography skills never improved. Well, how can there be progress? I never had time to read the relevant books I borrowed from the library, so I put them back until the expiration date and returned them intact; I went to various photography forums a few times but never went again because I was too busy with work; I also used the lenses I bought for It was gathering dust. When I took it out to take pictures, I thought it was too heavy and it was too troublesome to change the lens.

Now, it’s finally the time you agreed with yourself, but you’re still working a nine-to-five job that doesn’t hurt or surprise you. The bakery photography studio is still your dream, you just don’t quite believe it will come true in your lifetime.

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Recently I met a little girl who is in her third year of college. She is in her early twenties and has very clear plans for the future. Her goal is to have her own radio station and be a nightly broadcaster. A late-night anchor who accompanies everyone with his voice. She majored in science and engineering, but she wanted to make a living by broadcasting. She knew the hardships.

At the beginning of her freshman year, she continued to exercise and correct herself by doing some part-time jobs dubbing movies and animations. For the few minutes of audio that everyone heard, she did not know how many times she recorded it behind her back and how much she spent. time. After the public account became popular, she often recorded for some tubas, slowly accumulated experience, and brought many fans.

In the past few years, she got up on time at five o'clock every morning and walked around the playground to record the new program; at night after the dormitory lights were turned off and her classmates were asleep, she still She reads scripts, articles, and lines on the computer to prepare for the next day's recording; while others are going out to play during the holidays, she has to stay behind to edit and record. After the radio station started, she wrote articles, recorded manuscripts, edited and promoted it all by herself. It was common for her to stay up all night.

Some people have a bad impression of those born in the 1990s, thinking that they are spoiled and cannot bear hardships. But in fact, the people born in the 1990s that I came into contact with are really hard-working. As long as they do something they believe in, they have to grit their teeth and do it well no matter how tired or hard it is.

Perhaps you will say that it is good to be young, full of energy and can do anything, but compared with them, you feel older. In fact, age is not the biggest difference between you and them. You are really old when you lose the determination and ability to work hard for your dreams.

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I think of a friend who used to work in human resources. He has been fond of handicrafts since he was a child. After working for two years, I came across patchwork by chance and was out of control.

This is a hobby that costs money and time. In the first year of contact, she spent all her salary on related learning. Patchwork materials and tools are imported and very expensive, and the tuition for certificate classes costs tens of thousands. She works hard on weekdays just to save money and use it in this thing she loves. After get off work, she would sit at home and do needlework. The needle inserts on the table, cushions, quilt covers, handbags, and knitted tops are all her masterpieces.

After receiving the certificate, she quickly resigned and opened a handicraft studio with another friend. When I met her, the studio had just been established for a year. Less than ten students came to class every week, and they were so worried that they couldn't sleep at night. Now five years later, her course range has expanded from patchwork to crochet, embroidery, and Zentangle. She has hired several teachers. Her Weibo has attracted hundreds of thousands of fans, and her profits are very good. But she is even busier. She also cooperates with some quilting studios in other cities and gives lessons from time to time.

I asked her what’s the secret to her doing so well in the past few years, and she smiled and said no, just endless diligence and perseverance. When I started my business, I carried several large boxes of materials and works to various exhibitions to promote business. I was reluctant to take a taxi and only took public transportation. I often travel to several cities to give lectures in a row, taking an early morning flight and then a late night flight to another city, and only sleep for two or three hours at night.

When I have a few free hours on weekends, I can’t rest peacefully. I either sit at the workbench to perfect the finished product, or confirm with other studios about the next week. Even when I have nothing to do, I feel guilty inside and feel so depraved. I think anyone who has ever started a business can understand this sadistic feeling.

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In fact, how can this be said to be degeneration? I work harder than others on weekdays, and I am extremely busy on weekends because of the large number of students. I spend far more time in the studio than at home. I rarely sit down to have a serious meal, and I don’t even have time to fall in love.

Probably because I still have dreams, I am so harsh on myself.

When you are twenty years old and have a dream, but give up because of your laziness; when you are thirty years old and see others struggling for their dream career and living a hard but vigorous life, All you have left is envy and regret.

Some people may ask, life is short, why should we be so harsh on ourselves?

Dreams are not realized by dreams and thoughts. Many people lie in bed at night and think smugly, I will not go on like this tomorrow, and then fall asleep with wild imagination. When they wake up the next day, it is still the same, doing reports, browsing the web, browsing Taobao, and breathing a sigh of relief when they get off work. : Alas, another day has passed.

I am harsh on myself because I don’t want to be a person who can only dream.

While your dream is still there, don’t let this good time pass you by.