What do you think about cheating?

On the afternoon of January 9, Zhuo Wei’s apprentice broke the news that Chen Sicheng was revealed to have spent the night with two women in the presidential suite late at night. Two women walked into Chen Sicheng's room one after another. When Chen Sicheng opened the door for the second woman, his original black coat had been replaced by a white bathrobe. The reporter waited outside the door until the next day, and then waited until Chen Sicheng came out.

At the beginning of the new year, another piece of suspected cheating news broke out, instantly blowing up the entire Weibo and circle of friends.

I can’t help but recall that in the 2016 entertainment events that we just said goodbye to, the word “cheating” seems to have become a high-frequency word last year.

First came the "Wang Baoqiang divorce case" and then the "Lin Dan cheating case". The cheating of celebrities is particularly eye-catching.

In fact, regardless of the aura and public image of celebrities, these may be just a few of the thousands of cheating cases.

To be honest, cheating is nothing new. In the married life of ordinary people, not most can be truly happy and contented until they grow old.

Nowadays, many people hope that they can enter marriage with love. But in fact, a marriage based on love cannot guarantee that you will live a happy life after marriage, nor can it guarantee that you will not have to face and bear any risks.

To be honest, haven’t you ever worried that your partner might cheat on you?

My friend’s aunt did not choose to work after graduating from college. Instead, she married her then college boyfriend and followed him back to her hometown.

Her boyfriend plans to start a business and open a photography studio. The young aunt could not find a professional job in a third-tier city like his hometown, so she planned to help her husband take care of the family and help run the photography studio when she had time.

Not long after they got married, the little aunt got pregnant successfully. The whole family was very happy, especially her husband, who took great care of her. Later, after giving birth to the child, the little aunt focused on taking care of the child and never went to the photography studio again.

My husband's business is getting better and better, and he is getting busier and busier. It is common for him to leave early and come home late. Sometimes he will work all night to take on wedding work and stay up all night.

Of course the little aunt understands very well and feels sorry for her husband without any complaints.

But as time went by, the little aunt gradually realized that something was wrong with her husband. Her husband's attitude towards her was obviously not as good as before, and he came home less and less often.

It has to be said that a woman’s sixth sense is really accurate. As expected, her husband is having an affair.

The little aunt was crying and clamoring for a divorce, feeling that the sky was about to fall.

The husband was patient and tried to save her at first, but once the man changed his mind, the marriage changed.

In the end, the marriage was divorced, and the little aunt returned to her hometown alone with her children. Because she had no savings, she had to keep looking for jobs. But because she had no work experience and connections, she could not find a comfortable and decent job. She could only rely on the money she earned from occasional odd jobs and support from relatives and friends to barely support herself and her children.

Admittedly, this is a tragedy of marriage. At the same time, I think this is also a tragedy in life.

Choose to be devoted to a man and love him too much. Once he cheats on you and abandons you, you won’t even have a way out. If you choose to divorce, life will only become more miserable as you live; if you choose not to divorce, how can a marriage that has changed its quality be a happy life?

I read a story on Zhihu.

A woman discovered that her husband was cheating on her during her pregnancy. Her relatives and friends all advised her to forgive her husband. After all, it is so common in today’s society for men to not be able to control their lower bodies. She had to endure the humiliation and give birth to the child first. Say it again.

But she did not want to wrong herself and decided to divorce her husband during her pregnancy.

No need to discuss.

After the divorce, she gave birth to the child alone and hired a nanny to help take care of the child, while she devoted herself to running the flower shop.

It has always been her wish to open a flower shop. After working for a few years and having some savings, she quit her job and started working. She opened it before she got married and named it "Alice's Colorful World". "Business has always been good.

Today, she is bathed in the ocean of sunshine and flowers every day, and lives a happy and fulfilling life.

When it comes to divorce, she is always very indifferent: "Marriage is not everything in life, and you don't have to be desperate. The failure of marriage does not mean the failure of life. Now I have a career, a dream, a baby, and I am living a good life." ."

At the bottom of the post is a photo of this single mother and her baby, with a bright and beautiful smile, which made me think of the word "growing up in the sun".

Like a beautiful sunflower, she is proud and unwilling to bow her head, and she can finally bloom the most brilliant smile.

Everyone praised her one after another. Indeed, such a positive girl will not let her life lead to misfortune even if she encounters an unfortunate marriage. Instead, she will work hard to get better and better.

Everyone must have heard of the love story between Sanmao and Jose.

José pursued Sanmao for many years before getting along with Sanmao day and night. But such a warm and sweet love has never been in crisis.

The crisis is that Jose also had a "mental cheating".

José and Sanmao had been married for four years. Once, they went to Spain alone to participate in a nineteen-day deep-sea diving training. During the process, they met a woman, which made José's heart beat wildly. He confessed to Sanmao that if he hadn't been married, he might have cheated on her. After Sanmao learned about it, she felt very complicated. After thinking about it, she calmly discussed with José whether she should leave for a while and let José try to get along with the woman. If it was true love, she would be willing to quit.

José was deeply moved by Sanmao's rare magnanimity. The two embraced each other tightly, and together they maintained the loyalty of their marriage.

I think the reason why Sanmao has such a big belly is that she has such confidence.

It is precisely because even if she quits the marriage, it will not have a great negative impact on herself, she dares to show her courage and responsibility openly.

If your life is about to collapse after you quit your marriage, who would dare to quit?

To be honest, cheating can happen to anyone. People who fall in love before marriage may also cheat. It is normal to worry.

However, marriage is not everything in life, and it cannot be perfect. Instead of worrying and being cautious, it is better to be down-to-earth and improve your ability to resist risks.

I think every girl should learn from Sanmao and treat marriage with an attitude of "two people are good and one is not bad" and practice it. Have a strong heart, improve your life skills, manage your life well, and live a beautiful life.

We all need to have the confidence to be proud.

So, even if one day our marriage really faces a crisis, we can face it with pride and calmness without worrying that the crisis will knock us down.

A post-90s generation who is worried about helping college students grow up