The way you are alone reveals your hierarchy.

"One Hundred Years of Solitude" said: "Life will eventually be a lonely journey. Before loneliness is confusion, after loneliness is growth. "

Loneliness is inevitable, but the way a person is alone can tell his level.

lonely

Is a normal life.

When I was chatting with a friend some time ago, he said something that I still remember: the loneliness of a big city has nothing to say, and the loneliness of a small city has nothing to say.

He said that in big cities, there are thousands of friends in the circle of friends, but every time I feel sad and helpless, I can't find someone to talk to.

Obviously, the city is so prosperous and the streets are so crowded, but it doesn't belong to you.

After graduation, he drifted away from his former good friends, some no longer shared the same frequency with himself, and some were busy with their careers and families.

My girlfriend who once said that she would go to the end also left herself and became a stranger.

Work is still hard and tiring, and no one cares about going home.

Big cities can't stay, and small cities are also very wronged.

After returning home, the neighbors are talking about their parents' shortcomings and can't speak for themselves.

No one understands the dream I have been thinking about.

This is probably a "lonely portrayal" of many people.

The more you grow up, the more lonely you get. There are some things you can't say and some things you can't finish.

I like a passage very much, "a person's life can be dull, boring and stagnant, or it can be a full, wonderful and colorful adventure."

Although loneliness is the norm, you can live a wonderful life and be yourself.

The way you are alone reveals your hierarchy.

Learn to be alone

Outstanding talent

Only by learning to be alone can you get a wonderful life.

Xiaoxi is a workplace clerk.

She resigned last year because she didn't like her job.

But she didn't look for a job for a whole year.

During this period, someone was worried about her state and asked her, "When can you find a job?"

She said, "Don't worry, I still have some savings. I have my own plans."

A year later, she suddenly announced good news, entered a listed company, did what she loved, and got a satisfactory salary.

It turns out that she didn't waste her time this year, but spent all her time on improving herself.

She goes to bed early and gets up early every day, exercises, keeps reading and studies courses.

When friends saw her, they all felt that she was a different person. The whole person was radiant and her image, temperament and behavior were completely upgraded.

She said: "It takes a lot of time and energy to work hard for your dreams. During this time, I sometimes feel lonely, but I also enjoy the full time of being alone. It was during this time that I became what I liked. "

A person's solitude allows you to dig deep and find your truest self.

As Chen Guo, a teacher at Fudan University, said in "Beautiful Loneliness":

"Good loneliness is a person's poetic dwelling;

Let you stay away from the noise of the outside world, return to inner peace and see yourself clearly;

Being good at loneliness stems from the richness of thoughts and is the spontaneous spiritual wandering of thinkers. "

Ding Junhui is the world champion of billiards, but in the past, he also grew up in loneliness.

He has been practicing billiards since he was eight years old. When he was at school, he always wanted to play ball after class every day, but no classmates followed him. He once practiced basic skills alone in the training room for a whole year, twelve hours a day.

It is also such efforts that have made him what he is today. At the age of 65,438+065,438+0, his single shot was broken. 15 years old, became the first world billiards champion in China. 19 years old, broke the world record of 2 1 and beat O 'Sullivan, who ranked first in the world.

Ding Junhui once said in his speech: "In fact, efforts do not need to be shown to others. When a person is working hard, he can not take part in other activities in his spare time. You think this person is really unsociable. In fact, he may be doing other things. He is not a loner. He is just doing what he wants to do. "

People who know how to be alone will devote time to love and enjoy the lonely time.

The poet Sato said in the Diary of Living Alone:

"I was alone for the first time in weeks, and I picked up my real life. Strangely, friends and love are not my real life. Only this kind of loneliness. "

Everyone has time to be alone, and what you do when you are alone determines your future gains.

In the face of wishes, it is possible to grow successfully by calming down, not being disturbed by too many external voices, and spending time on self-improvement.

Only by learning to be alone can you excel.

Low quality social intercourse

It's better to be alone with high quality.

People who are good at being alone are less likely to feel lonely. They will arrange all kinds of things for themselves and enjoy it.

I like Haruki Murakami very much, not only his works, but also his personality.

He is a person who likes to be alone very much. He gets up at 5 o'clock every morning and goes to bed before 10 at night. He can't move and leads a regular life.

He will finish the most important work of the day when his brain is clear in the morning.

Then use other time to read books, exercise, listen to music and so on.

He spends most of his time on himself. Maybe many people feel lonely, but in fact he enjoys it.

Because of this, he created many famous works of high quality.

When a person is alone, he can know more about what he wants;

Only learn to listen to your inner voice, stick to your own direction and work hard for your future.

Xiaoxiao insists on getting up at 7 o'clock every day, sending her daughter to school and going to the gym to exercise;

Then go to work, go home to cook, and read at night;

Work hard at ordinary times, run and practice yoga in your spare time, keep in good shape, and go to bed on time at night 1 1.

Many times, colleagues and friends invited her out to participate in activities. At first, she went to participate several times, but found it really meaningless, and later refused most of the activities.

Instead, I am free and more comfortable.

Psychologist Anthony? Too much involvement in interpersonal relationships will alienate us more and more, Stoll said.

Many times, it is better to socialize quietly with low quality than to be alone with high quality.

Loneliness is the best period of appreciation. Unfortunately, the time spent alone will eventually decrease with age.

The more mature and independent people are in life, the less they care about worthless entertainment.

A person can't make you happy forever, but he can make you feel at ease in your own world and not panic when things happen.

The train of life to the grave will pass through many stops, and no one can accompany us from beginning to end.

So we should learn to accept loneliness and learn to be alone with high quality.

"Who is in charge of my youth" said: "A person has at least one dream and a strong reason. If the heart has no place to live, it will wander around. "

May we all become people who enjoy loneliness, pursue our dreams and be our truest selves.

About the author: This article starts with Uncle Parr (ID: Dashu 259), a single and beautiful uncle who combines reason and emotion. He is funny and warm-hearted, and focuses on weaving girls' dreams at night. Uncle WeChat: mmd 1 1 166, welcome.