Zhang Ailing's parents have different views on love and their marriage is unfortunate, which has affected Zhang Ailing's view on love.

sometimes money doesn't necessarily lead to happiness, because sometimes people use money, but sometimes money also uses people. Money can bring you plenty of life, even get drunk, so that you can slowly lose yourself and find no purpose and meaning in life.

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Huang Yifan, Zhang Ailing's mother, and Zhang Zhiyi, her father, acted as matchmakers. The combination of the two men was regarded as golden couple and love in the city, which once became a much-told story.

But they have different views. His father, Zhang Zhiyi, has some bad habits of aristocratic young masters, such as smoking opium, taking concubines with actors and gambling.

deeply influenced by new ideas, Huang Yifan not only dresses fashionably, but also studies elegant art hard, such as playing the piano, learning foreign languages and even cutting clothes himself.

Their different hobbies also doomed their marriage to be disharmony and full of holes.

I didn't expect Zhang Zhiyi to take a concubine outside, and the other party is still a prostitute.

a tree needs skin, but a man needs face. It stands to reason that the Zhang family was a rich family at that time, and her husband took a prostitute as his concubine outside, which was a big blow to the original wife.

are you not as good as a prostitute outside? So the contradiction between the two people is getting deeper and deeper. Small quarrels are commonplace, and occasionally there is a big quarrel every three days.

In p>1924, Zhang Maoyuan, Zhang Ailing's aunt, wanted to study abroad, and Huang Yifan used this as an excuse to accompany her. Despite her husband's reluctance, Huang Yifan has made up his mind, and there is also a lot of anger in it, so the gap between them is getting bigger.

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As soon as Huang Yifan left, Zhang Zhiyi took his concubine home, but they lived together for several years without giving birth to a son and a half.

The servants at home always make irresponsible remarks. There are more and more quarrels between her and Zhang Zhiyi. Once, she even picked up a spittoon and threw it at Zhang Zhiyi, which immediately caused a lot of blood on her head, and she was driven out of the compound.

As a stepmother, she took care of everyone at home, managed the housework, worked hard, and was finally kicked out.

At that time, only the daughters of poor families were sold into brothels, with insufficient knowledge and low emotional intelligence. Instead of recognizing their own environment at that time, they made excessive behavior, which would only make things worse and worse, and finally led to such a helpless result.

As a prostitute of humble origin, it was lucky to find a rich family and get rid of the suffering. I thought I could change my fate, but I didn't expect that after a few years of stable fate, I was not only old and faded, but also couldn't get rid of being abandoned.

It seems that in that special era, it is really a problem for the poor to change their destiny.

It's an idiotic dream to pray for a stable and peaceful life with a little love from a man.

The only hope is that no matter how you face the future or how fate changes, you should always face it calmly. After all, life will continue.

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Later, Zhang Ailing's father took the initiative to write a letter to Huang Yifan, hoping that she would return to China, and made it clear in his letter that he would never smoke heavy cigarettes and never take concubines again.

Huang Yifan finally came back, and Zhang Zhiyi was happy. However, after returning to China, Huang Yifan found that her husband had not changed. On the contrary, she was influenced by western thoughts in foreign countries, and her thoughts became more fashionable and avant-garde, and the gap between them became wider.

Huang Yifan likes painting and photography again. In order to limit his wife, Zhang Zhiyi decided to engage in economic dictatorship and limit his wife's consumption.

But he couldn't help himself to the wall. Perhaps he was desperate for his wife to come back and went to the brothel again to smoke opium.

finally, Huang Yifan couldn't bear it any longer, and they agreed to divorce.

Although Zhang Zhiyi doesn't agree at all, Huang Yifan is very firm. At this point, it is a great pity that the two people changed from the initial golden couple to a broken marriage that often quarreled, and finally parted ways, but they hated Zhang Zhiyi and angered his misfortune.

Perhaps the fundamental reason for the disintegration of this marriage is just considering the material suitability and spiritual inequality.

they have different ideological realms and completely different hobbies. The woman is positive, accepts a lot of new ideas and changes, while the man is pedantic, conservative, degenerate and even smokes cigarettes, which is fatal to any family.

Although the man loves the woman deeply, love alone is not enough. No woman with new ideas can bear to communicate with a Woodenhead and live under the same roof with a concubine.

The man may have found the problem in his heart, but he never said anything about the change, but he didn't implement it.

it's easy for a man to say it, which is also the reason why many marriages are broken up.

falling in love is easier than getting along, and different views are the biggest reasons why marriage is unsustainable.

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What is the biggest purpose of marriage? Not all for their own happiness. If marriage can't bring happiness to women from beginning to end, what's the point of having marriage?

There is nothing wrong with Huang Yifan's divorce agreement. Even her daughter Zhang Ailing agrees with their divorce.

Because after all, they quarreled too much, but unfortunately, she and her brother never had a complete family again. Therefore, the failure of marriage is also a very serious blow to children, which will affect their views on love and marriage, and even some children even have to spend their whole lives making up for it. And Zhang Ailing's whole love life is not smooth, and her own brother is unmarried all his life.

in p>1934, Zhang Zhiyi remarried, and her stepmother's name was Sun Yongfan. This was made for him by the leader who worked in a bank. She was her half-sister, but she had a bad temper, so she didn't get married at the age of 36.

But the family status can be said to be a powerful family. Fortunately, she is no longer a prostitute or something like that, and this stepmother can even help Zhang Zhiyi.

However, this is the beginning of Zhang Ailing's nightmare. Her father is very partial to this new wife, and this stepmother often humiliates her and her brother, and even often complains in front of her father.

Once it was because Zhang Ailing moved in with her mother. When I came home, I happened to meet my stepmother, who said that she didn't say anything to herself, thinking that she didn't have the majesty and respect of her stepmother in her eyes, so she reached out and slapped me.

Zhang Ailing's long-standing resentment was suddenly angered, and she was about to strike back, but the servant caught her hand. Then the stepmother was unwilling and went upstairs to complain.

Zhang Fu came down with Zhang Ailing, and without saying anything, he began to punch and kick, yelling, "If you still hit someone, I will hit you." Then she kept slapping Zhang Ailing's face, making Zhang Ailing's eyes see stars and her ears almost deaf.

From then on, Zhang Ailing was also locked in a room by her father, and it was half a year.

until Zhang ailing escaped, it was a complete break with this family.

Before, Zhang's father was very fond of Zhang Ailing, but I didn't expect his stepmother to do evil in the middle, and eventually fathers and daughters was completely disappeared. Finally, Zhang's father wanted to see his daughter before he died, but Zhang Ailing refused.

I wonder if father Zhang summed up his marriage in his later years.

In fact, Zhang's father is also an educated extreme. His mother lost her husband in her early years, but her husband was actually 18 years older than him, so she pinned all her hopes on her son and educated him very strictly since childhood.

It is reasonable to say that according to the imperial examination system in feudal society, Zhang Zhiyi is extremely talented, and it is very likely that he will succeed in the imperial examination and his official career will prosper.

But just after he grew up, the imperial examination system has undergone tremendous changes, and under the strict education of his mother, he taught a traditional and conservative child. He understood his wife's new ideas but he could not accept, absorb and improve them, which doomed them to be people from different worlds.

Not only did he not recognize new ideas, but he also indulged in the old customs of feudal society. Rich family did not let him live a happy life. Instead, he got lost in drunkenness, went to brothels to have fun, even took prostitutes as concubines, gambled, and even contracted opium, the root of all evil. Such a self-indulgent person may not be able to build a happy family even if he is given a good wife and mother.

Conclusion: The happiness of marriage is to see that two people are not one person, so the unfortunate marriage must be because one of them is too backward and the distance between them is too big.

what is the best marriage? You are good, and I am not bad. A person who indulges in the past forever and stands still will only make himself a burden of marriage and an outcast of the times.

and some people, whether in marriage or outside marriage, will manage their own lives with heart and look for the interest of life.

marriage is only a part of his life, but not the whole thing.

Therefore, in this marriage of Zhang Ailing's parents, if people can choose their roles, I would rather be a brave Huang Yifan than a self-indulgent Zhang Zhiyi.