In addition to having a strong heart, "women chasing men" also need to understand these tips

A few days ago, a college friend A who I haven’t contacted for a long time suddenly added me on WeChat and got straight to the point: Brother Qi, I heard that you do relationship analysis, please take my pulse too. They are all worried to death.

When I heard this, I hurriedly comforted you: Don’t be anxious, don’t be anxious, tell me slowly if you have something to do, I will definitely help you if I can. Then A started crying about what happened recently.

It turns out that friend A met a new boy at a party not long ago. They became friends and chatted happily. A found out that he liked the boy and actively pursued him. Before the other party could react, At that time, she bought him clothes and other items and sent them directly to his company. Now the whole company knew about it, and the boy was extremely embarrassed. As a result, not only was he not moved, he even ignored her, which made her extremely anxious.

At first glance, this method of pursuit seems like the barbaric, straightforward and straightforward type of "men chasing women". But how can "women chasing men" be the same as "men chasing women"? The former requires more skills and is the embodiment of dual quotient. Brother Qi will talk about the topic of "women chasing men" tonight.

Some people often say: Girls should never chase boys. Even if they succeed, the other party will not know how to cherish the relationship, because it is not obtained through hard work. As a straight man, Brother Qi needs to say that the above sentence is correct, but not entirely correct.

Why am I right? When we discuss the topic of "women chasing men", it shows that "men chasing women" is the ancient way of thinking that is more consistent with the habit of thinking. Because men have always played the role of conquering the world and expanding territories, while women have always been more passive, forming the mindset of "women take care of the family, men go on the road", so men all have a desire to conquer each other, and this is how they treat relationships. In this way, most men do like to take the initiative to obtain love and have a greater sense of accomplishment.

Why am I not entirely right? When "women chasing men" succeeds, what they are most afraid of is actually meeting a scumbag. There are two types of scumbags mentioned here. One is purely for your body, that is, you take advantage of your heart and he takes advantage of your kidneys, treating you as a "buddy"; the second is purely to relieve the emptiness and loneliness, that is, in his heart. Before I really found the docking port, I happened to meet a proactive you and enjoy the care and thoughtfulness you gave him. I'll look for you to warm me up when I'm lonely, and I'll throw you aside when I'm fine.

It can be seen from this that it is not that the other party does not cherish your feelings at all, but that he has never had so-called love with you from the beginning. What you call success is just that the other party gave you a status. Therefore, the following "Girl Chasing Man" is about the kind of chasing true love.

As mentioned above, "women chasing men" is not a good idea. So, when a girl meets a boy she likes, should she take the initiative? Of course! Of course! Of course! (Say important things three times) Can a "girl chasing a guy" find true love? Of course, there are countless examples around us.

Although it is said that "a man chases a woman over a mountain, and a woman chases a man across a layer of yarn", the latter does seem to have an innate advantage, but the real "woman chasing a man" requires skills and a test of both quotient. As for the strategies and taboos of "women chasing men", Brother Qi will divide them according to the depth of your relationship before the pursuit. The pursuit methods of different relationships are a little different.

Brother Qi will tell you the truth first: The highest state of "a woman chasing a man" is to let the other person slowly become interested in you, and manage the relationship to a state of "mutual liking". In the end, the wallpaper will be broken in one bucket . If the other party shows resistance, then retreat quickly.

1. The relationship between the two: strangers or just acquaintances

Which girl is not pregnant, and which girl is not passionate. It's normal for a girl to suddenly fall in love with a boy on a certain occasion or at a certain time, and she becomes passionate and can't stop. But don't confess your feelings to the other person immediately. Remember, this is a taboo. At the very least, you should establish your presence first and let people know that a person like you is in his sight.

1. Do enough peripheral homework

A reader asked me before: Brother Qi, I fell in love with a junior student during the graduation ceremony. Should she confess her love? I replied to her that the other party didn't know anything about you, so how could she dare to agree to you unless she liked your appearance. After all, there are relatively few stories like "It starts with looks, loyalty to character, and talent."

As a man who lives for three years, Brother Qi has also been chased by girls. I remember one of the girls added me on QQ and confessed her love to me within a short time of chatting. After being rejected by me, she forced her to chat and finally asked In a word, where is your home? MD, I couldn’t laugh or cry on the spot.

Therefore, if you want to pursue a strange boy, you must do enough homework, do preliminary research, and learn to find out about the other person’s social platforms, such as browsing Moments, Weibo, QQ space, and even asking about the other person’s friends. Understand each other's preferences, living habits, thinking style and basic information.

In this way, both parties will not waste time on some basic information, because no one likes to get to know someone like having their household registration checked.

2. Maintain and create a sense of mystery

If you like someone, you will want to talk to them all the time, but if you want to pursue them, you need to exercise restraint! Imagine if you tell the other person everything in a short period of time, then his curiosity about you will weaken and the novelty will be over.

Freshness is the catalyst that keeps both parties talking.

Therefore, the frequency and volume of chats between both parties should be moderate, and a sense of mystery needs to be maintained.

3. You can only feel things face to face

Nowadays, more communication and understanding between men and women are done online. There are certain limitations in the understanding of the other party, that is, the understanding is not three-dimensional enough. Therefore, the phrase "everything is so in line with my heart" is often used to describe the effect of meeting.

Because you have done some peripheral work, you also understand the other person’s emotions, and face-to-face conversations will not be so awkward. In addition, meeting each other can also help you understand the other person and make sure that the person you like is that person, not someone you imagined.

4. Give each other some hints

When you develop to a certain level, if you don’t confess, some boys really won’t notice that you like them, so you need to give them appropriate hints. In other words, let the other person know that you have a crush on him.

In college, a friend had a crush on a boy who played basketball. She heard the boy casually say that he couldn't buy a certain jersey. As a result, she remembered it. When she was shopping, she went to look for it. Finally, she took a photo and told the other person, "You said you wanted to buy a jersey last time. I saw it. Why don't I buy it for you." Of course the boy was very moved and casually said, That girl was so thoughtful that she remembered it. Also because this time the boy started to like the girl, and finally he took the initiative to pursue the girl.

Your hint should give the other person the feeling that you care about him, pay attention to him, and pay attention to his field and life. Create a feeling of "It turns out we have so many similar hobbies, it turns out you are a girl with a heart"

5. This point is suitable for every relationship, I will say it at the end.

2. The relationship between the two parties: colleagues, classmates, friends

In fact, in this kind of relationship between the two parties, if you follow the general straightforward and crude "women chasing men" method, there is actually There is a certain risk, after all, both parties have the same circle of friends and office and learning environment. If not handled properly, it is likely to affect work, study and even social circles.

Seventh Brother joined the school news agency when he was in college. The first club rule was that members were not allowed to fall in love with each other. Later, when I started working, there was an unwritten rule: when employees fell in love, it was best for one of them to resign on his own initiative. In the same way, if the relationship is not handled well, the impact may be huge. But love is above all else. When you meet a colleague or classmate you like, you still have to dare to take action.

1. Detect the other person’s thoughts

As analyzed above, because there is a certain relationship between the two parties, if the other party likes you very much, he will take the initiative to pursue you without waiting for you to take the initiative. . When a girl is ready to take the initiative, the other party usually has two situations: one is that she dislikes you very much and believes that there is no possibility for both parties; the other is that she is not repulsive to you, but if you get to know her better, you may get together.

Therefore, you need some methods to detect and eliminate the first type. If the other party has no interest in you at all, or even feels disgusted, it is wise to let go as soon as possible. This is a wise choice. The method is very simple, try asking the other person to watch a movie, or have a meal or something.

For example: I know if I want to try some delicious food in a certain place, or if I want to see a certain movie when it is released. This method is very simple and effective.

2. Establish a public opinion environment

I don’t know if you still remember it. When I was in junior high school or high school, I would often spread scandals between the two of them, and gradually they would actually get together. This is a psychological suggestion and strengthening effect. In the adult world, it still works.

So you may need to establish a public opinion environment and let people know that "you like the other person, or the other person likes you" and let everyone laugh at your jokes occasionally. The first is to further test whether the other party has left a little bit of position and hope for you. Second, it is easy to plant seeds in the other person's heart. Consciously or unconsciously, everyone thinks "we are a couple."

3. Take the initiative to hint to the other party

Even if you are already friends, classmates, or colleagues, you still need some hints to further develop the relationship.

For example, if a boy is playing basketball and you pass by, you can buy a bottle of water for him. This will set him apart and make the boy think about your intentions.

Or if you go out to meet him on a date, you will dress up more exquisitely than usual. You can even glance at it lovingly while eating. Yes, there shouldn’t be too many details like this. As long as the other person is not stupid, they will feel your different meanings.

3. The relationship between the two: the male god you look up to

In fact, there should be many girls who like male gods. After all, they like someone because they are excellent or dazzling to them. Everyone is crazy about it, that is, neurotic.

This part is also the most difficult of all "women chasing men" situations. After all, you are not on the same level, and your posture is already looking up. But is there no hope? No.

Brother Qi also wants to explain one more thing: The male god in your eyes may just be because you have little experience, so you think the other person is a male god, but in fact, maybe the gap between you will be shortened in a year or two. . Let’s take Brother Seven as an example. During my college years, I was quite busy. I loved photography, making micro-films, writing news, participating in clubs, etc., so some freshman girls regarded me as their male idol. In fact, the gap between us was only 2 years. time.

The male god is like a dazzling sun in your heart, shining so brightly that you can't even open your eyes. If you want to catch him, at least you have to work hard, so hard that you are not afraid of his light, and so hard that he sees your existence and height. Therefore, chasing the male god requires you to work hard.

Brother Qi knew a girl in the writing circle. She fell in love with a male senior senior in her freshman year, but she felt that it was impossible for her to be worthy of her, so she wrote down her inner thoughts in words. Gradually, she regarded writing as a pleasure, and she has been She worked hard for it, graduated this year, published a book, and is a popular author on ONE APP. The former male god was already her reader.

Nowadays, it doesn’t matter whether we are together or not. The important thing is to work hard for the person you like and make yourself better. This process is the most beautiful.

4. You can’t seduce someone you really like.

We often talk about the techniques of seduce girls and men. In fact, if you really like the other person, you can’t even say a word to the other person. You have to speculate for a long time, every time you send a sentence, you have to think for a long time, there is no routine to follow. So, don't suggest those tips.

But there is one thing that Brother Qi, as a straight man, must reveal: if you like the other person, generally "good morning and good night" is a must to actively greet the other person. You may take the initiative to provoke the other person every day. topic. But you have to remember that if the other party takes the initiative to come to you after chatting for a while and occasionally doesn't take the initiative for two days, it means it's very interesting. This may be what is often called "play hard to get".

Taking the initiative to pursue someone is like a gambler at the gambling table. Although he says that it doesn’t matter if he can’t chase him, no gambler is willing to play until he has won money, so he plans to pursue him. In addition to inner strength, a person needs a mentality.

Okay, for reference, Brother Qi will drive here today, everyone, please get out of the car. See you tomorrow.

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