Should people who are very unpopular at school go to the ten-year reunion?

First, this is a friend of mine's experience in reality, so today we will share with you her views on class reunion.

Every Chinese New Year, reunion will always follow. However, some people say that the reunion has changed, which is more or less utilitarian. Therefore, over the years, some students seldom come to the reunion I initiated and participated in. They feel that they don't know what to say or that everyone has changed, and suddenly they can't find their original feelings.

I remember when I was about to graduate from college, I hated accounting very much and especially wanted to find a job with a non-accounting major.

I saw a job advertisement in the newspaper, which was a recruitment planning copy of a well-known advertising company, and the requirements were not harsh, saying that it was necessary to have talents in the advertising industry.

At that time, I bought some books on advertising to make up for it, and then I took the written test with a try attitude. It seems that the written test score is still very high, so I was particularly nervous during the interview. I felt as if I had a chance, so I put on a set of professional clothes five to six and sat stiffly in the conference room, facing a row of handsome examiners.

Unfortunately, I was not in the mood to see handsome guys. My little heart was pounding and I was so nervous that I suddenly asked the first question: "Are you often organized or invited at your usual class reunion?"

This question came as a bolt from the blue, you know, I was still very stiff at that time. I occasionally attend class reunions, but only when several girlfriends invite me to join them. I never knew what was hidden in the reunion.

Seeing my dull expression, they stopped asking questions.

Then wait for the notice, and finally go away.

I don't want to call that advertising company. I'm going to find out if I die. As a result, the people who answered the phone told me that they had a good impression of me, and only found out during the interview that my personality might not be suitable for the development of advertising industry.

Second,

What makes me feel resistant to the reunion?

Speaking out is not afraid of jokes, because of sensitive self-esteem.

To say that my high school was spent in a key high school, there are many great scholars in my class. At the watershed of the college entrance examination, they threw me out of several streets, and then their life experiences were naturally very different. Some got foreign green cards and became China people, some lived a rich life in state organs, and some got along well in dazzling foreign capital, but I used to be an upper middle school student in my class, but I didn't get along well.

Dissatisfaction with myself is the fundamental reason why I can't meet face to face.

Female classmate B, a high school Kouga girl, is a big fool. I didn't expect to see her again at the class reunion a few years later. She was charming and invincible. And the boys in the class who used to blush all the time, suddenly all the wisecracks came together, especially enthusiastic and fluent.

Yes, when we were students, our understanding of each other was limited to a very small aspect, and that was when we went our own way.

Society, meet again to break and reshape each other's impressions.

Not everyone has the courage to face the fact itself. At least I was too timid to show my true self in front of my classmates. Seeing the students who get along well with each other, there is always an unspeakable taste in my heart.

Third,

Until one time, my leader said to me, Xiao Zhao, you are not bad in work ability, and you are not stupid in being a person. You just want to know why you always seem to be in a bottleneck for so many years, but you always feel that there is a force blocking you when you want to break through?

I am dying to know the answer. Ask the leader quickly. Tell me quickly.

She said that because you are narrow-minded, you can also say that your psychological quality is too poor. On the one hand, you can't accept the objective fact that others are superior to you, on the other hand, you refuse to go out and take the initiative to ponder why you are in today's predicament because of your feelings.

What can sting you is often what you desperately lack.

The leader's words hurt me deeply, but they really represent everything. The gap between people is objective, whether there is a class reunion or not, the gap is there. The key is whether you have the courage to face the fact that your classmates are more successful than you. Do you have the courage to make friends with successful people who have crossed paths and are now awesome? Do you have this idea to understand what excellent qualities are behind their success?

Class reunion is a rare learning opportunity.

He Caitou said, "All the people who can attend the reunion are poets." Later, I slowly discovered that at least all the people who attended the reunion were psychologically strong.

In retrospect, I found that my psychology was really subtle. I can often ignore strangers who have nothing to do with me, such as A, B, C, D, to become an official and get rich, but I can't stand that someone I once knew is many times easier to get along with than myself.

In fact, from another perspective, there is an opportunity in front of you, so that you can talk to a very successful person, with whom you have had an intersection. You can cut into the topic from your former class teacher and have face-to-face communication with him. If you miss this opportunity, it will be difficult to have a second time. You know, even if we meet very powerful people in reality, it is difficult for you to have face-to-face communication; Besides, such awesome students generally don't come to every class reunion.

After I changed my mind, I actively responded to every class reunion, big and small, and really gained extraordinary results.

Fourth,

As the old saying goes, what kind of life do you want, you have to get close to those who are more successful.

I organized the party in 2008. At that time, in order to find scattered classmates, I also spent a long time trying to find their phone numbers and contact them one by one. At that class reunion, I met Mr. W, who was very successful in the field of sales. I watched his words and deeds and how he spoke at the whole party, so as to win the favor of others quickly. I met a brave and unique beauty S. She resolutely quit her job in a foreign company and planned to travel around the world.

Live the life you want; I also saw the talented girls in my class, and now they have found satisfactory jobs through their own efforts. .........................................................................................................................................................

In class reunion, my psychological quality is getting better and better. I will talk more when I meet friends I can talk to. If I don't meet someone I can talk to, I will choose a comfortable corner and silently observe other people's words and deeds. I always find that some people have a particularly high emotional intelligence, which will enliven the atmosphere and take good care of the people at the scene.

Of course, sometimes I will meet him who I once liked at the class reunion. Seeing that the other party is doing well, I always tell myself to work hard and not to be looked down upon by the other party. So invisibly, the reunion of classmates has become a driving force for my usual efforts. Every time I slack off, I always feel a stabbing pain. Oh, I can't slack off. Otherwise, what should I look like in front of these students at the class reunion next year? How much has Haikou, which once boasted its goal, achieved now?

So if you receive an invitation to a class reunion, if there are no other arrangements, you might as well dress yourself up and go. After all, as a social person, you always have to take the first step in socializing. Homecoming can help us correctly understand our differences with others, learn to accept them frankly, find our own problems and improve them. What harm does it do to us?

In a word, if we can adopt an open attitude towards anything, we will ultimately benefit ourselves.