Sharp corners! Use psychology to whitewash Huang Xiaoming, a "middle-aged prince". He may be smarter than you. Do you agree?

Huang Xiaoming is on fire. Someone commented on him like this: "Probably most people have this experience. Maybe you are an honest intern like Daniel, or an ordinary employee with ideas like Andy, or an old employee with qualifications and abilities like Chef Lin, or even a caring and capable deputy leader like Amanda, but you have to listen to the command of a XX who can't communicate, coordinate, respect others and act arbitrarily! "

In fact, most people feel this way. A professional expert I know once summed it up: this is generally divided into two situations.

1, cattle people have jumped ship, and XX stayed as the leader; Moreover, in order not to be pushed down by others, he can only treat the employees below in this way, so Niu's was forced away again, leaving only XX people more than him to follow him.

2. The interests of leaders and employees have different starting points. For the boss of the company, he wants to make a big bet. Generally, no one wants long-term development. But employees generally just want to go to work well and get a stable salary. This will cause the other party to think how the other party made such a XX decision?

But from my own extremely wise scientific point of view, I want to put forward a third possibility, or to put it mildly, such as the following one.

Er, ................... Yes, actually, I mean, in fact, sometimes the person who vomits is XX, which is embarrassing.

It's not that I pay lip service to the innocent, but that I have real evidence! Who is it? Actually, it's me ... well, it's embarrassing.

In the first few years of my work, I also thought: the boss is really XX, obviously doing better according to my idea, but he has to use some time-consuming and laborious schemes. Once I couldn't help it. I quarreled with him at the meeting. He said angrily, you think you can do it, why don't you do it? Come on, come and work in this office tomorrow!

I can't smile on my face, but I can't smile in my heart.

Of course, it's just angry words, but I don't think there is enough evidence to refute him, so I got a small notebook, and then as long as it is for me, I will follow my own logic first, and then follow his. As long as my method is feasible, I will write it down in my notebook and let me stick his face at the next meeting!

As a result, my "revenge plan" was declared bankrupt within half a month. Although I hate to admit it, the correctness of my idea is worrying. Although the boss's arrangement is also quite poor, it is much better than mine. ...

Just as the right side is better than the left side.

Why is this? Later, I found the answer in psychology, which is one of the famous cognitive biases:

Self-service bias, also known as self-service bias, is a kind of motivation attribution bias.

1967, American psychologist J.M. Kingston made a survey. He interviewed some senators and congressmen who won the election in Wisconsin and asked them why they were successful. The winner thinks that the most important factor is the candidate's personality, and 75% people replied that this is due to their unremitting efforts, good image building and positive publicity, and the correct campaign strategy.

When Kingston asked the losers among senators and representatives, 90% people blamed their failures on external factors beyond their control, such as the political party structure in the region. Opponents are too strong and perfect, lack campaign funds, and these voters are too ignorant. ...

I believe everyone can see the clue. Egoistic bias means that when people face some positive results, they usually attribute their own behaviors to internal quality characteristics, such as ability, attitude and motivation, and attribute others' behaviors to external factors, such as luck and environment. When faced with some bad and failed results, attribute one's own behavior to external factors, while attribute others' behavior to internal quality characteristics.

What's the matter? Shake the pot first!

It is precisely because of this psychological effect that people will be complacent when their decisions may have a positive effect, thinking that they are all brilliant and must remember. And when my own thoughts will mess things up, I will divert my attention and throw all the pots out. That's not my responsibility. Why should I remember? In this way, you can only remember your own highlights and forget all the stupid things you have done. So there are some common illusions, such as "I am better than the leader", "I am better than the president" and even "I am smarter than the national leader!"

There is a saying that "the more knowledgeable, the more modest", and the hidden half sentence is of course "the more ignorant, the more arrogant". Yes, the more one knows, the more one will understand why many things seem so unreasonable. Although he may not understand the truth all his life, at least he will not casually say, "experts and scientists are not as smart as me." You see, they dare not respond directly to me! " As a crosstalk performer in Degang Guo said, if a person suggests using washed anthracite as rocket fuel, scientists will only watch him fail!