The first child broke the porcelain plate

Montessori education advocates allowing children to use real tableware, such as ceramic dishes, glasses and other things that can be broken, so that they can live in the real world from the beginning, so that children can You will have the opportunity to learn how to use tableware, plates and cups with caution and the concept of not playing with them. ?I know what everyone is thinking: Doesn’t this sound dangerous? Isn't it easy to break? ? In fact, if Montessori education advocates letting children use real tableware, such as ceramic dishes, glasses, etc., and let them live in the real world from the beginning, then the children will have the opportunity to learn how to use them. The concept of how to use tableware, plates and cups carefully and not to play with them. ?I know what everyone is thinking: Doesn’t this sound dangerous? Isn't it easy to break? ? In fact, if you do this from the first day under the supervision of an adult, the child will soon know the correct method, so "use dishes and cups carefully" is as natural as the toilet is for defecation and not for washing face. . Montessori-educated children are less likely to break dishes if they are taught the right approach from the start. ? And when it is accidentally broken, it is the best opportunity for education. "Breaking" is a natural consequence of "not using tableware properly." However, all safety tableware for children is unbreakable, so they cannot learn this natural consequence at all, and there is no need to use it carefully. ? Moreover, the touch of plastic dishes is no different from toys. It is hard to blame children for using tableware as toys and throwing them away. ? It's just a plate, not a flame or a rattlesnake, so there's nothing to be afraid of. The Montessori school where little Zack went to before he was one year old even used porcelain bowls and glasses in the infant class. The head teacher proudly said that no one had broken a bowl or plate in the past few years since the class started. So my family has been doing this since then. To be honest, Paul and I have accidentally broken hundreds of times more cups and plates than little Zack has in the past three years. ? Because in the three years since little Zack started eating solid food, he really hasn't broken a ceramic bowl or plate at all, but he has accidentally knocked a glass. ? But after that time, little Zack knew that the cup should be placed farther away from the edge of the table, and sometimes he would correct us! ? A simple experiential learning and opportunity education of "natural consequences" is really more useful than parents repeating it a hundred times. ? Using real dishes and cups was easy when he was little Zack because I always sat next to him when he ate. Now that we have two children at home, who has the time to watch the two children eating all the time? So at the moment my family adopts a compromise approach and uses normal ceramic glass cutlery if we sit next to the kids and eat together. If I'm busy in the kitchen, let them use kid's stainless steel utensils. ? (Plastic hot food makes me feel fuzzy, so I currently don’t have plastic tableware at home) ? There are pictures and the truth is true. The photo below was taken on July 16 last year. The northern wheat was less than 11 and a half months old. Zack is not yet three years old. They were eating Mexican tacos on the big china plates we usually use. ? The photo below was taken on July 21st, when Beibimai was just eleven and a half months old. He had the courage to eat naked on a hot summer day, using the porcelain bowls used by us adults. ?The 20-second video below was taken on September 16 last year. Beibimai was nearly one year and one-and-a-half months old and was eating multigrain porridge by himself. ? So does the cup. Because Beibimai refused to use bottles since he was a child, when I was at work everyone could only feed him breast milk from a cup, so Beibimai started using glass cups when he was six months old, and started when he was less than ten months old. Practice drinking from a shot glass by yourself. ? The photo below was taken on August 18th. Beibimai was one year and two weeks old. By this time, he could drink almost all the water without missing a drop. The juice you make yourself must also be drunk from a glass. After the summary of the previous situation is reported to everyone, we can finally get to the focus of this article. ? (Yes, the point of this article is not to show off how good my children are at eating and drinking. Readers who breathed a sigh of relief thinking that this article has come to an end must feel like they are about to faint) ? The process of learning to use dishes and table manners , including, of course, the important step of taking the dishes to the sink after eating. ? After little Zack finished his breakfast this morning, he put the dishes next to the sink by himself, and then he actually fulfilled his brother's duty and ran to urge Bei Nomai to put his dishes into the sink. ? I just recently bought a new mobile phone with a large capacity, and Paul kept insisting that we didn't often help our children take photos to record their childhood, and we would definitely regret it in the future. So recently, I often work as a paparazzi in the secret service, secretly photographing children's activities. ? Same thing this morning. ? So the following program happened. The title of the program is "The first plate my child broke." ? The program was filmed at around 9 a.m. on January 24 this year. The protagonist, Zack, is three years and five and a half months old, and the amazing supporting character Bei Bimai is one year and five and a half months old. In fact, if Beijimai takes the plate properly and leaves, there will be no problem at all. However, little Zack was urging him with his hands and feet from behind. There was a small toy in front of Beibimai's feet, and he was also wearing socks that were easy to slip, so he fell down without knowing whether he was pushed, tripped or slipped. .

? The plate actually splits in half perfectly, and you don’t even need to sweep it. Isn’t that so considerate? ?The focus of this article is actually what happens after the plate is broken. ? It was too late and then it was too late. When the three-year-old little Zack saw the plate broken, he immediately threw himself to the ground and started crying loudly. ? I intuitively told him silly things like "It's just a broken plate, it doesn't matter." Even if you think about it, of course it is completely useless. ? Fortunately, I suddenly remembered the parallelism between the left and right brains of "Name it to Tame it: Telling Stories to Calm Big Emotions" that was introduced in the article "Dragon Quest: The Father is Like the Eldest Son". Integrate one move. Let me review this trick for you: ? Children have huge negative emotions when they are frightened or traumatized, and they don’t know how to deal with them. The correct way to deal with it is not to avoid talking about it, not to coax that it's okay, not to pretend to blame the object that scared the child, nor to go to the temple to be frightened. ? These actions will only push the child's psychological shadow to the depths. One day in the future, this shadow will definitely come back and counterattack, causing the child to have inexplicable negative behaviors. ? Emotions such as fright, fear, anger, etc. all come from the extremely sensitive right brain area that lives in the present. When a child is emotionally excited, the entire brain is occupied by the right side of the brain. At this time, if adults can use language in a timely manner to help the child retell what happened and clarify the logic and sequence of things, it is equivalent to helping the paralyzed child master the left side of language logic. Part of his brain came to life and helped him use his rational left brain to soothe his crazy right brain, which is a technique called "horizontal integration". ? This is why psychological counselors, when treating patients with major psychological trauma, will try to get the patient to describe the incident over and over again. ? So just like the cartoon below, at first I intuitively wanted to use the reasoning "it's okay, no need to cry" to suppress the child's emotions, but of course it was useless. I immediately changed my tactics and described the situation to little Zack in great detail: "You just took the dishes to the sink and put them on your own. That's great." Then you turned around and wanted to teach Bei Jimai to take his plate and put it in the sink, right? But because you grabbed Beibimai and walked to the table, he was little Beibi and couldn't walk steadily enough. Then there was a confiscated small toy at his feet, so Beibimai accidentally slipped and the plate fell. It broke accidentally! ” After hearing my story, little Zack miraculously stopped crying gradually, but I could see that he was still a little sad and excited. So I continued my speech and gave a speech. I simply led little Zack to the sink and said, "You just brought your dishes over here and put them away." Then I walked to the refrigerator and said, "Then you come over here and call me Beimai." Go get his plate too, right? ”, I led him to the small table and said, “You came over here with Bei Bimai, but you may have been too close to him and accidentally pushed him. Then, look! ”, I pointed to the small toy car on the ground, “There was a small toy car on the ground that was not put away, so Beibimai fell down without stepping on it firmly, and then the plate broke! ’, while talking, I also pretended to fall down and replayed the entire incident. ? Will this trick be too useful? Little Zack immediately transformed back into his super-sane big brother, and then recounted the incident, saying, "Because there were toys on the floor, he accidentally slipped and fell, and then the plate broke?" ’ ? I said, ‘Yes, so we have to put away the toys on the floor, otherwise we will easily fall when we walk. ” ? Little Zack said: “But I am Big Boy, I will not fall! ” Then he quickly walked to the sink and showed me while dodging the toys on the floor in a funny way. ? I said, "I know, but Beibimai is Beibi. He has just started to learn to walk, so he often walks unsteadily, so if there are toys on the ground, he will accidentally fall." ” Little Zack immediately turned around and said to Bei BiMai: “Bei BiMai, you have to put away the toys on the floor so that you won’t fall! ’ ? Then he took Bei Noimai and started to pick up all the small toys and sundries on the ground and put them back to their original places. ? What does "turning a crisis into an opportunity" mean? Hahahaha! ? This trick is so effective that it is extremely useful even on Bei Bimai, who cannot hear his words clearly. ? Every time he accidentally falls while walking fast or falls from somewhere and is overly frightened, I tell stories while reenacting the scene of the crime, and I can always calm him down quickly within ten seconds. ? The most impressive time was when my family and my sons’ godmother’s family drove a campervan to the desert during New Year’s Eve. In the evening, after little Zach and Beimai fell asleep in our camper, Paul and I took the baby monitor and ran to the next car to meet our friends for a drink and chat. Anyway, we have Mika looking after the house in our camper, and the baby monitor has audio and video, so we are unscrupulous. ? In the middle of the night, I suddenly discovered that the baby monitor had no signal for some reason. I quickly asked Paul to make sure the child was still sleeping peacefully, but Paul laughed at me for being so nervous and said that I was fine the whole night. How could I take advantage of the monitor to tease the child and take advantage of it? ? You don’t know that the "Law of Might" is so powerful that it is so strange. While we were continuing to drink, chat and laugh in the neighboring car, suddenly there was a faint sound of a dog barking from the direction of my campervan. ? We rushed back to the camper, and sure enough, Mika kept screaming for some unknown reason, and then Beimai was also howling and crying and screaming in the bedroom.

? No matter how I tried to comfort him, Bei Nomai seemed to be going crazy. He was screaming and crying completely uncontrollably. He kept standing up and sitting down, unable to decide what he wanted to do. He kept struggling to get away, and I couldn't even hold him. ? I can tell this is quite different from the midnight crying of Bei Noi Mai that we have been used to for months. I am a hard-core person who never believed in the "surprise" thing. But at that moment, the question "should I take him to get a scare?" flashed in my mind. This shows how good Beibimai's performance was at that time. fear. ? Paul naturally speculated that Mika started barking because Beimai was crying. I stared blankly at Bei Nomai going crazy in the dark bedroom of the camper, and suddenly I felt that Paul’s speculation was not correct at all. Beibimai would get up and cry in the middle of the night almost every night for several months. This situation also happened when camping. Mika was always silent and had long regarded it as a common occurrence. ? My demented loyal dog will only start barking like crazy when he thinks there are bad people walking by outside, or when he senses a hostile animal. ? The light bulb suddenly lit up in my mind: The plot of the case was not that Mika started barking because Bei Nomai was crying, but that Mika heard the footsteps of passers-by outside and started screaming, and then It scared Bei Nomai awake, so Bei Nomai looked so frightened! ? After thinking about it, I immediately used the trick "Name it to Tame it" and said to Bei Bimai, who was only one year and four months old: "You were sleeping just now, and then Mika suddenly started barking, woof woof woof. ! Woof woof woof! So loud! And then you woke up with a fright, right? ” ? As soon as he heard what I said, Bei Nomai’s crazy state suddenly changed, as if the possessed ghost was suddenly driven away by me, from the original uncontrollable howling to sobbing, it was clear that “this is what is happening in front of me” The demented woman finally understood me, and within seconds he fell asleep again. ? It’s impossible to be so useful even if you’re scared! ? After I introduced this trick in the article "Dragon Quest: The Father Is Like the Eldest Son", some medical expert readers came to criticize me, saying that the medical knowledge I provided was wrong. The brain is not divided into left and right brains. What is the control? What function is the prefrontal lobe, and what function is which lobe? (Yawn) ? Dear students, I am not a doctor, and I have no interest in medicine at all. I am just an aunt who read the book "The Whole Brain Child". However, the author of this book, Dr. Daniel Siegel, is a pediatric psychiatrist at UCLA School of Medicine and the director of a host of other brain research centers. The second author, Dr. Tina Payne Bryson, is a famous pediatric psychotherapist with a background record. With a string of names. The two of them have written several books about education based on the brain, and they are all top-selling characters. They can be regarded as authoritative figures. ? "The Whole Brain Child" is not a medical book, but a simple and easy-to-understand educational book with many examples. I think the author is afraid that too many medical words will make parents who are already sleep deprived and mentally weak. They yawned, and they used a lot of vague common sense words, like "Left Brain", "Right Brain", etc., so of course I followed "left brain" and "right brain". Please don't worry too much, just take what you mean. ? (After talking about the parallel integration of the left and right brains, this book does talk about the vertical integration of the prefrontal lobe at the upper end of the brain and other lobes at the lower end, but it is often referred to as "upstairs" and "downstairs", which is also to prevent people from reading the book. Just fell asleep) ? Finally, in order to prove that Bei Bimai broke the first plate in my house because of his brother’s mischief, Bei Bimai, who is one year and five and a half months old, starred in the following program and finally got to watch it all Apologetic! ?Please see how proud he looked after giving me the plate, and there was wind in his eyes when he walked! ? A child's confidence and happiness always come from small steps toward independence.

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