How to deal with people

0 1. Be a man; There are five ways for five people:

The first kind of people: naive people, naive things; Can be friends, not work together; Work with it and you will lose this friend;

The second kind of people: secular life, secular things; Don't be friends, just cooperate; Make friends with them, and you will screw things up;

The third kind of people: secular life, naive work; Do not be friends, do not work together; Don't make friends with them, don't work with them;

The fourth kind of people: naive and secular; Can be friends and work together; Being friends with them is like a spring breeze, and the cause is thriving;

The fifth kind of person: be a naive person, truly secular. Either the devil or the great businessman. Dealing with the fifth kind of people is the most dangerous. They will stab you in the back in the name of friends.

Whether a person is reliable depends on whether he has old friends. A man with only new friends is unreliable because he often changes friends. To prevent it from being replaced. It's best not to be friends with him.

03 people should have a sense of weight; It is also an appropriate restriction. A sense of weight makes people feel that you have strength; Appropriate restrictions make people feel that you have the art of power.

Think like a scholar; Act like a businessman.

There are four kinds of people in the world.

The first kind of people know what you know; He who knows what he can do is a wise man;

The second kind of people know what you don't know; It is wise to know what you can't do;

The third kind of people don't know what you know; People who don't know what they can do are confused;

The fourth person doesn't know what you don't know. People who don't know what they can't do are crazy,

Some people are a combination of the first and the second, both smart and wise. All the great things in the world were created by them. They can achieve their careers and themselves;

Some people are a mixture of the third and fourth, confused and crazy. All the stupid things in the world are caused by them. They are the most terrible, ruining their careers and ruining themselves.

What is childishness? Is to be a childlike child; What do you mean by worldly affairs? Is to do things with your heart

If you want a clown, give him a big stage and let him perform crazily.

If you want to kill a villain, let him bear a big responsibility and let him lift a thousand pounds above his head;

If you want to beat the best in a certain industry, you must promote him to another unfamiliar field;

It is necessary to exterminate a group of giant pandas and move them to fertile land without bamboo. Whether you are a villain, an able person or an adult, there are ways to gently stab you.

When dealing with people, we must observe.

How to talk,

Tell some people completely;

Some say to some people.

Say only the first half of the sentence to some people;

Only say the second half to some people.

Talk to some people through friends;

Talk to some people through opponents.

Let some people talk to their friends;

Talk to some people and let their opponents talk.

Speak decisively and simply to some people;

Be ambiguous when talking to some people.

Speak to some people only for reasons;

Just talk to some people about the results.

Speak sarcastically to some people;

Be cynical about some people.

Learn to bow when the external pressure can't stand it. Bending is not depravity and destruction, it is an art of life.

10 Don't look at me, just look at people.

1 1 mean to a mean person; Big shots should be atmospheric. Keep your hands low and your eyes low; Raise your hands and keep your eyes open. For small people, the atmosphere is low-handed and high-eyed; Being stingy with big shots is a matter of holding high the hand and setting low the eye.

For both, this is a kind of sadness and misfortune.

Learn from people you hate; Make friends with people who hate you.

13 A capable person also has a temper; People who are incapable have no temper;

What I fear most is that I have no ability but a temper; The best thing is that you are capable but have no temper.

The first two are natural normality;

The third is a freak;

The fourth is a saint.

14 About big and small issues.

See through the big things: detachment;

See through small things: open-minded.

An impenetrable event: persistence;

Can't see through small things: care.

Some people may be detached and caring, open-minded and narrow-minded;

Some people may be persistent and open-minded, and their minds are simple and open-minded.

Some people never think about big things. They are naive or confused.

15 How many people are there in life:

The first kind of people have common sense and no thought, but they also have no dogma of thought. They are healthy, as healthy as animals.

The second kind of people have common sense and dogma, and each has its own uses. Work with dogma and live with common sense. They are only half healthy.

The third kind of people lack common sense and are completely dominated by ideas or dogmas. From the point of view of ordinary people, they are patients,

The former is a madman, the latter is a fool.

16 Most men can get the woman he loves, but only a few men can let the woman he no longer loves leave unscathed. A man's character is shown by the way he leaves a woman.

17 how to choose a partner?

Don't be a talented and narrow-minded person;

I'd rather have a person with low talent and open mind.

The former is narcissistic and can't tolerate others;

The latter is modest and prudent, and can hold the sea.

The former can do things, but can't achieve great things;

The latter can't do things, but can be a leader.

18 only cares about a few people; I don't care about others. I care about many people.

A general who can manage people; A general who can't control people.

Yes, ten is enough; General, the more the better.

19 would rather do nothing; Don't do anything stupid.

Doing nothing is not the best situation;

Doing stupid things is the worst.

There is no absolute truth in the world. Therefore, no opinion is irrefutable;

No one's opinion is negotiable.

2 1 What is really rigid is interest. But even welfare can be compensated and replaced.

Clever negotiators set opposing opinions against each other; Substitute opposing interests.

The former's kung fu is persuasion; The latter's kung fu is adjustment.

Those who burn the bridge after crossing the river will never have a bridge again in their later lives. But such people will never die. Because there are still idiots who are bridging him.

Their logic is: China has a population of one billion, and it is enough for everyone to build a bridge for me once. Is it possible?

If you don't do things well, you will smell when you do things for others.

Writing poetry is like writing a paper;

Doing business is like being an official;

Making friends is like doing business.

If one thing is not handled well, the key is to handle it well;

If a batch of things can't be handled well, the key is to deal with people.

It is not difficult to inspect people; The difficulty lies in introspection.

Not ugly; The difficulty lies in execution.

Resolutely solve the problem; The solution to the problem should be euphemistic.

The mistakes we often make are: indecision in solving problems; The solution to the problem is decisive.

It is best not to do business between friends; However, in order to do business, it is best to be friends first.

28 circle is the highest form of all beings. Everything from the largest to the smallest is round.

If you can't completely knock down your opponent, then you must win him over.

Either knock him down; Or win him over. It's a general rule against opponents.

Never hurt anyone; Never hurt anyone who has hurt you.

People who have hurt you may help you in the future because of their inner guilt.

This is not only a question of being a man, but also a question of mind and wisdom.

3 1 is a man with his tail between his legs; Wear a mask to do things; Shine the beautiful aura of the spotlight on others.

This is the basic principle for newborn calves to join the WTO.

32 between friends, only talk about content; Do not stick to form. Exquisite packaging dilutes friendship.

Emphasize, highlight, enlarge. This is a special skill of poets and politicians.

Poets are people who magnify happiness or sadness;

A politician is a person who magnifies what he wants.

A clever politician is a poet.

The key problem for a woman is how to deal with it at a critical moment. Is this just about a woman?

Open your heart and make friends within five minutes; There must be another 50 years to brew the durability of friendship. In this way, we can unify being a man and doing things, making friends and doing business.

There are three kinds of mistakes: first, mistakes made due to lack of experience; Second, mistakes made due to lack of ability; Third, mistakes made due to moral defects.

Making the same mistake once is a matter of experience;

Committing twice is a matter of ability;

It is a moral problem to make mistakes at the expense of others.

Those who have made mistakes without experience should be given the opportunity to correct them;

Those who make mistakes due to lack of ability should jump ship immediately;

Those who have moral defects and made mistakes should be dealt with decisively, leaving no future trouble.

37 people should have passion; Stay rational.

It takes passion to start something;

It takes a reason to achieve one thing.

Artists should trust their intuition; Businessmen should cater to the tastes of others. Therefore, it is difficult for cultural businessmen to do so. He wants to make a dish of spicy Sichuan cuisine and sweet and light Cantonese cuisine. This dish is delicious only if it conforms to your own taste and that of others.

39 water, the weakest; Water is the hardest; Water, the lowest; Water is the most inclusive. Water is the same shape as heaven and earth.

Whoever practices the nature of water is close to enlightenment. If you achieve great things, you must belong to it.

It is easy to think that the current atmosphere is stupid;

Generosity can easily be seen as chaos;

Your manners can easily be a blessing to others.

The atmosphere should be accompanied by great wisdom;

Generosity should be accompanied by strength;

Be polite and restrained.

4 1 find someone to do things, not ten little people; It's better to spend ten times as much energy looking for big shots.

42 friends are their important capital; Making friends is the biggest investment. Some people only make short-term friends; Some people can be long-term friends. Some people specialize in buying blue-chip stocks, and only a handful can get one; Some people can buy potential stocks, spend a little money now and earn a lot of money in the future. This is not only a matter of interest; This is a question of wisdom.

Doing the wrong thing correctly is a diligent loser;

If you don't do the right thing correctly, you are a futile loser;

Doing something wrong by mistake is a complete failure;

Doing the right thing correctly is the real winner.

If you can't beat a man at once, shoot down the horse he is riding first; If you can't get it directly at once, you can get it indirectly in several steps. This is the principle of dealing with difficult things.

To start something, you should ask ten people for advice.

If a person agrees to do it, you should do it at once;

Five people agree to do it, so you should be careful;

Ten people are in favor of doing it, so you'd better not do it.

There is no major event in the 46 th world; Only little people. Adults can make a big deal out of small things; Small people can make big things smaller. Although hamburgers are small, they can achieve tens of billions of dollars in output value; Although the plane is big, it is reduced to the desperate situation of building a low-grade van. The former has McDonald's; The latter has Harbin Aircraft Factory.

What is learning to be obedient? Is to listen to others in front of yourself; Don't listen to yourself in front of others

48 enemies become friends, which is more reliable than friends; Friends become enemies, more dangerous than enemies.

49 Some words are more delicious when spoken, which is called taste;

Some words are more interesting to guess, called fun;

Some words are more interesting to write, called aftertaste;

Some words are more delicious when they are realized, which is called taste;

Some words are more delicious if you don't say them. This is called deep taste.

Some people can only be friends with them; Some people can only do business with them.

Stupid people treat their friends as business; Smart people make friends in business.

Make friends and value friendship; Business is for profit.

Only when friendship and interests are highly compatible can we make good friends and do business well.

5 1 Yu said: be like water; Do things like a mountain.

Wang Qiang also said: Be shallow; Do things in depth.

Bird soldier said: be careful; Do things strategically.

The key to doing a good job is to do it;

The key to making a thing bigger is not to do it.

The sparrow said to the elephant, I can fly better than you;

The fox said to the tiger, I am smarter than you;

The fish said to the eagle, I am better at water than you.

Zebra said to people, I can run better than you.

Comparing one's own strengths with others' weaknesses is self-confidence of inferiority;

Using one's own strengths to fight for the shortcomings of others is of course a champion.

54 before success, use tricks;

In success, use conspiracy;

After success, use an open scheme.

Many successful people are familiar with the above "success rule".

Some people become thieves before they become officials;

Some people become officials and then become thieves.

Some people buy names after making a profit,

Some people buy a name and make a profit.

A family of officials and thieves; Fame and fortune are one.

A thief without an official can only steal pearls;

Officials and thieves can steal the country.

A thief who occupies an official position is a big thief;

Only when you have a reputation can you get big profits. From schemer Lv Buwei to Yuan Shikai and then to Saddam; From strategist Su Qin to today's gilded marine doctor. What else is there?

56 tortoise and rabbit race, the tortoise will win, when the rabbit sleeps occasionally; When the rabbit catches up, the tortoise will also lose; But the tortoise always wins, if you enlarge the time unit. Because turtles live much longer than rabbits. Those who eat small losses are currently losing money; But it will definitely take advantage in the future.

Some small things are caused by big things;

Some big things are caused by small things.

Do you know what is big and what is small?

Marriage is the biggest gamble in life, because you have to gamble all your life;

Marriage is the biggest business in life, because it has unexpected benefits;

Marriage is the greatest adventure in life; Because it always has unpredictable results.

59 middle age is still passionate; Youth is mature. This is a realm. -always naive, not very stable.

When you are in high spirits at the age of 60, you are half a hero if you sing bravely.

After the head is broken, drink some blood and keep your voice down, which is half a hero.

The hero is a cross-flow of the sea, and the honor and disgrace are not surprised.

Not all 6 1 planned life can be successful;

Life without a plan will never succeed.

People who can live will not produce;

People who can produce cannot live.

The result is: the former has accomplished nothing; The latter is lifeless.

A pure scholar and a complete businessman can hardly achieve great things.

Scholars who achieve great things are businessmen among scholars;

Businessmen who achieve great things are literati among businessmen.

Scholars are unconventional; Merchants seek common ground while reserving differences.

Scholars are extraordinary; Businessmen do as the Romans do.

Scholars pay attention to personal charm; Businessmen cater to public tastes.

Literati pursue unique personality; Businessmen seek universal commonness;

Literati keep a distance from society; Businessmen are closely related to society.

Literati's business is often lost in culture, and their business is ruined, and they can never go back. Just like wine mixed with water, it destroys two good things;

Businessmen with literary background often say that culture is gone, business is strong and the cultural market is dirty. The cultural rubbish all over the street is their masterpiece. It is not easy to combine many contradictions between literati and businessmen harmoniously, so it is difficult for a good cultural businessman to do so. This requires a wonderful balance, just like riding a galloping horse on a bumpy mountain road to prevent a bowl of water from overflowing.

Look at a person's character, not just what good he can do when he gets better; And it depends on whether he is bad or not.

If a person has no shortcomings, he will lose all his advantages.

What is cleverness? Say smart words to smart people; Say stupid things to stupid people.

What is stupidity? Say smart words to fools; Say stupid things to smart people.

What is honesty? Speak honestly to honest people; Say dishonest things to dishonest people.

What do you mean stupid? Say dishonest things to honest people; Speak honestly to dishonest people.

It is shrewd to listen to half what others say;

It is wise to know which half is trustworthy.

68 boast in person and behind; Praise others before criticizing them. This is your true friend. But people like giant pandas are basically extinct. Nowadays, critics pay attention to art and methods, but its concentration and texture are like soup with water; A drug similar to sugar.

People appreciate a thing in the following ways:

Sincerely appreciate;

Out of courtesy;

Irony is right;

Fool you that you have no time;

No appreciation.

The first person is honest; The second kind of person is false; The third person is sophisticated; The fourth person is an attitude problem; The fifth kind of person is a question of ability.

70 Look at people and things.

The national quality of a country depends on its public toilets;

The quality of life in a place depends on the teeth of the people there;

Look at the situation of the rich and the poor in a community, and look at the garbage discarded by people there;

A man's taste depends on his socks;

Whether a woman is clean depends on her kitchen;

Look at a person's mind and look at his eyes;

See a person's value, depends on his opponent;

Look at a person's cards and friends around him;

Look at the relationship between two people and the tension of the other party when the accident occurs;

Look at the friendship between friends and when you are down and out;

Look at the words, look at the strokes of the words;

Looking at the mind depends on facing failure and betrayal;

The essence of a person depends on his face after his temper breaks out.

7 1 What a person can give up mainly depends on what he wants. Give up what ordinary people can't give up, and you must get what ordinary people can't get.

72 Great goodness must be a great fallacy; Dagong must be private.

The most selfish and cruel person is the one who loves everyone and seems selfless. Selfish and cruel enough to abandon the people closest to you.

When you are a slave, the more humble you are; When you are the master, you are more cruel. Don't pursue your own personal dignity when pursuing power; You will not respect the personal dignity of others when you enjoy your rights. So the villain can't be an official and the poor can't have money.

Don't discredit yourself, you can't do business;

If you don't wash it yourself, you can't keep up with the text.

So good cultural businessmen draw faces.

What is a leader? Is to lead a group of people better than themselves.

As a leader, you can't just see the shortcomings of employees; You can't always stare at the shortcomings of employees.

If you can't see the shortcomings, you will use the wrong person; If you always stare at shortcomings, you are useless.

Some things can't be done but said;

Some things have to be done and said;

Some things can't be done or said;

Some things can only be done but not said.

78 See if your friend is kind, you go and complain to him;

See if your friend is loyal. You can borrow money from him.

See if a friend is polite, and observe how he talks to people who have no interests;

See if your friend is wise, and ask him to help you out;

See if a friend believes it or not, and test his promise on a small matter.

A firm negative is sometimes a firm positive transition.

Being a man is like a girl powder, the less the better;

Life is like a general's armor, the thicker the better.

Ideas are like precious gold, the purer the better;

Language, like a beautiful woman's skirt, the shorter the better.