I am a very low-key boy who doesn’t know how to talk. How can I communicate with the girl I like?

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Many of our brothers are with women, especially with the women they like. Don't know what to say. My mind is full of thoughts about what to say, but I still can't say anything that satisfies me. The atmosphere suddenly felt awkward. I started to feel a little anxious. The more anxious I became, the less I knew what to say. This feeling is very uncomfortable. Like you, I've had it many times before. But don't blame yourself for being so useless. Because we all know that once we return to the familiar buddies and brothers, we will talk and laugh again, and there will be no such problem of being unable to talk.

But why do many guys don’t know what to talk about when talking to the girl they like? Why can't I talk to my brother as easily as I do?

The simple superficial reason is that we care too much about what this girl thinks of you. In front of this woman, I became very careful about my words and deeds, always thinking about what I should say and what I should say to make her like me. This is a sign of caring too much about the results. Then some people don't understand and will ask, "I like this woman, of course I care about the outcome of the conversation with her, and of course I care about whether she likes me." How is it possible not to care?

When I say I don’t care, I mean I don’t care emotionally. For example, you like a girl. Of course, if you can attract her and make her like you, you will feel happy, but if you fail to attract her and make her like you, you will feel sad. If you think about it carefully, you have given the power to determine your mood to others. Every move of others, the glance they look at you, and their failure to text you back can all determine your mood. This is definitely not a characteristic of a charismatic man who attracts women. A man who can be manipulated by others is not a man who attracts women. We all know this from life experience.

Women are naturally sensitive to detecting such men. Women do have a so-called sixth sense, which most men don’t have and have never known about. However, this sixth sense can be cultivated and learned. We will talk about this later.

Here, what I want to say is that if you care too much about the results and are emotionally involved when talking to a woman, it means that the woman will realize that if her words and deeds can affect your mood, then she will Attraction to you, even if it existed before, will plummet. Because, for women, this is a sign that you can be manipulated by others. Women detect this signal unconsciously and automatically. This is a natural ability of women.

However, for many of our brothers, it is easy to say that we don’t care about talking to women, but it becomes difficult when we see that beautiful woman. I understand very well. I've experienced this too. Even though I have this knowledge consciously, I just can't do it in practice and can't control myself. In the end, I still didn’t know what I was talking about with her. After long-term teaching and practical research, I found a method that can solve this problem very well.

For now, I will call this method Chuanqing.

There are two types of words, one is shallow level, and the other is deep level. The shallow level is easier to learn and is very suitable for beginners. When chatting with women and you don’t know what to say next, this shallow level keyword technique is very useful. However, those veterans who have experienced hundreds of battles should have been doing this unconsciously, because after all, this is a very simple normal conversation and exchange; at a deeper level, it seems very simple but involves the manipulation of the other party's emotions, and is powerful. It's very big and should not be used indiscriminately without knowing the consequences. Only socially responsible people with a relatively mature mind can use it after you have accumulated considerable experience in social conversation, have a deeper understanding of people, and are mentally mature. Otherwise, it will be fun and powerful at the beginning, but later it will definitely become obsessive and it will never be a child's play.

The levels of conversation building relationships and emotions are divided into 4 levels. 1 to 3 are shallow level words. Level 4 is a deep-level conversational connection.

1． Simply agree or sigh. This is the last word said by most of our brothers who don’t know what to talk about next, and we don’t know what to say after that. For example,

The woman said, "I am so tired from class/work today."

The man said, "Really, take a good rest."

In this case, if the woman doesn’t speak, the man won’t know what to say next. After saying, "Yeah, let's take a good rest." The man began to think about what to say next. However, this sentence "Really, take a good rest." is a very normal conversation and will also increase the relationship a little bit. But start learning the next level of conversation.

2. Keyword Tips. The second level is to grasp a certain keyword in speaking to the Fa, and then talk about yourself or others based on this keyword. This conversation goes one step further than the first level.

For example,

The woman said: "I am so tired from going to class/work today." (The key words here can be, I am so tired from going to work/class, you can do whatever you want. Choose one, or choose both.)

The man said: "Really, it's like I didn't go to work today.

"(Seize "work" as the key word, you can also use "class", and then tell a story about your work. Women, including you, will also be curious. After you say this sentence, you will leave the other party with many questions. They will ask you questions.)

The woman asked: “Why do you act like you’re not at work?

The man said: "(You can tell me something about your work) I went to attend the graduation ceremony of an intern this morning. I had dinner at a restaurant on Nanjing Road and didn't arrive at the office until 4 p.m. , I get off work at 5 o'clock. "(This simple little story about you creates a lot of questions for women, such as, what kind of intern, what school, did you go to Nanjing Road for dinner at the graduation ceremony? etc.) Women are more likely to ask you more naturally , and at the same time, the chat continued. At the same time, please note that here women are asking men questions, which means that women are interested in what men say. If they ask too many questions, they are interested in the man, because of what the man said. , this woman only asked if she was interested)

The woman asked: “What school’s intern has his graduation ceremony on the road to Nanjing? ”

The man continues...

Of course, if the woman does not ask about an abnormal situation, at this time, based on the above conversation, there are many open topics that can be picked up again Chat. For example, a man can ask, "Did you have to do more at work today because you were lazy yesterday?" "Or the man can continue the topic he mentioned above and continue talking about the intern and so on.

To give you an example of keywords,

Woman: This coffee is not very It tastes good. (Keywords: coffee, not delicious)

Man: (Use keywords of coffee) This coffee does not boil for enough time, it is about 5 minutes short. If it boils for 5 more minutes, It will be of the highest quality.

(After saying this, the woman is left with room for questions: Do you know much about coffee? How do you know? Why do you know? Why do you burn it for another 5 minutes? Is it top quality? Wait. After you answer any question, she will ask you more questions. There will be no end to the topic.)

< p>You can also use bad taste as a keyword. The man said: Have you ever drank a drink called Hongle? It is the worst drink I have ever tasted.

(Finished. This passage leaves room for questions for women: What does Hongle taste like? Where did you drink it? Why have I never drank it? )

Here I am. Let me give you something: I made up the Hongle drink myself. I used to joke with women about it. I said it was produced on a small island in South America called Niguara. Its original name was viva de cheeva. My friends and I call it Hongle because it tastes like bad red wine and flat Coke.

This is simply a keyword technique in the other person’s words. , talk about yourself or something else, a sentence, a question, etc. around this keyword. In the training class, I asked students to do a lot of exercises to practice this keyword skill to speed up their understanding of this keyword. Mastery of skills. For those of you who have not practiced, just take every opportunity to talk to others to practice this skill, especially beautiful women. This skill is nothing but continuous practice after you understand it.

3. Opportunistic skills.

Man: What else do you like besides dancing?

Man: I am very interested in photography. : Really. Like Lebowitz or something like Mancat? (This is the use of block opportunism)

Woman: Oh, more like Mancat or something like that! Good friends, show excitement. The two find the same topic and start a marathon chat)

The opportunistic technique is to focus on a topic and drop a little "color" to make the other party feel that you are interested. *Same topics, interests, etc. ***Same topics, ***Same interests and hobbies are equal to the intimacy upgrade of the relationship.

Let’s continue reading... … Let’s go deeper and expand the scope of the above conversation.

Man: Interesting. Have you ever heard the saying that a picture is worth a thousand words?

Woman: I’ve heard of it!

Man: Maybe it’s just me, but I think a photo is equal to a thousand feelings. When I look at a painting or a photo, what usually impresses me the most is that the photo can The feeling it gives me. Reminds me that they had to use a camera to capture this scene, because there are no words to express the feeling that this scene is trying to convey...

Woman: Wow! ...

This conversation goes deeper than keywords and involves the communication of feelings and emotions. This is the deep-level method of connecting words and phrases that we will talk about below. There is a lot to talk about this topic, so I will stop here today, and I will continue writing tomorrow or the day after tomorrow.