The heroine's view of love in Jane Eyre

A wife needs the feeling that her marriage is a cooperative relationship. The attitude of men is often that they do housework to help her, and those dirty dishes are her business, not his.

it seems a piece of cake who cleans children's toys and gives them a bath. But psychologists surveyed 95 married people and found that housework is one of the three most likely problems to cause contradictions (the first one is money). A Xin and Li are busy all day. He is a photographer, while she takes care of two young children. A few years ago, their busy life affected the intimate relationship they had. When they go to bed at night, they are actually like two strangers.

keeping in touch during the day has changed things. Li said, "We talked on the phone. Although sometimes it's only for a while, I think we spent some time together. I just want to hear his voice. " Without the initial conversation, wives may feel stressed and alienated, and they will resist intimacy.

She doesn't want gifts such as sexy underwear and kitchen utensils

Why do gifts that don't seem to be a big problem cause big trouble between husband and wife? Women think about the meaning of gifts. Husband often gives his wife a new book by her favorite author, which conveys the message: "I am listening when you are talking, and I want to make you happy." But an oven or sexy underwear makes her feel like a cow. The husband seems to be saying, "I don't know or care what you like, so I just have to make myself happy."

The men complained, "If she wanted me to give her something special as a birthday present, why didn't she tell me?" At the same time, the woman is thinking, "if I have to tell you, I don't feel like a woman, because it means you don't think about me at all."

Num put up with it for several years, and her husband gave her a knife as a gift. Later, he finally understood how important the gift was to her. "Now if he sees what I appreciate, he will remember it and give me a surprise on my birthday in six months. This makes me feel how much he loves me. "

When a woman asks, "Do I look fat in these jeans?" When asking such questions, they are actually saying that they feel lack of self-confidence. The correct response is not simply yes or no, no matter what you say, just make her feel loved and safe.