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Speaking of (hereinafter referred to as Han Jie)' s life experience, it is really a bitter history full of sympathy:

When I was a child, my parents were busy with work and often traveled at the same time. She can only stay nearby, and her life near the fence has created her sensitive personality.

Out of guilt and compensation, her parents often take her to eat high-calorie western food when she is not on a business trip, which leads to Han Jie's transformation from a beautiful girl to a big fat man, and she is bullied at school.

The results of the college entrance examination are very good, but they can't go to college in China because they chose "disobedience" when filling in their volunteers; When I applied for a foreign school, Ya thought very well. However, due to official mistakes, my 7.5 points were scored as 4.5 points. In the process of reconsideration, I was repeatedly frustrated, and I also delayed the registration time for going to college, which almost delayed me for a school year.

Not to mention all kinds of difficulties in study and life, Sister Han also suffers from many diseases. Severe patients can't get out of bed for half a month, and their condition is complicated, which requires the most authoritative doctor and dean to consult together.

However, it is such a woman who has been devastated by all kinds of life, but she has obtained undergraduate and master's degrees with excellent results overseas. After graduation, I entered Phoenix TV and became an excellent reporter. After resigning to run a self-media account, he has more than 6 million fans in Tik Tok.

Many people asked Sister Han about the way out of her misery and the secret of her self-achievement, so she came up with this book Understanding: The Fearless Truth. This book not only witnessed the growth and transformation of Han Jie in the first half of her life, but also summed up the wisdom of life she learned in her sufferings.

Next, let's follow the growth track of Sister Han and witness the wisdom and unlimited potential of life together.

0 1 school bullying is common, and the flower of evil is never exclusive to adults.

25-year-old photographer Lou Dawson committed suicide on his birthday. He wrote in his suicide note that when he was a child, because he was quiet and clever, he was not as lively and noisy as other boys. He was considered a sissy by his classmates, excluded, verbally violent and even forced to kneel. School bullying gave way to Dawson and felt extremely inferior and negative, which laid the groundwork for his future tragedy.

And our hero, Sister Han, also met school bullying when she was in boarding school in junior high school.

The obese figure was often laughed at, and the victory of the first-grade monitor election offended another prominent family monitor candidate. At that time, Sister Han realized the truth and helplessness of this world for the first time: the innuendo of society on campus will not only make children lose their innocence, but also make the so-called people's teachers lose their moral bottom line.

Sister Han was squeezed out by the people around her in order to please another classmate with a prominent family. Her school and daily necessities are often lost; Test papers are always thrown into the toilet; Fruit skins and leftover bones often appear on plates; Sharp objects such as sewing needles often appear in quilts; Even if you sleep in the middle of the night, you will be filled with water.

The head teacher was well aware of what happened to Han Jie, but she chose to turn a blind eye. She often finds various reasons to criticize Sister Han by name in class and tells her that "your subject is hopeless for life". At that time, Sister Han's belief in learning this subject collapsed completely, and her only enthusiasm and confidence in the subject taught by that teacher was exhausted because she was not recognized.

At first, Sister Han was weak. When she was bullied, she always chose patience, but there was always a limit to patience. When Han Jie saw that her toiletries and clothes were gone again one day, she knew that if she didn't resist, it would be endless bullying to wait for her in the future.

So Han Jie walked into the dormitory of those who often bullied her, threw their toiletries into the trash can, and cut their underwear with scissors ... Later, Han Jie was greeted by a quiet and peaceful junior high school life.

As the saying goes, "Laughing too much will make you sick." . Sometimes, if you express your anger correctly, the world will treat you fairer.

When recalling this experience, Han Jie said: "When you can't retire, don't think about anything, keep going and don't look back. Every road to success has a thick wall of negation, and behind the wall is another world. "

Seeing a doctor requires cognition, and pain is also a kind of growth.

Sister Han suffers from congenital odontoma (multiple teeth need to be extracted constantly), and has been running between various dental clinics since 10. After the failure of the first orthodontic treatment, it also caused occlusal disorder syndrome, and every year I have to stay in the clinic for several months because of the operation of implanting dental bone powder.

During junior high school, Han Jie was also hit in the temple by a football when passing by the stadium, causing a moderate concussion that lasted for several days and even left sequelae. However, the worse is yet to come.

On 20 12, Sister Han had a small car accident on her way home, and two cars collided. Although she was a little dizzy at that time, she looked fine. I thought I could get well by going back to sleep, but I couldn't get out of bed the next day and felt dizzy and nauseous.

It was only after examination that Han Jie suffered from atlantoaxial subluxation caused by trauma, and the frequent recurrence of this disease made her almost useless. During the attack, she can't do any movements related to bowing her head, such as cutting vegetables and picking up things. She must also stand up and work so that the things on the table are parallel to her sight.

The problem of atlas and axis will also affect the nerves. Whenever the wind blows or the temperature changes, Sister Han suffers from migraine and neuralgia. She must reduce the intake of food that can cause migraine, such as chocolate, cheese, citrus, grapes, red wine and preserved food. Many people jokingly said to her, "You can't eat so much delicious food. What's the fun of your life? "

In fact, for Han Jie, it is not only the body that needs to be restored after the accident, but also the psychological rehabilitation and adjustment. In serious cases, not getting up is a great impact on self-esteem, and not being able to bow your head also brings a lot of inconvenience to life and work. Take Han Jie's words: "All of a sudden, the things you are used to are different, and the things you can do are different. Ordinary things like going out to tie your shoelaces are now so extravagant. "

After many treatments, Sister Han realized that seeing a doctor also requires cognition. Don't get caught up in it, and always compare yourself with your original healthy self. Patients need to lower their expectations for recovery, otherwise they will have a grievance of "I can never get well", which will turn into resentment against others in the long run.

In fact, as long as the body develops actively on the basis of treatment, it is a good thing. For the cold sister, getting sick is more like a way of self-thinking and guiding her to improve her cognition. Because Sister Han has always believed that frustration and pain can make people grow.

It is not easy to survive in the workplace. The sooner you know some rules, the better?

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When she was a reporter on Phoenix TV, Sister Han often had to travel around the world. Due to cultural differences, when Han Jie felt that her female identity was treated unfairly, she failed to control her emotions and had friction with other staff members.

That night, Sister Han sent an email to the supervisor to review and apologize. The other party only replied with a short sentence: "Don't treat luck as a gift easily, and don't treat temper as a skill."

Indeed, talented people are not uncommon, and it is not difficult to find people who are gentler and smoother than us. If you want to survive in the workplace for a long time, you must be clear about the thinking mode of some people in the workplace. Sister Han gave some suggestions:

First of all, leaders care about the results rather than the process. What they care about is how many indicators have been completed and how high the customer conversion rate is, rather than really caring about how many extra shifts you have worked and how many nights you have stayed up.

Second, the company does not keep idle people, and will not use the interests of enterprises to pay tuition for individuals until you grow up. If you want to gain a foothold in the workplace, you must be valuable to the company and be able to solve certain problems for the company;

Third, in the workplace, even if someone gives you "hard shoes", you should basically forbear without touching the principles and bottom line, because a job usually needs the cooperation of multiple departments, and you can't kill your future;

Fourth, if we want to make progress, we must benefit others and pay more attention to the overall interests of the company;

Fifth, in the workplace, even if you are the aggrieved party, you should learn to digest and grow by yourself. It is an obligation for others to help you, and it is also an obligation not to help you;

Sixth, words should be soft and things should be hard.

The so-called "speaking softly" means that you should know how to speak and do things, and look at everything from eyebrows to eyes. Inspired by the predecessors, even if it is criticism, we should accept it with an open mind, so that we can correct it if we have it, and encourage it if we don't.

"Work hard" means that we should work hard on our own professional ability and make ourselves "irreplaceable without you" in the company's professional field, because business ability is always the most difficult self-confidence in the workplace.

If you can't stop yourself from struggling to survive in the workplace, try to find out the "hidden rules" in the workplace and increase the probability of survival and development. The workplace is not a wayward place. If you don't follow the rules, you will be easily kicked out.

If there is light in the heart, it will not be abandoned by the sun.

Sister Han's life has experienced ups and downs. If you take each paragraph apart and put it on someone else, I'm afraid it will take a long time to heal and recover. Han Jie, who has suffered many hardships, has not been defeated at any level, but has been tempered by every setback to become more mature and wise.

When reading the book Understanding: The Fearless Truth, this book embodies the hardships and wisdom of Han Jie at all stages of her life, and I can't help but admire her positive attitude and superior perception. The delicate inner description in the book can always make readers have a strong sense of resonance, and the life experience summarized by Sister Han can also be used for reference by people who encounter life, workplace and health problems. Many problems that have been puzzling for a long time before are enlightened by a few words from Sister Han in the book.

I extracted some words that touched me a lot and shared them with you:

"Life is elegant. In addition to the affirmation of others, we should have inner calmness and calmness.

We should learn to affirm ourselves instead of expecting others' affirmation; Learn to reconcile with the past, don't let your past self bind your present self, and don't let your future self hate your present self.

When you are strong, people around you who are cold to you will naturally become cheerful. No one will explore the process of your growth, only you know that you are slowly changing.

We should read more books about life and philosophy, because they will accompany us like a refuge. It will protect you when you encounter sudden changes; It will also help you regain the courage to face life after trauma. ?

You can't force everyone to do what you want, but you can choose to be soft and principled, wear armor and have temperature.

Working with people you like is not a skill; But being able to treat people you don't like rationally and work with him is the skill.

The wisest way for adults to live is to be three points enthusiastic, two points weak, four points careless, and the last point free. ?

The books we have read have shaped our values and world outlook, and will also bring us many different thoughts. We can always stay awake, repair ourselves and improve ourselves. "

I hope everyone's life is smooth sailing, and I hope we can all have a sunny attitude, tenacious perseverance and firm wisdom to grow from difficulties.