Should I invite you to dinner when I get the scholarship?

This is the seventh issue of Hedgehog One Dollar Convenience Store.

Solve troubles and doubts with hedgehogs every Saturday.

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Hello, I'm the manager of Hedgehog's "One Dollar Convenience Store". Last week, we successfully praised 1500, silently saying that all friends who chose featured messages had already sent 5 yuan red envelopes, and the store manager decided to put some screenshots here! After all, you can't get rich quietly. ...

By the way, I want to warn you in advance that there will be a mysterious gift for you at the "one dollar convenience store" next week. It is said that everyone has a share!

"Why didn't you invite me to dinner when you got a scholarship?"

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To the magical 1 yuan convenience store:

Mr. Hedgehog, I have always had a question. Do scholarship recipients have to invite them to dinner?

When the scholarship list was announced, all the students were clamoring in the group to treat everyone to a big meal with so much money, but I found that many schools seemed to have such unwritten rules, but the scholarship was the result of my studying hard in class and even staying up late to write papers when others were out surfing. Why should I share it with others now?

But if I refuse to invite guests, it will appear that I am stingy and unsociable. I really can't figure out why, in everyone's opinion, guests are invited to dinner after getting a scholarship. Why take the fruits of other people's labor for yourself?

Originally, I was going to save this money for future travel, but now it's all gone, so hedgehog, am I too stingy? Is it right to invite your classmates to dinner with a scholarship?

-Xiaoying, a sophomore at Guangzhou University.

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Rabbit sauce

A stray rabbit who loves to eat meat.

First of all, for those students who only clamor for your treat and try their best to take advantage of you, there is no need to compromise themselves and integrate into their group. Those friends who really understand your hardships and care about your feelings will not make such completely unreasonable demands on you. And for those who don't care about you, why do you care about their feelings, right?

Furthermore, it is a ridiculous rule that "if you get a scholarship, you must treat someone". As you said yourself, did your classmates help you stay up late to review or help you study hard for your thesis? If there are really classmates who are helpful to you, I think you will be willing to treat them to a big meal without them.

Third, if you plan to travel with this money, you should speak your mind generously and learn to refuse unreasonable demands. In fact, true friends will certainly understand you. In this way, it will help you identify a large group of false friends and avoid the ineffective social interaction that costs money when you are free.

Also, if you are unhappy, of course, you should express it bravely. After all, the most important thing in life is to be happy. Everyone is a man for the first time. Why should I let you?

But it should be noted here: refusal does not mean offending people and angering people. Rejection is also skillful. For example, the next time they treat you, you can say that my friend is in a hurry and just borrowed money, or say, "Hey, XX got a bonus last time, or we can't treat you together" ... Remember, don't be afraid of offending people and don't live a timid life. I believe that if you decide to refuse, there must be a way.

I hope you can meet better friends and stay away from these moral kidnappers.

No one is qualified to consume your Excellence.

"What if my roommate says he is gay?"

To Huanqiu 1 Yuan Convenience Store

Mr. Hedgehog, there is a problem that has been bothering me for some time. I don't know who to tell. I've been paying attention to hedgehogs for a long time, so I'll submit them to a dollar convenience store.

I am a sophomore now, and I have had a very good relationship with one of my roommates since my freshman year. Basically, classes are all about eating and playing together. He is a little shy and very gentle and considerate. I often bring meals when I play games and sometimes help me wash my socks. Some people called him a sissy before, but recently he suddenly admitted that he was gay, saying that he really regarded me as a friend, so he didn't want to avoid me. ...

I was completely confused when I heard it, because I was probably a boy before the explosion, so now I think that his good feelings for me are a bit strange, and school is about to start. I don't know how to face him, so I want to listen to Mr. Hedgehog's advice. ...

anonymous

The coolest piece of hedgehog feeds the chicken.

Northeast girl with extremely soft heart.

First of all, you should know that there is no difference between homosexuals except sexual orientation. Many homosexuals are really cute (snickering). Your initial panic may be because you haven't been in contact with this group before, so you don't know them at all.

Judging from your description, your roommate should be a caring and gentle person. And your worry is nothing more than fear that people will like you, quietly telling you that people really don't necessarily value you hahaha. The reason why I confess to you is to really help you make friends. So put your mind right and get along as well as before.

If you are still afraid that his kindness to you is out of love, you can choose to express your position and attitude directly, or you can indirectly express yourself "until the explosion" in other ways. Of course, if you really can't accept him, you will continue to be friends with him and gradually alienate him, but don't attack others with your life ~

"Choose a big company or a small company in autumn?"

To Niubi 1 Yuan Convenience Store:

Hello, I am a graduate of 18. Today, I am already preparing for the autumn recruitment, but after investing in several companies, I suddenly feel a little confused. I read all kinds of articles on the internet, and wrote that big companies have the advantages of big companies and small companies have the advantages of small companies. Some people say that this salary is high, while others say that it is better to choose that one. After reading it, I really don't know how to choose.

I didn't have any other internship experience when I was in college. I only started my career once. Later, it failed for some reasons. I want to get back on my feet after graduation, but I want to study in a big company. It's so tangled Hedgehog, can you give me an idea

-A Lang is a senior at Hefei University of Technology.

Net yellow advanced yellow

An illiterate young man who likes photography and travel.

Young man, online writing is true, and it does have its own advantages, but my following passage may be different from theirs. If you want to listen, you might as well read it.

Not including the internship arranged by the school, I did three internships in the university, once in the traditional media in Wuhan, once in a large Internet company in Beijing, and once in the current hedgehog and startup company.

If you go to a big company for an internship in university, I will definitely recommend you to go to a small company after graduation. That kind of small and beautiful startup is also good, it is very training, and one person can be several people. Serious overtime, a little disoriented and weak viability may be the problems of most small companies. However, small companies have a lot of room for growth and their salaries are higher than those of large companies. What they do in a month may take a year in a big company. ...

But as you said, you only started a business once in college, and you should feel the pain on the road to starting a business. If you choose a small company after graduation, it may not last long, because you have never felt it in a big company and have the opportunity to yearn for it. ...

So I suggest you go to a big company simply and directly. As for the advantages of big companies, I believe all the articles you have read have made it very clear, so I won't say much here.

Do not like do not spray

-Previous articles-

The first issue: "Should college students go out to get a room?"

The second issue: "My boss sexually harassed me. What should I do? "

The third issue: "Will girls who masturbate be looked down upon?"

The fourth issue: "Who will the girl give the first time without regret?"

The fifth issue: "garbage roommates, it's really dirty to be with them."

The sixth issue: "What should girlfriends and ex-boyfriends do?"

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