People who can really communicate have these three characteristics.

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Living in this era of developed communication, most of us are active on social media, and direct face-to-face communication with people is becoming less and less. Most people are embarrassed to talk to strangers, and gradually close themselves up.

A student of Peking University, Bird Bird, made fun of himself when he participated in the talk show:

"Even if there is a tiger biting me now, it is hard for me to find someone to save me right away, because if there is no one to save me, I may just be killed by a tiger, but if someone comes to save me, I will greet each other, even if it is Song Wu, I don't know what to call him. Should I call him Mr Wu or AE? Teacher Wu is too distant and you AE is too kind. "

This is a kind of social fear, because I don't want to communicate with others, and I would rather endure the pain of being bitten by a tiger.

The book How to Make Better Friends than You mentions: "Communicating with people is not an elusive magic, but a real skill that can be learned." Then, let's see how to establish contact with others from scratch and make socializing easier.

0 1 Establish links with others quickly.

Nowadays, because of the information explosion, people are more likely to be wary of strangers, and we don't want to associate with someone who has no relationship or interest.

Just like Lily, who distributed leaflets on the street to promote children's photography, she was very upset every day. There were fewer and fewer people willing to take her flyers, and most people waved and walked away, even with children, so she came up with an idea. She prepared some small toys such as balloons and windmills to stop many children. She also successfully promoted them and took several orders.

In the process of communicating with each other, you can praise each other appropriately, for example, one of your accessories is exquisite, or your words are particularly deep, which makes people have the passion to speak further. At the same time, pay attention to the choice of topic and the discretion of speaking, leaving a good initial impression.

Just like Connie, the author of How to Meet People Better than You, when she was a rookie in the workplace, when she reported her work with her immediate female boss or met other female leaders at a cocktail party, she would praise their exquisite clothing collocation and ask them for tips on dressing in the workplace. You may think that they don't want to talk to you because of such a trivial matter, but the fact is that they are happy to share it with Connie, and their relationship has gone further.

Build a deep friendship.

Many people have a misunderstanding in interpersonal communication, that is, what they can accomplish, try not to bother others, but don't know that friends are actually very troublesome. A really good friend is not afraid of you disturbing her. If you are embarrassed to bother her, then she will be embarrassed to bother you in the future, and the feelings between you will continue to fade.

"Xunzi" said: "Friends, so there is also a phase."

Friends should exchange what they need and help each other. Only by bothering each other can the relationship last longer, and troubled friendship is also a true friendship. When we put down our self-esteem and face up to trouble others, we actually give others a chance to get close to us.

Just like Pei Yin, a single mother in the TV series Pi, she always suspected that her son was in love with Lin and found Lin's mother through school. The two people communicated very unhappily, even if they moved and became neighbors upstairs and downstairs, they didn't communicate much.

One day, Pei Yin accidentally cut her hand while cooking, and rushed out only to find that she didn't bring her keys and mobile phone. In desperation, she crustily skin of head went to Wang Shengnan for help. Facing the embarrassment of Pei Yin, Wang Shengnan warmly invited her into the house, bandaged her wound, and even personally climbed the stairs to get the key for her, so they became good girlfriends.

In fact, people need more contact to be more intimate. Just like you and your children, you are getting closer and closer through constant contact and getting along. Just like those left-behind children, their feelings for their parents will not become so deep because they spend less time with their parents.

Of course, if you ask someone for help, you must do what you can, and you can't bring too much trouble to the other party. You should grasp this degree well, otherwise it will only make people bored. For example, you always ask a foreign friend to buy it for you, but if his place is far from the downtown store, it will bring trouble to the other party.

Meet someone better.

Jim rohn, the founder of successful science, once said that a person's level is the average of the five people he contacts the most.

Think about it, what are the five people we contact the most, and can they bring us promotion? If you want to go further in the future, you must meet better people. And excellent people often care about what kind of value you can create for them.

Mr. farage, the author of Don't Eat Alone, has a father who is a worker in an ordinary factory and a mother who is a domestic cleaner in someone else's house. He comes from an ordinary family and has no personal advantages and resources. However, when he served Pohland in a golf club as a child, he provided meticulous service and helped him win personal relationships.

For the sake of Ms. Pohland's health, he will hide her cigarettes. Before each game, he would go to the stadium to help her check the quality of each hole and test the speed of the ball sliding in advance. Such thoughtful service has helped Ms. Pohland win many competitions, so Ms. Pohland recommended him to many friends around her and brought him many resources. # Double Eleven Good Things Festival Emotional Special Session #

In this way, farage won the title of "Best Caddy of the Year" in the annual selection, and also had more opportunities to serve the big shots, greatly expanding his contacts, and made friends with many big shots through his own efforts, and finally became the master of Clinton and Hillary's royal contacts.

It can be seen that you have achieved yourself as well as others. In the process of serving others, we can keep growing, keep in touch with better people, become friends, and make our living resources more quality.