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How to chat with women: five-step skills

How to chat with women? In life, boys don't know how to chat with girls they like, which leads to their bad impression in girls' hearts. Boys want to have a pleasant atmosphere when chatting with girls, so boys need to know some chatting skills. Here are five tips on how to chat with women that I share with you. I hope it will help you!

How to chat with women? Five-step skills 1 1. When a girl is at work,

Boy: What are you doing?

Girl: I'm at work now

There are usually boys who say that. This must be hard. Then get busy first and leave you alone!

Chatting, in the final analysis, is to drive my sister's mood swings, so that she can't forget you and always want to chat with you. In fact, these are all the books I read on the Internet before-the manipulation of love. I have also seriously practiced some methods of chasing girls taught in the books, especially chatting with my heart, which is really practical. Now I can't remember how many girls came out, and I have a good relationship with my current girlfriend. I have been hesitating about getting married so early. After all, I still want to surf for two years, I understand. If you have a single brother, you can look and learn. There are e-books on the internet. Go and find them.

When the girl is listening to the class.

Boy: What are you doing?

Girl: I'm at school now.

Usually boys will say, then listen carefully and stop talking.

When you are listening carefully, you should also look at the messages returned by your mobile phone, which shows that she doesn't like chatting with you, but many boys don't understand it.

3. When girls stay up late and work overtime,

Boy: What are you doing?

Girl: Still in the company.

Usually boys will say, then pay attention to safety when you go home, and remember to send me a text message when you get home.

The girl is at home on Sunday.

Boy: What are you doing?

Girl: Play at home.

Usually boys will say: Are you at home alone? Did you have lunch?

5. When girls are resting at home.

Boy: What are you doing?

Girl: I rest at home.

Usually boys will say: Where am I? Let's play together.

6. When a girl plays a drama at home,

Boy: What are you doing?

Girl: What am I watching at home?

Usually boys will say: it's quite hot recently. Does it look nice?

How to chat with women? Five-step Skills 2 Everything with norms and standards is industrial products, and "pursuit" is an art, so there is no correct answer to this question.

Anyone who has been paying attention to me for a long time knows that I have long stopped positioning myself as pua or bubble school.

Everyone can feel more or less that many of pua's skills and mentality adjustments are based on "not being happy with things" in exchange for "not being sad for yourself" to reduce their emotional fluctuations, and after success, they will break up because of their own essential problems.

I said that ordinary people can have love, and I will make sure that what you have is "love", not an imaginary partner with accumulated skills.

What many boys call love at first sight is just a beautiful misunderstanding.

I believe that boys who fall in love at first sight often go straight into the pursuit state and then pay blindly. With the increase of pay, they will be more and more sure of the correctness of "love at first sight" and fall into an infinite loop.

All pua will tell you that if you want to hide the sense of demand in the early stage, it will be very uncomfortable to hide it, and even give away the clues if you are not careful.

Once upon a time, we should think twice from the first sentence we said to girls and try our best to please an uncertain variable.

I will tell you that you should never say that you like a girl without knowing her, and give her an inspection period from the inside out.

Go too far, Do not forget your initiative mind. Love is a matter of two people, and the pursuit should not be self-satisfaction or conspiracy theories.

We say that "girls are not pursued, but attracted", which is quite right and reasonable. It is worth knowing in detail. What is the benign and concrete progressive relationship?

Friends-mutual attraction-double choice-ambiguity-definite relationship

friend

Ideal state: stable

Applicable skills: praise appropriately, push and pull, discover and establish common interests.

1, praise it appropriately

The so-called proper praise should meet the following characteristics:

① Specific:

The typical mistake is to praise girls for being beautiful, especially those who are really beautiful.

Typical correctness is to praise a certain point in girls' five senses in detail, thus attracting girls' attention.

② Difference:

That is to say, she is defined as the winner in a competition. For example, Li Bingbing is not as good-looking as her in the same clothes.

③ Rare:

What is appropriate is appropriate, and when praise is too easy to get, it will lose its original meaning.

④ Recessive:

Praise her implicit values, such as "caring, kindness, independence and courage", and try to avoid the praise of explicit values, such as "white, rich and beautiful".

⑤ Dual-core hiding:

The sentence pattern is "You have ... and I also ..."

Praise has two themes. The first praised her, and the second laughed at her longboard.

Let's expand, sometimes girls will be slower. The big reason is that we send too little information, which is difficult to pick up. We should try our best to bury the information in the transition section of the topic.

2. Push-pull teasing

Don't be afraid to push: since we are still friends, don't be afraid of her getting angry. Even if it is broken, it will only be done by saying "I'm sorry, the joke has been played".

2 what can't be pushed: some taboo topics die when pushed, and she doesn't give you time to pull them back.

If you say "she is short", she is really short. If you push her "flat chest", it turns out that she is really flat chest. In her opinion, this is not a push, but a joke.

Another example is to push her "snobbish", "mercenary" and "low emotional intelligence" In her view, this is not pushing, but belittling, insulting and swearing.

In short, shortcomings cannot be pushed, sensitive moral points cannot be pushed, and social attraction cannot be pushed.

(3) How to pull it: Friend, you can't pull it too close, just a little closer than before pushing it out.

3. Discover and build common interests.

1 niche: there are high and low. The square dance aunt listens to the most dazzling national style together and does not give in to each other;

When you listen to a minority singer who has been locked up with her for a long time, you will instantly become the only one of the other, at least, when listening to the song.

② Establishment: This is a process of interest exchange. You should try to choose the best product for her, she is easy to accept.

You should have a comprehensive understanding of what she gives you, and choose some parts to develop the same interests.

Consistency: When you say you like it, you really like it. Don't say "Wow, what a coincidence, I like it …" before you finish your homework. A few simple words are all black.

Step 2: attract each other

Ideal state: * * Gender identity

Application skills: in-depth topic * * *, defect rationalization, hidden value display, advantage area * * * enjoyment.

1, in-depth topic * * *

What topic is depth: love view, emotional history, world outlook, values and growing pains. ...

2 Focus: Focus on her and guide her to tell her own story.

(3) * * * Ming:

A simple sentence "Me too ..."

I think ... what about you?

Advanced sentence "I met you like this for the first time ... and they all ..."

④ Influence:

Instill your own thoughts and thoughts, brainwash her.

2. Rationalization of defects

①: If girls don't like material things, what's the point of my struggle?

②: It's not that you have a bad temper, but that those people's emotional intelligence is too low.

It's not that you are willful, but that they are too impatient.

It's not your fault, but they are all wrong.

3. Implicit value display

(1) What is the hidden value?

Strong action, responsible, caring, smart, serious, down-to-earth life, positive attitude towards life, etc.

② Display mode:

Let her summarize and find out through trivial matters or living conditions, and don't directly tell her "I am a caring and responsible man".

③ misunderstanding:

The explicit value is displayed incorrectly, such as "high salary, car keys are in the most obvious place on the table"

You cannot hide your power. Deliberately showing it is forcing her to convince herself that it is not because of these choices. Usually, they can't convince themselves.

4. Dominant areas * * *

Everyone has his own bright spots, such as design, reading, emotional intelligence, photography and so on.

By giving high recognition to her corresponding aesthetics, understanding and viewpoints, she has a false high-value point here, but not in other places.

Step 3: Double choice

Ideal state: personality attraction

Applicable skills: scene description, vague invitation, fragile performance-bedding.

1, scene description

The real scene description is to bring both sides into the scene, or leave a place for her to bring herself into the role.

One of the most efficient ways is to describe your love very well through scene description.

For example, before a student was questioned by a girl, was it a little male chauvinism? The answer I gave him was a scene description:

"I think a good love should be to make both people better and comfortable, instead of restricting each other and becoming an obstacle to each other.

Just like a quiet afternoon, two people sit and drink coffee, and they can talk a lot or not say a word. I wonder if you can understand me? "

The most important thing is that the last question was thrown out, forcing her to bring it in and become the person sitting opposite me for coffee that afternoon.

2. Fuzzy invitation

Fuzzy invitation will not receive a clear rejection, but it will be ignored and transferred. This reaction also represents the failure of the invitation.

In the double-choice stage, any interaction failure is to lose weight. In order to avoid losing points, we should choose to make vague invitations when girls behave well. If she catches this vague invitation, she will directly turn it into a clear invitation and determine the time and place.

3. Show vulnerability-indicates an outbreak

"Tell you one thing, I have never told foreigners ..."

It doesn't matter whether it's true or not, whether it's big or small or not. As long as the fragile surface of the display can play the following three roles, then you must say:

(1): Give her uniqueness.

②: Long-term foreshadowing.

③: Arouse motherhood.

The point of ambush pen is the most interesting. Let me share one of my most commonly used foreshadowing routines:

I will tell her a secret: I am afraid of the cold, far more than ordinary people, and I dare not go out every winter.

The greatest significance of this foreshadowing is that I will be on a snowy winter night:

Ask her out

2. braved the heavy snow to send her something.

Take off your clothes and put them on her in the cold wind.

It is the most romantic thing for girls that vampires bravely face the sun for their lovers.

Step 4: blur

Ideal state: turbulence

Applicable skills: long-term push and pull, language teasing, physical contact.

1, long-line push and pull

Can't the relationship transition from ambiguity to lovers for a long time?

It is likely that she is used to the state of relationship and feels that it is quite good at present, so there is no need to determine the relationship.

Then let her know that we are unstable, we will suddenly disappear for a day or two, we will turn against each other because she made a mistake, and we will have a cold war.

Let her know that there is a better treatment, but only after determining the relationship can she get it.

2. Language teasing

If you dare to say sweet nothings in an ambiguous state, and if you accept them gladly, we can appropriately lower the framework and share some ideas:

She is unique.

I suddenly thought of her. ...

(3): Say some obscene words about her as a girlfriend.

④: Describe the future. She is in the picture.

3. Physical contact

(1) Progressive: Take one inch first, then push, from touching to holding hands, to hugging, to kissing, and then to. ...

Make sense: convince her that you are holding her hand not just for thinking, but for any reason, such as crossing the street.

③ Transfer: During physical contact, transfer her attention through language to convince her that you really didn't mean it and didn't care much about physical contact.

Release: When you let go of your hand after crossing the street, the other person will bring better feedback in the following contact because of the inevitable sense of loss.

Step 5: Determine the relationship.

Ideal state: sweet

Applicable skills: None

What seems to be the most important confession is actually the least technical step. What needs to be done has been done, and a layer of paper can be broken.

After five steps, we can obviously find it easier to get to the back, which is also in line with our core theory:

The greater your irreplaceability, the stronger your motivation and fault tolerance.

Don't have a fixed routine. Every sentence and every action should be combined with specific context and relationship to choose a coping style.

She can only judge whether we like her or not by our manners, and only by these can she judge whether we are worthy of her liking.

Don't touch yourself before touching her.

The so-called love is too deep, just pulling in her chips.

6. A close fight is interesting.