Deep relationships and spiritual resources

First, the depth relationship.

The original title is The Depth of Relationship-The Deep Relationship between Underwood and Claire in the House of Cards. Interested parties can check the original text on the official WeChat account "Liang Ning-Taking Pictures with Leisure Flowers" (ID: Cafe Day). The following is a wonderful excerpt.

Intoxicated by the spring breeze, catkins are in succession. Walking on the lawn path, I remembered the scene of Underwood and Claire running together in the first scene of the second season of House of Cards.

In the scene of House of Cards, when husband and wife are alone, they always smoke or run in front of the window together. There was never a scene where Underwood and Claire were lying in bed together and chatting casually.

Claire's lover Adam is a sensitive photographer. Claire hooked up with her husband's cheating partner and left home for Adam. Two people hug to sleep, wake up and don't get up immediately, but snuggle up in bed to continue chatting-this is never around Underwood.

The average woman, even if she finds the so-called love, should stay here. But Claire told Adam: I love you only once in a while, for a week. Then, continue back to Underwood.

Why? Because Claire and Underwood have a deeper relationship than Adam.

I once said in an article that people who are important in life are a place of continuous happiness. Everyone can't refuse their true happiness, and they can't help spending their time on what they like and unconsciously investing 10 thousand hours there.

However, the highest achievers have a talent more important than happiness-pain.

Some people can't stand the pain of not being surrounded by others;

Some people can't stand the pain that they are not the focus of attention;

Some people can't stand the pain of others in front of him and above him;

Some people can't stand the pain of "I didn't sit in the chair I wanted" ...

Climbing up, strict self-discipline, thinking day and night, trying hard ... It's really unhappy day after day, but what drives them is pain. Great pain, so that they can not stop.

What do you mean by ordinary people? Happiness is not so strong and pain is not so great. Therefore, their lives will run relatively smoothly on the established track, and they will not be dragged down and torn by happiness and pain, and they will be endlessly tossed.

What do you mean by skilled people? It is when he sinks down to do something that he takes great pains and enjoys it, completely ignoring the surprise or incomprehension of others.

What is an outstanding person? Is the one he wants, can't get it, as painful as millions of ants eating his heart. Sacrifice anything, he must get what he wants.

When he is no longer in pain, maybe he has surpassed it, maybe he is mediocre.

Therefore, if you want to be with an excellent person, you must understand his real happiness, his real pain and give him energy.

In House of Cards, many men like Claire and her elegance, intelligence and propriety.

In Claire's heart, it is her great ambition to ignite, push and torture her all the time.

Adam said to Claire, You always want attention. Claire shook her head and said, not only that, but I also want to be important.

A woman with such an ambitious core, 99.9% of men won't like her, they just want her likable side.

Only Underwood, a poor boy, understands this rich girl tortured by ambition. Because he has the same pain. For those who have such great pain, happiness is so short and cheap.

Talent and beauty are really exciting. It's really a good life to have a relaxed mood in a beautiful morning, have breakfast together, take a walk together and create together.

However, for people like Underwood and Claire, the pain of "I didn't sit in the chair I wanted" made them fascinated by trouble sleeping. A relaxed and comfortable life can't soothe her pain.

Only by returning to the battlefield, returning to her partner, taking up arms and continuing to prepare for war can she relieve her anxiety. God knows if you can win. However, they are preparing, they are doing things, they are advancing inch by inch, and he is with her. Only in all these actions can her pain be comforted.

This is the depth of the relationship between people.

Underwood went to young Zoe again and again. There is no doubt that Zoe gave him joy, but Zoe could not understand his pain.

A phone call and a kiss from Adam can make Claire smile, but Adam can't understand Claire's pain.

Underwood and Claire can have fun with countless people. But only the two of them can really share the pain They exchanged too much energy and too many souls with each other.

It is difficult for two people to separate each other from their own lives-this is a profound relationship.

Therefore, it is impossible to really get rid of the overbearing president during the stupid day. Because, she may really give the overbearing president joy, but joy is so fragile.

Whether two people can build deep feelings depends on whether she can understand his pain and how much energy and soul they exchanged.

Therefore, in many people's life relationships, the biggest pain is the relationship with parents. As for getting energy, our life is given by our parents, and their love is the greatest energy in our life. However, when parents can't understand their children's happiness and pain, they only ask their children to play some roles. In fact, the pain of alienation can not be comforted by having a New Year's Eve dinner together.

Chapter two, spiritual resources.

The original title is "A Person's Spiritual Structure and Its Spiritual Resources". If you are interested, you can search the official account of WeChat for "Liang Ning-Taking Water for Idle Flowers" (ID: Cafe Day) to see the original text. There is a bibliography recommendation at the end of the original text. The following is a wonderful excerpt.

Last month, my parents and I traveled in Europe for a month. In the meantime, I read an article analyzing the differences between Elizabeth I and Empress Dowager Cixi. Both of them are women with super ruling ability and have been in charge of the country for more than 40 years.

Elizabeth I ruled for nearly half a century, and Britain became one of the most powerful countries in Europe. British culture also reached a peak in this period, with the emergence of masters such as Shakespeare and Francis Bacon. At the same time, Britain established its own navigation ability and began to establish colonies in North America.

The reign of Elizabeth I is called the "golden age" in British history.

Cixi, who was born 300 years later than Elizabeth I, our China, with her life's skill and wisdom, kept her door closed and her mind imprisoned.

The article says that the first difference between two people is "spiritual resources".

Elizabeth's childhood teacher was roger ascham, a famous humanist in the English Renaissance. Elizabeth knows six languages, and her spiritual resources include Aristotle, Caesar and Columbus. ......

Cixi's spiritual resources are operas such as Zi Tong Zhi Jian, Pulling a Pulling Block and Shiro Visiting Mother ... These contents formed the world outlook and spiritual structure of our supreme ruler at that time.

Why does the family environment have a greater impact on a person's life than the education he received at school? Because family and family education give a child habits and spiritual resources that affect his life.

Some parents are afraid of affecting their children's academic performance and forbid their children to read extracurricular books. However, when a child becomes an adult, all the important decisions in his life are not based on whether he scored 90 or 60 in the math exam, but on the spiritual resources you have provided him intentionally or unintentionally since he was a child.

Spiritual resources will form his spiritual structure. Spiritual structure will dominate his goodwill and shame, his wishes, dreams and fears all his life, thus affecting all his future decisions.

On the way from Serbia to Lisbon, Sweet Summer, a blog in China, asked me to recommend five books, and I replied to Three-body, New Song, Glory and Dream, Broached List and Hedge Fund.

The story of "Three-body" is familiar to almost many friends.

"Three-body" gave a gloomy ending, and the description by the author Liu made me think a lot. Humans on earth witnessed the sun going out before their eyes. Then the earth people standing on Jupiter watched the earth rolled into a small blue in a painting, and finally the whole solar system was destroyed.

The direct cause of the destruction of the solar system and the basic extinction of the earth people is a beautiful woman named Cheng Xin. At that time, she had the highest authority in the human world, but she made the wrong decision twice in a row. Finally, the water under the bridge.

The heroine "Cheng Xin" looks like Cixi to me.

It is necessary to understand that Cixi is a mature person and will not be demonized in those legendary stories. Her ministers include Zeng Guofan, Zuo, Li Hongzhang, Zhang Zhidong and Yuan Shikai ... If each of these people appeared in the late Han, Tang, Song and Ming Dynasties, they could be absolute monarchs and lead the abolition of the DPRK, but under the rule of Cixi for decades, no one was disloyal.

Cixi's political and personal charm can be seen.

Cheng Xin also has the charm of dumping "Cloud Tian Ming" and voters all over the world.

However, Cheng Xin and Cixi have charms that can influence people's hearts. However, they do not have the spiritual structure to lead a race that is not dominant in knowledge and technology, split the Red Sea, break the wrist of a strong man, and open up their own living space in the competition of the universe.

Whether it is Cixi or Cixi, the child's spiritual trait is "Gouan".

I once talked to a NASA employee about Three-body, and he said:

The mileage center of "Three-body" made two important and wrong decisions: giving up the deterrence of the three-body people and giving up the research and development of the curved spacecraft. This is because her spiritual world is only a little visible to her eyes now. She will only make a decision on the basis of avoiding making her little mental structure feel pain.

In the book, the earth people meekly and numbly accepted the decision that would inevitably lead to genocide. Everyone chose the present peace and harmony, and did not expect that future generations would be destroyed.

Liu wrote about the expansion of proton seven-dimensional space and the sadness of the destruction of the solar system. But he can't write how a higher earth civilization will organize and implement major public events in a hundred years.

Perhaps, this is also our spiritual resources, leading to the overall lack of spiritual structure.