What is the most important gap between famous schools and non-famous schools?

The most important gap between famous schools and non-famous schools is not the salary after graduation, nor the academic level, but the way of thinking and the standard of doing things.

1. The gap between famous schools and non-famous schools is not the difference in income, but the way of thinking and the standard of doing things.

I have been unable to describe this gap clearly until I saw a passage in the book Progress recently, which is very appropriate:

"A mature person, his standards are from the heart, and most people are influenced by the environment. When a young person enters a less excellent university, he will involuntarily lower his standards to adapt to this environment and reduce the conflict between himself and the environment, which may be fatal to their lives. "

"Those students who are admitted to second-and third-tier universities are easy to consciously' satisfy' under low standards every day because of the frustration brought by the college entrance examination itself, the timely identity setting and environment of students in second-and third-tier universities, the disappointment brought by incompetent teachers, and the driving role of laissez-faire atmosphere among students."

Seeing this passage, I thought of my feelings when I was a junior and a senior at Peking University. What shocked me most at Peking University was not the number of teachers and the cleverness of classmates, but the atmosphere in which everyone worked hard. For example, after the final exam, the study room is still brightly lit, classes are always crowded, and the class time is changed to 20 minutes between classes. The school is full of people running with bread in their mouths. Everyone has no time to study crazily and take part in various activities. In my eyes, they are always full of fighting spirit and are particularly excited about various competitions and activities. They are as busy as a bee every day, and it is common for them to go to bed at one or two in the evening. No one complains that he is hard, and no one complains that life is hard. Everyone is busy every day, but they are all happy.

What I always remember is this mental state of life and study that emanates from everyone. This state can't help but drive me. Although I am far away from them, it constantly inspires me to keep up with their standards. Until now, I have been demanding myself by the standards of the best people I can meet around me. Although I often can't do it, it makes me feel that I am a person who has requirements for myself. I live in self-discipline and introspection and have been making great progress.

My university is two schools, and netizens from two schools have written to me to reflect the current situation. For example, if you study hard, you will be rejected by people around you. Students complain that the teacher doesn't sleep in the dormitory every day and the learning atmosphere is very poor. You only study hard during exams, and so on. And some students who work a little harder (such as me) will feel good if they don't look at the real world outside, or feel that their efforts are rejected and isolated by their classmates, which may be their own fault.

In fact, every student has a hard-working attitude when he enters the university. There are good students in one or two books and hard-working people. But why did it disappear as soon as you walked? In fact, it is these words in Diligence that "we will involuntarily lower our standards to adapt to this environment, reduce our conflicts with the environment, and consciously' satisfy' every day under low standards."

2. Why do famous enterprises like students from famous schools?

Why do famous enterprises like students from famous schools? Non-prestigious schools expressed dissatisfaction. At that time, I felt very unconvinced, and the students from non-prestigious schools also worked hard. Why did they kill them all with sticks? It took me a long time to understand that what famous enterprises want is not a high GPA score, but an internal mental state. As described in the article "How do young people with an annual salary of one million live": "Those young people with an annual salary of one million still choose high-paying jobs until late at night, and their status is far from the same. Every day, they are excited and positive about making the world a better place. Their efforts are not called hard work, nor are they for millions of annual salary. Hard work is their road to self-realization, and self-realization makes him infinitely happy. This world is a group of people running at high speed day and night, and another group of people get up and find that the world has changed. "

Do you feel pushed to a higher position?

What are the working and living conditions of most of us?

With a little effort, we began to pay attention to fairness. When I was frustrated, I began to complain about the company and the leaders. After reading a few pages, I feel particularly motivated. After working hard for a few days, I feel that I should enjoy my life quickly. If I work overtime for a few days, I'm afraid I'll die of overwork. I am not happy when I meet some trivial things, as if I have met a big problem in my life that I can't solve. People who see awesome will envy them, but they can't break through hard work but can't get spells.

Of course, this can't be said to be dead. Famous schools are not necessarily 65,438+000%, and non-famous schools also have excellent talents. But on a large scale, a person will be greatly influenced by the environment. "Diligence" also said: "It is appropriate for a second-rate or third-rate university student to bravely demand himself from the middle-level or even high-level students of famous schools, and he will certainly do so. I sent this sentence to a university teacher. She said to me, "It's too difficult, so I asked my students, but the level difference is too big for most students to understand." Maybe they will understand after graduation. "

But it is estimated that it will be difficult to understand after graduation. There is no requirement for yourself at school, and it will be more difficult to enter a noisy social environment. Therefore, hard-working people always seem so unsociable.

3. The stronger the ability, the harder you work; The richer you are, the more motivated you are.

When I went back to my hometown a few days ago, my sister asked me, what do you think is the biggest difference between Beijing and second-and third-tier cities? I said: "Compared with second-and third-tier cities, Beijing's own crowd level is different. My summary is a few words:' The more capable you are, the harder you work; The richer you are, the more motivated you are. "

While writing this article, a friend came to me to discuss things. She will have twins in 50 days. My sister has been financially free for many years. During her pregnancy, she opened two more companies to create a platform for women's financial management (I often see her with a lot of white, degenerate! )。 You may ask, "Who are these people?" This is ordinary people, those who are financially free, rich and capable.

After entering the society for ten years and eight years, the difference in fame and basic academic education brought by famous schools and non-famous schools is gradually becoming less obvious, and it is more a contest of personal experience, experience and socialization. Some people live better and better, some people can't find the north, and even life is getting worse and worse. The main reason for all these differences comes from the human spiritual core. Simply put, attitude determines behavior, and behavior determines the result. Whether you are an enterprising person or a person who likes to complain about laziness directly determines your later life.

At this moment, half of a person's spiritual core comes from his requirements and changes after entering the society, and half comes from his thinking and living habits developed since childhood. The former has great opportunities to change, but it needs great efforts. Many universities we see in the society are ordinary, but the elites who enter the society all come out from here. Through constant self-innovation and experience, they remolded themselves after entering the society. Others, who have come out of the atmosphere of famous schools, have always been very demanding of themselves, and they live in such a level and circle, and their classmates and colleagues are different people. You will find that among leaders or famous enterprises, they all exist hand in hand.

But no matter how rich these people are, their similarities are special efforts and diligence. This kind of diligence is not only for yourself, but also for your partner and children. I chatted with a friend the other day. She is a social celebrity, her husband is a well-known photographer, and there is a girl about five years old. She told me that there would be many training courses when the children were older, and so on. She listed five things her daughter brought, dance, piano, equestrian and taekwondo. Maybe you will say that the child is too hard, will she be happy? The answer is that my daughter is super happy and lives like a little princess every day. As soon as kindergarten was over, she hurried to various training classes and often offered to learn this and that. Her mother really doesn't have time to coax her to grow up before going.

You feel hard because you think your study life is very hard, and you think it is even harder for a child to learn so much. In these people's lives, curiosity, hard work and positivity are the norm, and they take it for granted.

What is the gap between famous schools and non-famous schools, whether it is the gap in income level or the gap in living standards after graduation, it is difficult for us to make it clear and harsh. But if we look at it from another angle, from the perspective of thinking mode and attitude, the self-discipline, enthusiasm and courage brought by famous schools can affect people for a lifetime, even generations. Money is hard to pass on from generation to generation, but the spirit can be passed on forever. Even those who are not famous schools but still make extraordinary achievements in society have the same spiritual temperament. These outstanding people who have undergone self-transformation and great efforts to reshape, together with those outstanding talents from famous schools, are active on the stage of life and create their own glory.

Of course, it is not a prestigious school. What if there is no glory? Just like the sentence in the article, students in ordinary second-and third-rate universities demand themselves by the standards of famous schools, while ordinary people demand themselves by the standards of cattle. Even if they don't become the outstanding one, they must be better than themselves now.

I saw a sentence in "New Oriental Spirit": "You should use the standards of cattle people to demand yourself, keep walking among cattle people and narrow the distance with them. When you think you can be one of them, you can become a real cow. "