Will you be happy to marry someone who loves you very much but doesn't love you?

Hello, Kai Zi, I've been thinking about whether to write this letter to you for a long time, because I'm afraid I can't wait for your reply, so I ask you to give me some advice this time.

It's been half a month since we broke up, but we still can't calm down for a long time. My boyfriend and I have experienced four years of long-distance love this year. He is a soldier, so he is also a military lover. He has been in the army for eight years and has only a junior high school education. I just practiced as an undergraduate this year. Our two hometowns are in the same province, both in the next county. His troops are in a province in the north not far from his hometown, while I was in a province in the south when I was studying, and now I am practicing in a province in the south.

Every holiday, he flies to a province to see me. After two years together, I told my parents about it. My parents don't agree. They think he has no future and he is not good enough for me. But I love him and I don't want to give up. Because I haven't graduated, I haven't married, and my parents haven't urged me, so I just saidno. I've been in contact with him and met his parents secretly. His parents like me very much, so my boyfriends are very kind to me.

I always feel that my parents don't understand me when they disagree with me, so I don't want to listen to them completely, but I also respect my parents and won't run counter to them completely. Later, I asked my teachers and girlfriends, and they all felt that we were not suitable, mainly because the educational background gap was too big, so I was entangled … because I was not particularly stubborn. But the thought of my boyfriend's kindness to me makes me puzzled.

I haven't been to see him for several years, because I don't make money or spend his money, and he is miserable with me. I will give him my medal. He is excellent in the army. I am happier with him. In terms of money, he is also generous to me and never stingy, but I don't want to spend too much money on him because I don't think it is easy for him to make money. Last year, he also mentioned that he wanted to buy a house in his county, but I refused to respond. Because if something happens after I give advice, he will not talk, and I can feel that he loves me.

But this year we often quarrel, mainly because we have been apart for too long. I want him to accompany me. He is too busy to accompany me. I am headstrong and quick-tempered, so I lost my temper. The most deadly thing is that you always break up. I have mentioned many times before that he came to me on his own initiative. But this time he broke up and added a WeChat. I refused, and I never contacted again.

I know that as long as I go to find him, he will still come back, but I am afraid that my parents and teachers are experienced people after all, and it is really inappropriate in the future. He is a responsible boy, which I can still feel. So even if I break up, I don't regret loving him, Kai Zi. Do you really think I should let go?

In fact, you have a plan to give up now.

Because you want to give up, but you can't find a suitable reason to give up. Obviously, he is so kind, considerate, caring and willing to spend money for you, but you dislike him. You can't find any bad reason for him except vaguely feeling that he doesn't deserve you, so you will start quarrelling with him and start tossing.

All you do is subconsciously want to find a reason to give up. You don't want to feel too guilty and sad.

You've told me so much, it's not hard to see that it's not a question of letting go now, but that you've decided to let go, and you're still reluctant to give up after so many years, so all you need now is someone telling you not to look back after breaking up. In that case, it's meaningless to say how good he is to you. Let go.