I study wedding photography, but how to overcome my introversion?

See if you are a pseudo-introvert, if you are, you can change as long as you have the right guidance!

There are many reasons for the formation of introverted personality, which can be said to be the result of family education, growth environment and one's own psychology. No matter what causes introversion, we can divide it into two categories, namely, true introversion and false introversion, as the title says.

Since the opening of the self-confidence eloquence training center, many introverted friends have come to ask for help. What is true introversion? A child's mother came to me with her son and talked about her child's anxiety. His son is now in junior high school, and he has not been very active since he was a child. At that time, he thought it was nothing, but it will be fine when he grows up. But with the growth of age, the child has not changed at all, but has become more and more serious. At school, the teacher reflected that he was timid and introverted, never spoke in class, and rarely stayed with other students. He was an unsociable person. Parents and teachers have talked about this problem several times, and there is nothing they can do. Get to know the situation by talking to children. It turns out that children are divorced from their parents and live in single-parent families. He is very self-abased, confused about his present and future life, and rarely communicates with his mother at ordinary times. In such an environment, he developed a withdrawn character. When asked why he didn't talk to other students, he replied, "I don't like to communicate with others." I like being alone and don't want to get in touch with the outside world. " Parents are very worried about this. What should they do when they go to society in the future? No matter how high the degree is, what should I do without contact with the outside world? Finally, the mother wants to keep the child and participate in psychological quality training, hoping to change his situation. Seeing the child's unwilling expression, we politely refused. ...

From this case, we seem to see a truly introverted figure, which has the following characteristics: 1, not actively contacting with the outside world, in passive cases, maybe just coping; 2, don't want to contact with people, lack of interest in interacting with people; There is no urgent need to change one's wishes.

What is false introversion? False introversion can be said to be relatively high and common among introverts. We may have met such people in our life, people closest to us (such as parents, friends, etc. ) It's very comfortable to be eloquent and eloquent. But in some special circumstances, especially in front of your boss, outstanding members of the opposite sex, public places, etc. You will be speechless and speak ill. On the phone, a girl asked us for help. She is a college student. She usually doesn't talk much and is introverted. She is only on good terms with one or two of her roommates, so she has nothing to say to others. She also said that college life is rich and colorful, and she hopes to have a group of friends who are talking and laughing like other students. But in front of my classmates, especially the opposite sex, I feel uncomfortable, nervous and blushing. I have never had the courage to contact them, and I don't know what to say or talk about and ask for help.

First of all, we can judge that her situation belongs to false introversion from the phone call she received, because she has one of the most typical characteristics: she is eager to change herself. Secondly, it is eager to contact and communicate with others; I can get along well with the people closest to me. On some occasions, I am too self-centered and too concerned about other people's opinions. Poor psychological quality, combined with shyness and nervousness, prevented her from contacting the outside world.

From the above two examples, we can easily see that the most typical difference between true introversion and false introversion lies in whether there is an urgent need to change one's will. Many introverted students who come to the center for training are mostly fake introverted friends. Teaching and training, like learning other skills, is a process of mutual cooperation. Whether to change or not means that in the training process, one is to fully cooperate with teaching and the other is to fully cope with it, and the effect is naturally different. So before we accept students, there is a clear condition: I am eager to change myself! This is the responsibility to the students and the maintenance of the long-term reputation of the center.

Friend! If you are still struggling in the sea of suffering at this time ... then, while someone can help you, you need to reach out your hand and grasp the reins of fate in order to reach the other side of victory!

The article is taken from: Self-confidence and Eloquence Training Center/