Thirty and five years in life

In the past few days, the screen has been dominated by the 71-year-old wedding queen Vera Wang, who has a figure as tight as a 17-year-old; what’s even more amazing is that she only picked up a camera at 71 and started dating at 86. At the age of 102, grandma Tsuneko Sasamoto won the highest award in the world of photography - the Photography Lifetime Achievement Award. She is Japan's first female photojournalist. So much so that I, who will turn 35 in two hours, really hesitated when I wrote this title. After all, the age number 35 is still too young. I can't help but think, what does age mean to women? ——Is it just a record of numbers, or is it an alarm clock that reminds you what you must do at a certain stage, or is it the years of experience that are written on your face but settled in your heart?

Writer Anti-Pants Front wrote an article "24 Confusions I Finally Understood and Let Go of at the Age of 35" a few years ago when he was 35 years old. He believed that at the age of 35, the theme of life is "reconciliation" ——Mainly with myself. At this age, there will suddenly be many moments of enlightenment. People, things that you are not convinced of, and relationships that have not been handled well will suddenly become clear to you, and then you will let them go.

I think what he said is very good, but I don’t think so. I think it is too difficult to “reconcile” with myself. At the age of 35, in fact, I haven’t had that much enlightenment yet, and I still face many difficulties, choices, and bewilderment.

I am 35 years old and want to have a clearer understanding and plan for career development. After working for ten years after graduating from graduate school, you are already considered "senior" even for a lawyer, a profession that places great emphasis on qualifications and experience. Regarding work, you have learned to solve professional problems without putting in a lot of effort. What is more difficult to solve are other problems. You will want to open your own boundaries, and you will also change from immersing yourself in doing the things in front of you to asking yourself from time to time to take the next step. What's the way down? This is a process of constant exploration. Fortunately, I have never given up pursuing better and stronger. I am also fortunate to have enterprising friends and supportive family around me. Studying for an MBA, studying abroad, applying for a common law lawyer's license, learning another foreign language, developing some side businesses based on my interests... these are all what I am doing and want to do. My biggest experience in the past year or two is that if you don’t want to lose your passion for life day after day, you have to set goals for yourself. Especially when you reach the stage where you can say that small things don’t mean old things, you will be happier if you continue to break through yourself.

I am 35 years old and want better physical fitness, energy and figure. Yesterday my best friend said that we have been exercising with each other every day for three months and we will continue to do so. Exercise is really worthwhile. After I turned 30, I went from not being able to run at all, to being unable to do a single push-up or burpee to the point where I was so anxious that I wanted to cry, to learning to lift irons, learn to box, learn to do 100 burpees in a row, complete the Spartan Race, and complete 70km desert challenge, completing a full marathon...Only I know what I went through haha ??~ Special thanks to the people around me who persisted and encouraged me. I think I will continue to suffer and persevere happily, after all, there are so many interesting things waiting for me to unlock.

I am 35 years old and want to get along better with my children. I have always felt that I am a mother who is more than strict but not gentle enough. She has also been pursuing her own career and hobbies, and has not devoted herself to "being a mother". I have also been confused whether I have given enough. But gradually I discovered that no matter how young a child is, he can think independently. You don't need to deliberately input, you just need to be yourself, and he will naturally absorb it.

I would like to express my 35-year-old view of love with a passage from Chen Danyan’s "The Fish and Its Bicycle": "Love to me is not skin-to-skin contact, not vegetables and rice, it is It is an immortal desire and a heroic dream in a tired life.”

The best way to cherish life is to burn it to the fullest and keep doing things you like. Explore yourself and discover yourself. Therefore, my theme for turning 35 is not "reconciliation", but "aging seriously."