What is the essence of romance?

Today is a festival in divines, and everyone is talking about it: all the women in this session are dying, too masculine ~ But Ada thinks that no matter how masculine women are, they will love and pursue romance.

From "Seeds of Love" to the infinite yearning for beautiful love in girlhood, to holding your hand and strolling under the moon, and then to the smoky fire in the besieged city, Deweisi has always been fascinated by romance.

So today Ada shared an article about romance, telling you what "romance" is. Remember to treat her well.

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The Egyptians said: It is not romantic to be crucified, but romantic to walk on the cross. Let's see what "fake romance" is. False romance:

"Love you enough and just want to be with you; Hold your hand tightly and accompany you through the wind, frost and rain; The ends of the earth have no regrets and never give up. I will accompany you all my life. I have loved you for a long time! " "I always take you to heart, want to know how are you now? Dear, may you always smile and always embrace the sunshine. Happiness will last as long as time, and I will be by your side as long as you want! " "There is a melody called notes, which is the happiness you gave me. It floats in my memory all the time, so that my romantic talent can play a beautiful picture of love. Dear, in this beautiful season, you are my most precious wealth in life. " "I have a rainbow in my eyes, which is your beautiful and kind heart; I have a feeling in my heart, that is, I miss you. Do you know that I am thinking about you? "

All of the above are the confession lines jumped out of Baidu Mountain's search for "romance". I don't know what you think, but I think it's disgusting and low-level literary cavity from beginning to end, artificial, exaggerated and hypocritical, frivolous and exaggerated. Maybe let you say, "Is the chicken free tonight?" Will be more handy than saying this. I have to spit out the early romantic dramas in Taiwan Province Province. The directors thought it was a great performance. Speaking of "love time", every word of every sentence even wants to slow down punctuation. It should rain, but it's disgusting. I want to change the channel.

So I understand why many women like to watch this kind of movies. They don't need to appreciate romance, just for fun. Otherwise, how can we maintain social relations after dancing square dance? True romance is not a love story, let alone a melodramatic love story. True romance is a realm of existence. Generally speaking, there are three levels. Just like id, ego and superego.

1 Tuowu

The primary stage of romance. In other words, get rid of the dependence on material things, take off the gorgeous coat, and be true and delicate romance. Looking back on our life track, we can see that most people are more romantic and look forward to romance when they are young than when they are adults. A wild rose and a box of chocolates can excite us for several days. But as we grow older, we become vulgar. All I can think about is each other's size and this month's payroll. The embarrassment and unbearable life dilute feelings and make people numb and materialistic. The more expensive the gift, the better. This is something that cannot be concealed, and it is also extremely ridiculous. Although the media has also played a role in fueling the flames, it is at best an auxiliary factor. It seems that a happy love can only exist on the hard disk except in yachts and villas.

"Love mountains and rivers, love beauty" is romantic, because it despises material things. For example, love is more important than money. "Who values money first and doesn't care how he leaves her" is not romantic, because it is materialistic. Metaphor feelings and feelings. "People are thinner than yellow flowers" is romantic, because it is lighter than matter. Metaphor remain uncorrupted. "Fat head, big ears and big belly" is not romantic, because it is material. Metaphor is rich and mercenary. Wandering is romantic because it is light on material things. "Dubai luxury tour" is not romantic because of the material. "Two people share a cake" is romantic, because it is lighter than matter. "Two people order a table" is not romantic, because it is materialistic. The reason why "Sending Roses on Chinese Valentine's Day" is romantic is that it is light on material things. "Giving money on Tanabata" is not romantic, because it is material. "Poor Boy Adventures Picking Flowers for Girls" is very romantic, because it is very light in material terms. "The nouveau riche sends a car full of roses to a girl" is not romantic at all, because it is materialism. But "sending roses" is not as romantic as "writing love poems". Because the substance content of the former is greater than that of the latter. "Two people holding hands to choose a wedding ring" is not as romantic as "two people holding hands to look at the stars". Because the former is more important than the latter. The reason why A Few Violinists Before Sinking is romantic is that it is light of material and is also a tragic romance. "Going to a concert in Sydney Opera House" is not romantic, because it is material. Roughly speaking, Socrates is more romantic than a philosopher. Confucius and Mencius are more romantic than China literati. Sakyamuni is more romantic than the co-president of Buddhism and so on. Therefore, romance is a kind of spiritual temperament, which does not depend on your wealth, fame and status. Secular value material, romantic value spirit. Only when you are divorced from the material level can you touch real romance.

2 free from vulgarity

I've seen some outreach parties. Most of them are rigid, conformity habits, blindly following the trend, and learning from the East is effective. Seeing others singing love songs, I also sing love songs. Watch others light candles and light candles yourself. I can't wait to copy your chat records to girls without thinking. Thought was imprisoned, lost its creativity and became a slave to the spirit. As the second level of romance, it embodies the ability of independent thinking and creation.

"Lovers talk in the snow" is very romantic. Because of touching the scene, I feel it. "The newlyweds swear at the wedding" is not romantic. Because it's too deliberate, just for acting. "A couple kissing in the street when they leave" is very romantic. Do it by improvisation. "A group of lovers kissing in the street when they are leaving" is not romantic at all, because when everyone is imitating, it becomes an act. "Going to the crater to take wedding photos" is very romantic. Because there is only one life. "Take wedding photos according to the template" is not romantic. Because, nothing new, everything is routine, just going through the motions. "One-night stand" is romantic, because it is an unexpected encounter. "Wedding candle" is not romantic, because it is a gift from the Duke of Zhou. "Photographers capture street beauties" is romantic, because it is an eternal moment. "Beautiful women pose in the street" is not romantic, because you can pose in the same way tomorrow.

People who know this degree of romance are usually free and easy, straightforward and not dogmatic. Of course, generate will inspire people from time to time and create real romance. Ling Huchong is a good example. If he's with young, it's at best a family ethics drama. Life is like grass growing on the dike and leaves growing on the treetops, so it is natural. If he is with Yilin, it is nothing more than a story of a handsome man and a beautiful woman who rebelled against the feudal system and defeated her in-laws. But it's just that he's with his enemy Ren Yingying, and they're in love, which is a rock-breaking romance. Romance for romance's sake is not romance. It should be emphasized that not being restricted by dogma does not mean deviant. For example, love is more romantic than marriage. But it can't be said that a romantic can only fall in love but can't get married. Or Ta is no longer romantic after marriage. Similarly, Teacher China is not as romantic as a poet. Art teachers are not as romantic as painters. Police, civil servants and administrators are not as romantic as killers, liars and gamblers. Although no rules can't make Fiona Fang, it is too rigid and pedantic, which goes against the romantic essence. If Romeo and Juliet succumbed to feudal dogma and lived in peace, there would be no such romantic classics. It is precisely because they dare to break bad habits, don't go with the flow and pursue themselves that this legendary story has been achieved.