What does true happiness look like?

True happiness is not having a car and a house, but developing ... even without a car and a house.

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Why did you write this article? Not long ago, the circle of friends shared a state: Double Eleven bought nothing, and Double Twelve bought a platform member for one year. A friend left a message asking me how I did it. I suddenly feel that this is a good question, because I don't know how to do it, so I need to think it over before answering.

What is happiness? What I think of happiness now is not having a car and a house, but feeling very happy even without a car and a house.

So how can I change it? Actually, it was my wedding, which made me feel what I wanted. Originally, I wanted to be happy, but what I actually pursued in my behavior was "the recognition of others", which made me more empty in this cycle, so I had the determination to change.

In everyone's opinion, the wedding was actually quite successful, and I was quite satisfied. After all, I did this wedding alone. I chose the venue, dress, wedding dress and bridesmaid's dress. I also patiently selected the wedding dress and contacted the guests. After the whole wedding, the whole thing was fine. I also sent two letters to my parents, which made them cry on their wedding day. Many people also said that this wedding is also their ideal wedding!

However, after the wedding, I cried the night I received the photo. Because the photos didn't record the moment I wanted, the photographer didn't capture the scene of my interaction with the guests, the scene of my friends and family having a good time, the scene of my parents crying, and the most photos were my own artificial wedding photos. Of course, I can't blame the photographer team, because this photography studio was set up two years ago to show off in the circle of friends. I just want to take advanced and elegant wedding photos, so that others can see that my wedding is grand and my husband is very kind to me. The most recorded photos are the beautiful photos of myself and my husband. At this time, I discovered that at the wedding, what I wanted was happiness and warmth, but the purpose of the wedding became "to make others envy my wedding."

I also, I deeply hurt my husband and parents-in-law. I neglected the needs of my parents-in-law. I didn't pay attention to the dinner at all, nor did I care about the needs of my parents-in-law for the toast ceremony. I don't care about the guests at all. Originally, I was going to start the banquet at 19:00, but I was too worried about my18,000 photography expenses, so I went downstairs to take photos of the third dress by myself until 19:40, during which my mother-in-law, father and hotel housekeeper called me, making the guests miserable and the bride almost absent. Moreover, in order to take a group photo and even end the party ahead of time, everyone left in a hurry without eating much.

This incident left a shadow on me, which made me unwilling to open the original film and look for it. I still have more than 50 intensive photos to find, because I will think of this sad thing as soon as I open the photo album.

You see, there is really no way to bring happiness. I feel that I am not happy, but full of anxiety.

Therefore, in order to truly have happiness, we must change.

How did I change?

At the end of 20 19, I began to pay for my study and unconsciously entered a better circle.

When we really want to change, we will find a way. I started studying at the end of 20 19, and took a public yoga class first, but I had to pay for my own room and board for two days. At first, I didn't want to spend these two days. However, after I went there, I found it was a real public welfare course and learned a whole set of nun yoga. I gradually realized that I had to pay for my study.

Free things are the most expensive. After graduating from college, I seldom spend money on lectures. Three or four years after graduation, I may have handed in four or five classes. It was not until three years ago that I really began to spend money to find a place to study. Then, I met a group of excellent people. I see that they have endless motivation every day and live a meaningful life every day.

A good circle can bring contacts and make my worth quintuple. I studied in the physical and mental fighting club for two years. After studying for half a month, I became familiar with a student. After he saw that I had taken beautiful photos for him in class, he invited me to take them because he trusted the "head teacher" of the course very much. I didn't expect this offline course to be the largest time management course in China, and one shot is directly five times as much as my usual photo.

A good circle can bring it to the account. When you earn money by your own practical ability and gain the recognition of others' value, you are happier than the material feelings you can buy in buy buy. Being recognized by others because of your own ability is a part that makes people feel happier than material things. Doesn't mean I don't have material desires.

After two years' study, I reduced my materialistic desire, and gradually realized that material things can't really bring happiness (that doesn't mean I don't have materialistic desire now), and I understand that happiness comes from my heart. I gradually embarked on the road of ideal life.

Soak in the circle of positive energy and make a little progress every day.

At first, it will be difficult. Seeing that everyone else has got grades, and I am still at the stage from 0 to 1, I often lose confidence. But because there are a group of small partners studying together, it is good to have a group of people who can encourage each other whenever they feel that they can't persist. Then, every seemingly insignificant little progress can add up.

When I changed, my parents and husband saw the actual effect, and I found that my parents and husband began to support and understand what I did. Then, I have a sense of happiness from my family.

As you can imagine, if our family relationship is not good, then we are very tired at work every day, and dealing with customers also consumes 90% of our opportunities. Our family is harmonious, so if we work so hard every day and still get the support of our family, then we will reduce the internal consumption time and you will have more time to feel happy.

To sum up, happiness can also be learned through practice. When we know what we want, material desire is still important, but it will no longer fill our minds, and we will feel more happiness.