Olympic athletes are frequently subjected to "cyber violence", and Chen Kun's words are highly praised.

Recently, the Tokyo Olympic Games is in full swing, and China ranks first in both gold medals and medals, which makes countless people excited!

In the Olympic Games, it is the place that can best reflect winning or losing and tolerance.

People congratulated the winning athletes and applauded the frustrated athletes.

However, the reaction of many netizens has made people see the envy or anger of others' success.

A few days ago, Wang Luyao, an Olympic shooter, went on a hot search.

The reason is that she participated in the 10 meter air rifle competition and stopped at the qualifying round. After losing the election, she posted a selfie on social media and admitted that "I was scared".

Winning or losing is a common thing for military strategists, but some netizens have a sense of anger about it, and overwhelming abuse and ridicule swept through.

Some netizens criticized:

"Just don't sum up experience after the game, and then take a selfie in Weibo. Passers-by said they wanted to be red too much. "

"I don't blame you for your lack of ability. Do you want to sum up your experience seriously? What does a proud selfie mean? "

"It is inappropriate for athletes to say that this is embarrassing. Look at your comments below. Are you a star? "

Under the pressure of criticism, she deleted Weibo's selfie and replaced it with a formal congratulation to Weibo, explaining her "cowardice" and expressing her determination to start over.

Not only that, Yang Qian, the first Olympic gold medalist, even became the target of "cyber violence".

Weibo before her was stripped out by netizens, who called her "worshipping foreign things and obsessing foreign things" and "getting out of China" because she was exposed to Nike.

Once the soil of freedom of speech becomes a "battlefield" of right and wrong.

When people express their views and opinions, why do emotions and mentality have long been divorced from the event itself, but are boundless abuse?

Faced with this situation, Chen Kunfa and Weibo said: "Honor and disgrace and success or failure are not easy things to face, but also a good opportunity to observe their mentality."

Indeed, our attitude towards external events actually reflects our own internal tendencies.

Every carnival of cyber violence deserves our deep thought!

Why do netizens abuse recklessly?

French psychologist Gustave Le Bon once said:

"Once an individual becomes a member of a group, he is no longer responsible for what he has done, and then everyone will expose his unconstrained side.

What the group pursues and believes in is never truth and reason, but blind obedience, cruelty, paranoia and fanaticism, and only knows simple and extreme feelings. "

This simple and extreme emotion shows the goodness and evil of human nature, but it also magnifies human irrationality.

During the flood in Zhengzhou, Han Hong, who has always been keen on public welfare, arrived in Henan with 30 million donations and materials at the first time.

She personally directed the vehicle carrying materials at the scene, and then fainted due to fatigue.

In this case, some accusations on the Internet are endless:

Some people say that she is faking it, and going to the scene is just adding chaos;

Some people say that clothes are so clean, which is obviously posing.

What's more, he wrote a jingle under the Han Hong Love Foundation: "Can't there be a photographer when driving to the front?" Back and forth a few boxes of noodles, immediately fainted to show you ... "

Han Hong showed his attitude at the Weibo: Anyway, I do what I think is right! Innocent in my heart, worthy of wearing this military uniform!

The least kindness is better than the greatest kindness. A person who is willing to appear in an unsafe disaster area with supplies and can help deserves our rational treatment at least.

At the same time, the internet is also full of accusations against various stars, and everyone has formed a "picket" to stare at all the stars.

Once it is found that you don't donate or donate less, it will immediately be a "machine gun" of speech, and you can't wait to spray the stars into a "sieve".

Many of these people have never donated a penny.

And their reason is so justified: you are a star, you earn so much money, of course, you have to donate more.

This tone is exactly the same as that of netizens accusing Olympic athletes:

"You represent the country. How can you worship foreigners and collect Nike shoes? You should support domestic products more! "

"If you can't win the world championship, how can you take a selfie?"

Without the constraints of face-to-face and authority, the keyboard man hidden in the dark corner, like a masked man, is even more unscrupulous.

This is reminiscent of a famous experiment by Abramovich, the mother of performance art. She paralyzed her body and kept her brain awake. She put 72 kinds of tools on the table, including flowers, honey and other harmless things, as well as knives and whips.

She signed an open agreement: give her body to the audience completely, and no matter what others do to her, she will not be held accountable.

At first, everyone just approached her with flowers and honey or kissed her. Later, when everyone felt this unrestrained "obedience", someone began to cut her skin. Later, her body was bloody and devastated, and the scene became a carnival that gradually lost its rationality.

During these six hours, only tears kept coming out of her eyes.

When we are in an unconstrained or less constrained environment, human "nature" will be released.

Luo Xiang once said, "Why are there so many sprayers on the Internet? Because of the anonymity of the internet, once anonymous, all kinds of dark components in human nature may erupt.

Therefore, under the network environment, people will be particularly used to arguing and indulge their ignorance and enthusiasm for all kinds of dark emotions inside.

Therefore, in an unknown environment, when a gentleman is cautious and independent, he should reflect: Can you contain the inner darkness? "

Not allowing others, in fact, is not accepting yourself.

There is a term in psychology called "projection effect".

It unconsciously blames others for a quality or attitude of its existence, or expresses it in another form. It is a psychological phenomenon that a person projects the values and emotional likes and dislikes in his inner life to people, things and things in the outside world.

In short, the world you feel is what you feel inside.

Kind and optimistic people always look at things objectively and positively.

On the contrary, if you are often depressed and sad, or feel that the world is full of calculations, then you will be pessimistic about external things and even can't suppress your inner anger.

And the way we look at the world often comes from the initial growth.

When a person is treated, he will treat others.

People who publicly criticize online don't feel that their accusations are wrong, but take them for granted.

You are a star. Is it wrong for me to ask you to donate more? Shouldn't you?

You are in the national team, shouldn't you set an example?

Behind this should, there are countless "should" that we are familiar with: you are the boss, shouldn't you let your sister go? You didn't do well in the exam Shouldn't you reflect on yourself? ...

People who are bound by countless "should" and lose their will will will naturally say so many "should" and ignore their will.

And each of us should reflect on the hole behind this "should", which may be the one that we have never been "accepted".

A visitor described her anger in an intimate relationship:

After two years of marriage, her husband never understood her and never saw her needs. She is a person who hates dirty houses, but her husband always throws his clothes and socks about.

When she protested to her husband, he always changed from "what's the big deal" to "unreasonable".

Later, they became more and more indifferent, and she felt that this marriage was unnecessary.

I asked her: What if I sum it up?

She said, I hate it when he doesn't listen to my advice. I think he should do what I want.

When we change the subject: he also hates that I don't listen to his advice, and he also thinks that I should do what he wants.

The visitor was silent.

When we change the subject again: I hate that I don't listen to my own opinions. I think I should do what I want.

The visitor burst into tears.

It turned out that she vented all her anger and harshness on her husband because she was severely treated by her mother since she was a child, and a frame has been formed in her life.

When she used this box to frame others, the motive behind it was actually: I was angry that I had never been myself!

On the Internet, how many of us unconsciously use our internal injuries to "frame" others?

The reason why Chen runs counter to "Keyboard Man" is that he exudes a generous feeling that "success or failure, honor or disgrace are good opportunities to observe himself".

It is because he experienced the baptism of life, saw his rejection and inner injury, and made his life broad and bright again through a series of cures.

In this state of life, there is a sea of hearts that contains everything.

If you are broad-minded, you can see a bigger world.

First, let yourself see the bigger world.

Seeing the world is not only a trip, but also a wide range of reading and experience.

Chen Kun, who suffered from depression after his great success, felt that he had everything, and there was no deeper meaning in his life.

However, when he later launched the public welfare activity "The Power of Walking", he lived a more self-humiliation by measuring the wider mountains and rivers with his feet and calming down to explore the deeper inner essence.

Seeing the world is more about finding your own inner breadth.

Secondly, we should be aware of emotions and see their sources clearly.

The book "Self-control" says that if you can't control your emotions, you will become a slave to them, and you won't be happy.

Therefore, learning to be aware of your emotions has become the most important part of controlling your life. When we want to criticize others, think about what "cancers" they have touched on us.

You should see and remove your own "cancer" instead of pointing your gun at the outside.

Finally, practice accepting yourself and cultivate a non-judgmental attitude.

When we can't accept ourselves well, we can't accept others well, so when our judgment rises, learn to embrace and accompany our "negative emotions".

When you spend more and more time with "negative emotions", have a gentle dialogue with them, and your tolerance will become wider and wider.

And a person with an open mind will have an open and bright life.

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Editor | Jiang Feng