What exactly is love?

A few days ago, I conducted a survey among the people around me. It asked a few questions: Do you believe in the existence of "love"? Has anyone around you experienced "love"? Do you think you have ever experienced/will experience "love"? Do you think you must have "love" before you can enter into marriage?

People of almost every age group answered yes to the first three questions and no to the last. So what does this mean? Modern people are still full of admiration for "love", but they have begun to treat their own lives in a utilitarian way. Faced with such an answer, should we be happy or sad?

In silence, I suddenly looked back at some impressive stories in my memory: some stories that shocked me and many other people:

Romi O and Juliet

Perhaps they are the most famous couple in the world. A long time ago in a European castle, a handsome young man and a beautiful woman met by chance. Destiny made them fall in love at first sight, and from then on they believed that the other person was the other part of their lifelong pursuit. However, fate made another big joke on them: they belong to two families that have long had a feud. People from these two families will kill each other as soon as they meet, and regard each other as the most evil person. So their tragedy becomes the tragedy of fate. Unable to unite, they chose death: moistening their lips with poison and embracing each other. Death fulfills love.

Many years later, on the screen at the end of the century, two young people with the same name reinterpreted this story. A streamlined sports car replaced the fast horse, and the exquisite pistol replaced the long sword. However, the tragedy still occurred. It was the same tragedy. The characters in the play died without hesitation, and the audience shed tears.

Postmodern love stories only change some props. Does the director want to use the same story to prove that today’s human beings still have the same emotions flowing in their souls? This kind of verification is also reflected in the following story.

Titanic

This cruise ship that shocked the world many years ago has once again shocked the world in another way. This is a story between a noble woman and a commoner young man. Jack, a poor young man, accidentally won the opportunity to board a luxury ship on the road to death, and met the beautiful and innocent Rose. Jack opened Rose's eyes to another strange but dynamic world: there was no rich food and clothing, but people could laugh and laugh together, men, women, old and young holding hands and dancing together regardless of each other.

In contrast, Rose's fiancé has become a hypocritical old-fashioned man, and Rose's family has become a stumbling block to her daughter's happiness. The two young people finally fell in love. When the catastrophe was approaching, Rose gave up her right to escape and ran back to Jack, while Jack waited for Rose's floating board in the ice sea until the last moment.

When we hear Jack's last request to Rose, "Swear to me, you will never give up survival," no one will not be moved by this selfless love. Perhaps everyone longs to be loved wholeheartedly or to love someone wholeheartedly, so everyone walks out of the cinema solemnly, with the distant theme song echoing in their hearts. We don't need to question whether Rose will follow Jack to the days in the slums. Death has once again fulfilled love, making it pure and lofty, without any human fireworks. Of course, such stories do not only happen in foreign movies. We also have our own classic couples, such as Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai.

Butterfly

There is probably no older Chinese who does not know these two words. The stupid Brother Liang couldn't figure out that the wise brother he spent all day and night with was actually a beautiful girl, so that the other party had to pretend to introduce him to someone and put "Little Nine Sisters", that is, himself into his heart. Unexpectedly, Yingtai's father messed up the rules and betrothed his daughter to someone else, which turned a happy event into a funeral. Liang Shanbo and Zhu Yingtai both died.

This story full of obedience was too sad, so the kind-hearted people gave it a new ending: the stone tomb suddenly opened, and a pair of butterflies flew out and danced gracefully. The lovers finally stayed together and lived happily ever after. live together. The legend is already so beautiful, but a few years ago some people were not satisfied with the ending, so they asked Liang Shanbo to become a swordsman, and finally defeated his love rival - the lovers joined hands and smiled proudly, and the audience came out of the theater I was so happy that I forgot about this story.

However, the sad story of "turning into a butterfly" is still told by some people, at least there are violin concertos about it that sometimes still fill the ears. In the legend, we appreciate the lack of regrets for "love", and this is still the case after many years.

Ask the world, what is love?

Most of today's teenagers have heard this ancient poem written by Yuan Haowen from the mouth of a woman named "Li Mochou". When this woman was young, she had been in love with Lu Zhanyuan for three lifetimes, but she unexpectedly fell in love with Lu Zhanyuan, so she was filled with hatred and resentment. Many years later, she killed her lover's family, and she was nowhere to be found. Li Mochou's story is only the last chapter in "The Legend of the Condor Heroes", but this sentence is deeply rooted in people's hearts and has become the essence of the whole book.

Many of Mr. Jin Yong's novels are related to love, but none of them is as complete as "The Legend of the Condor Heroes" that revolves around this theme.

Xiao Longnu and Yang Guo went through ups and downs for half of their lives just to stay together forever. Although this wish was finally achieved, they also experienced a lot of sadness and hardship. So people can't help but ask questions like this: "

Ask me in the world, what is love, which can mean life and death?"; many people also ask themselves in private: "If I were Yang Guo, what would I do? Won't you wait for those sixteen long years? "Martial arts novels are "adult fairy tales." It seems foolish to look for everything in the fairy tale world in reality. However, there may be a place where illusory fantasy still exists - the Internet, Internet.

Lost between reality and the Internet

Some people compare publishing one's articles on the Internet to "singing karaoke" because there are no obstacles to its realization (of course you have to first (Internet), it is precisely because of the countless articles, especially novels, on the Internet that it is very difficult to appear in them. However, in 1998, everyone was familiar with a name called "Ruffian Cai" and a novel called "First Intimate Contact".

"I met her on the Internet..."

He, codenamed "Ruffian Cai", met her, codenamed "Qingwu Feiyang", in a chat room. "Romance" and "Human Nature", we talked about many, many things, and we talked about them for many, many days. Finally they met, her beauty made him yearn for her, and her sadness made him pity her endlessly. He fell in love with her, but found out that she was terminally ill. They spent the last good time together in front of the hospital bed. This is a simple love story, and the writing is even crude. However, it has aroused so many people's uproar on the Internet. During the serialization of the novel, many people wrote to the author asking him to show mercy. Don't let Qingwu fly to death.

Why is this? Is it because everyone yearns for such a "light dance" in their lives? Longing for the legends on the Internet to enter the depths of your own memory? Legends are always legends. Ordinary people enjoy them for a moment of passion and romance, and then eventually return to reality. Love exists, but love is also short-lived. People today admit this, so marriage and love draw a line. Even novels and movies have to face this fact.

“Marriage is like a besieged city. People outside the city want to come in, and people in the city want to get out.” Mr. Qian Zhongshu’s novel was written in the 1940s, but this sentence will never go out of date. Later, when many people applauded Fang Hongjian in the TV series, it was probably because they felt the joys and sorrows in their own "life".

Fang Hongjian is a person we are very familiar with: he is neither good nor bad, a little clever, a little selfish and a little self-pitying; he pursues the woman he loves, but he has no regard for others. The woman was so disgusted that she finally married another man. He was at a loss as to how to move forward and retreat amid the daily necessities of life, and was extremely distressed. He regretted that he had chosen this woman, chose to get married, and plunged into a messy castle. But what would he have thought if he hadn't entered the "city"? We can probably guess.

Fang Hong gradually moved into the city. Although he couldn't adapt for a while, he will eventually adapt. We believe this. What he can do is a title Chi Li used in her novel: "Not Talking About Love." But is it really possible to simply not fall in love? Who can be so chic in life, so you can also find such melancholy scenes in movies, such as the section of the Madison Bridge under the sunset.

The Lost Dream of the Covered Bridge

Francesca, a housewife with an ordinary life, was left alone at home. Photojournalist Robert Kincaid parked his car in front of the door and asked her about the Madison Bridge. location. The two middle-aged people got to know each other, and a bouquet of wild chrysanthemums expressing gratitude opened up her new imagination of life. In the sunset at Madison Bridge, they felt the endless happiness of getting along with each other.

However, family responsibilities made the heroine choose to separate. In the next twenty years, she paid attention to all his situations, and continued to miss him after his death. When the heroine passed away, she asked her children in her will to scatter her ashes by the Madison Bridge.

In the eyes of many modern young people, "The Bridge of Lost Dreams" embodies orthodox and even outdated concepts of marriage. However, Francesca's choice is closer to the mentality of middle-aged Chinese audiences. Extramarital love grows up in a complex social network. The reality is destined to face many contradictions and obstacles. Where to go? The dilemma of choice is actually placed in front of some people. Therefore, a TV series not long ago caused an uproar in people's hearts.

Holding Hands

"If you pick up your son's hand, you will grow old together with your son." This may be regarded as a vow of eternal love between lovers in ancient China. It is plain and simple, but it has profound affection. Can a couple hold each other's hands through the ups and downs of life? This simple wish is not that simple to realize.

Xia Xiaoxue, an ordinary woman, was once beautiful and the object of everyone's pursuit, but today she is already a middle-aged woman. She sweeps the floor, cooks, takes care of the children, and takes care of her husband. She wastes her career (of course, most people don't have a real "career"). She thinks that she has given everything to the family, and she should be rewarded by her husband.

Zhong Rui, an ordinary man, has his own career pursuits and is very worried about this career. He is not familiar with housework and does not know what his wife is doing every day. In all the chaos, he only feels that She was the one who least understood him in the world, so he began to avoid her. The result seemed logical.

The appearance of a young and beautiful third party, who is not involved in daily necessities, is certainly more gentle and free-spirited. It is no wonder that middle-aged men in trouble are attracted to her. A new love arises, but the old marriage cannot be ended immediately. All conflicts arise from this. Wife, husband, lover, son, family, colleagues, all related parties are entangled in it.

Is Zhong Rui a sinner who should stand before the moral judgment seat? His love with Wang Chun may be innocent, but does he still remember his past love with Xia Xiaoxue? Could it be that there was no everlasting oath at that time? Can all the pain be attributed to Wang Chun's appearance? Is Xia Xiaoxue just a victim? Which one is right and which one is wrong? Who can comment easily between the people in the play and outsiders? What exactly is love?

What is love?

This is such a complicated issue that a South Korean TV series with more than 50 episodes took this title as its title to interpret the sad, sad and laughing life. It is said that when this TV series was first broadcast on CCTV, the number of customers in shopping malls dropped significantly on Sundays. It seems that the power of "love" cannot be underestimated.

Housewife Han Xinai gave up her studies when she was young to marry her husband Park Changkui. Now she places all her expectations on her daughter Park Zhien, hoping that she will come back with a doctorate to fulfill her wish. Unexpectedly, her daughter fell in love with a pediatrician and actually gave up her studies and even her self-esteem to marry him into a male-dominated family, regardless of whether it would hurt her mother's fragile heart.

At the same time, the younger daughter Zheng Eun talked about celibacy and hated all the men around her. Han Xin loves that although she has a husband who loves her wholeheartedly, her cunning mother-in-law makes her feel that life is boring. Was the choice she made as a teenager the right one? Why did her daughter follow her old path again? What exactly is love? Han Xin'ai couldn't figure this out, and I'm afraid the audience couldn't figure it out either.

What is love? It seems difficult to give us a definite answer to all the stories that happened in novels and screens. So what about reality? What about reality?

The most realistic and cruel one?

No one can deny that he loves her. For her, he abandoned his wife and children, and even gave up his job, just to stay with her every day. He used to be the only son in the family, and he never did any housework. However, now he works hard and does not complain, even washing a pair of socks. There was no need for her to do anything; their days together were full of romance, and for this romance he did not hesitate to plunder his already poor mother and sister - all just to see her smile. She was moved by his true feelings, but she couldn't bear the days of sitting on the fence. She finally decided to leave him, and maybe she would fall into the arms of someone else soon. His pleas and desperate tears were in vain. His love turned into resentment, and concentrated sulfuric acid was poured on her face and himself. She was ruined and he was ruined.

This is a tragedy that happened not long ago in Tiexi District, Shenyang City. The newspaper reported their story at great length, and those who read it could only remain silent: Who is the culprit behind the tragedy? ? It is true that he is a sinner in the court of traditional morality, but if he had strong financial support behind him, all these tragedies would not have happened.

Some people say that "money is not everything", but "without money it is absolutely impossible". This story seems to prove this. Under the sky at the end of the century, "love" is still happening around us every day. However, love in reality lacks its own skeleton, and romance cannot be built among castles in the air. This is an increasingly complex world, and "love" is stuck to its flying wings in countless ways.

What exactly is love? Who can tell the answer to it? We are staring at the rose-colored future. What kind of destiny is hidden there?