The power of liking

Yesterday, I gathered with some friends I haven't seen for a long time at an outdoor barbecue by the river.

In the evening, the weather is sultry, but the river is breezy. Lisa Ono's lazy and hoarse singing and the smell of barbecue are floating in the air. Sitting on the charcoal-gray recliner, I feel very comfortable, with food, music and old friends.

During the dinner, my friend A Feng suddenly said, "I'm going to resign." .

"ah? Why? "

"Isn't it? ''

Everyone was surprised. A Feng works as a marketing director in a medium-sized mobile Internet company. His business is good and his income is not bad. After careful inquiry, it turned out that he opened a musical instrument training studio after work, and now he is going to open a second one, and decided to quit his present job and devote himself to it.

A Feng has always liked music. He studied all kinds of musical instruments in college, especially the guitar, formed a band, and usually likes to teach his friends musical instruments. Now he has the opportunity to do what he likes and decides to devote himself to what he likes.

"Life is too short to waste time on things you don't like." Feng's attitude is firm and calm. When he said this, I saw the light in his eyes.

This reminds me of my own experience.

I studied engineering in college, but I am particularly interested in business. I started my own business, read related books, and even secretly went to a class of economics and management. After graduation, I worked in a Taiwan-funded company similar to Foxconn for one year. I felt really bored and decided to leave my job. I have never been engaged in related work since then.

What I really like is business, products, marketing, management and communication. Later, I have been engaged in related work, thinking about related things after work and enjoying it. I'm glad to find my interest as soon as possible, be full of enthusiasm and do what I like.

In my opinion, there are two typical patterns in life:

One is the success mode, where you find what you like to do, engage in what you like to do, inspire enthusiasm, enjoy your work and succeed, and live a happy and successful life.

One is extremely difficult mode. You are doing something you don't like, and your work becomes hard work and pressure. You lose your enthusiasm, you hate hard work, and your life is miserable and mediocre.

I believe that Afeng's future life is getting better and better, successful and happy, because he has embarked on a successful model.

02

Wu Xiaobo, a famous financial writer, once took her daughter to Taibei when she was in high school in Toronto. On the campus of Taiwan Province Provincial University, she strolled along the long coconut grove avenue in the sunset. He asked her what she wanted to do in the future.

My daughter said, "I want to be a singer." Then he talked about his views on pop music, his dissatisfaction with China's current star-making model, some innovations of Japanese and Korean companies, singer positioning and market space, and so on. He saw the light in his daughter's eyes.

As a father who deals with data all the year round and eats by rational analysis, he reminds his daughter that pop singers are an uncertain industry, which has too much to do with talent and luck. The probability of becoming a second-rate singer in the future is only about 10%.

My daughter's eyes are not vacillating. She said, "I don't want to be famous, I just like it."

The next thing, it is estimated that many parents will be surprised. They returned their plane tickets to Vancouver and went through the formalities of dropping out of school online. Wu Xiaobo helped her daughter find a Japanese music school in Shanghai, with only 1 1 students. This is the first enrollment. For more than a year, my daughter has been studying vocal music, dance, composition and musical instruments in that school. It is very hard. She goes to the piano room in the morning and comes out in the afternoon. When she returned to the dormitory at night, her body seemed to fall apart.

But one thing is certain, his daughter is really happy, because she chose the way she likes to go.

No matter whether she has a chance to become a star in the future, she has the courage to pursue her dreams, do what she likes and be passionate about life. I'm sure her life won't be much worse.

Her story reminds me of another person, Gao, a cultural celebrity whose popularity exploded on the Internet. He was originally a student of Tsinghua University Electronics Department. He was obsessed with art, but later dropped out of school. Now he makes records, makes music, travels, makes movies, writes books, makes programs and runs libraries. He is an enviable man, living in poetry and far away.

Gao achieved today's success because he knows what he likes, where his passion lies, and dares to pursue it. Most importantly, he enjoys it. Every time I watch a program, I can feel his enthusiasm, love and enjoyment for what he is doing.

Someone asked Freud how to get happiness and success in life. Freud replied: love and work hard.

Everyone has his own talent, interest and enthusiasm. If you find passion, you will have a dream and light up your life. There will be light in your eyes and your life will shine.

03

In the movie "Three Fools in Hollywood", Fahan always liked photography. His dream was to be a war photographer, but the whole family wanted him to be an engineer with status and high income, so the university chose a major he didn't like. Because I don't like it, I have no enthusiasm, and my grades have always been at the bottom, full of frustration and frustration. After four years of painful college life, Farhan finally decided to persuade his father to follow his original dream.

As expected, my father firmly opposed it.

Finally, Farhan burst into tears: "Imagine what would happen if I became a photographer? I earn less money, my house is smaller, my car is smaller, but I will be very happy, really happy. Everything I do for you will not be fake. "

The stubborn father was finally moved and said to Fahan, "Follow your heart and live high. Let's go, son!" Father and son embraced.

At the end of the film, Farhan pursued his dream, engaged in his dream job, and finally became a famous photographer, published several books and lived a very successful life.

Getting 80 points in one thing may be related to money, but to get 100 points, enthusiasm is absolutely indispensable.

Like, is the premise of all pay. Only if you really like it, will you invest, and you won't complain about these investments, whether it's time, energy or feelings.

If you really like it, you can do it well; When things are done to the extreme, success will naturally come.

Finding your passion is not only about your career, but also about your life. Because of the happiness and happiness of your career, you can face the people and things in your life in a better state.

04

I read a story. In a fast food restaurant, my daughter cried and said, "I don't want to eat hamburgers." I don't want to eat hamburgers. " Dad was very angry. "Don't like don't eat? I have never done anything I like in my life. "

This story is a bit exaggerated, but it also illustrates some truth.

How many people go with the flow, don't actively think and choose their own lives, and do things they don't like to do. No enthusiasm for work, wasting time, living like a year; In mediocre and trivial work and life, a lot of life energy is consumed, and youth and passion are wasted in mediocrity.

Work without enthusiasm, lack of initiative and limited creativity is doomed to be bad.

McKinsey has a famous saying: "All ability problems are attitude problems".

When you lack enthusiasm and haggle over every ounce, you will lack initiative when you encounter problems, and you will be afraid and even escape. For them, work is just hard work that they have to do to make a living, and there is no fun at all. Of course, it is impossible to achieve Excellence and success in your career.

Life is full of confusion, anxiety, disappointment and conflict, and I will sigh when I die. It turns out that I have done nothing in my life.

Finally, the epitaph reads: This is a mediocre man.

It's scary to think about it.

Work is to meet the survival of the body, and dreams are to meet the needs of the soul. Losing dreams means losing contact with the soul. Without the nourishment of the soul, life will be like a tree without water, slowly losing its vitality and withering.

As the lines in Stephen Chow's shaolin soccer say: Being a man without dreams is different from being a salted fish.

So, from now on, think about what you really like and what makes you forget to eat and sleep and enjoy it; What kind of label do you want others to remember you, and what is the value of your existence; What contribution I hope to make to the world. Only in this way can we live up to this life and let this life bloom the most brilliant light.

I exist, I choose, and I am free, which is the core of existential philosophy.

Choice is the greatest power that human beings possess.

If you are dissatisfied with life, if you still have dreams in your heart, don't complain about the pressure of life and the injustice of fate. Because at any time, you have the right to choose, and you can approach your dream through choice and hard work.

In the movie Pursuit of Happyness, chris gardner told his son and himself: Never let others tell you that you can't do great things, not even yourself. If you have a dream, you have a responsibility to defend it. What others can't do is to tell you, and you can't do it. If you want something, you must take a step forward to realize it.

Therefore, if you want to get the life you want, you must dream bravely and pursue it, so that you can gradually stand out from mediocrity.

05

The most powerful force in life is enthusiasm, which can light up life and release great energy; Only by stimulating creativity and talent can we create a great life, which is a necessary lifestyle for all successful people.

Liang Ning of Lakeside University said, "When God arranges a person's destiny or gives him a mission, he actually gives him a hobby, a true love."

Only by finding one's own talent and defining one's mission in life can one inspire real enthusiasm.

Everyone's life is full of darkness and confusion, and they often can't see the road ahead clearly, so they need light to illuminate the road ahead. Finding your passion and mission, lighting yourself up and illuminating life are the ways to live and succeed.

People who find their mission can light up their lives, start a successful life model and live a simple and happy life.

They may be geniuses like Jordan, Mozart, Jobs and Tiger Woods. It may also be an unknown carpenter, gardener or photographer. They all felt the call of mission and found their own enthusiasm.

They whistle to work, wake up every day and devote themselves to their favorite work. It is not the alarm clock that wakes them up every day, but the dream.

They do what they like, gain fame and success. They don't care about working hours, whether they have weekends, whether they are bored because of work, or whether they are anxious because of confusion. They know who they are, what they want and what they are doing. They are clear-minded, agile and dedicated, full of enthusiasm, devotion and tireless.

They have never wasted time or life. They are on the broad road to success and happiness.

Life should be like this, shouldn't it?