Why do you live "unintelligent" as you get older?

Last month, I invited Liu Ge's family to dinner.

During the chat, Liu Ge talked about his recent work and was very depressed.

After a few drinks, Liu Ge felt a little drunk and explained his troubles to me.

Brother Liu is an honest man with strong working ability. He graduated from college and has welding skills. His personality and ability are numerous in the unit.

However, he has never been appreciated by the unit leaders. Now he is forty years old, and he is still the first-line worker at the bottom, living a particularly "coward" life every day.

Low status, low salary, seeing the old and seeing less, living costs money, and the family's life is very tight.

"You have the ability, haven't you thought about doing something else?" I asked.

"Why not? In fact, several times, I was asked to work with him, but I refused. Now I feel a little sorry. If I really did it, I wouldn't be alive like this! "

At this time, my sister-in-law interjected: "Even now there is a chance! A friend asked him to quit his job and go to work in his company. His income is at least three or four times what it is now, but he just won't go. "

Why?

Brother Liu said, "Because my work place is in another city, you said I was 40 years old. How can I go with confidence? "

At this time, my sister-in-law quietly leaned over and said to me, "Brother Liu, you are really a good man. If he's leaving, I'm relieved. He just worries too much and does things carefully ... "

It suddenly dawned on me. It is not unreasonable for Liu Ge to be like this.

He stayed in the comfort zone for too long, unable to overcome his fear of strange things, but his heart was a little unwilling and twisted, always making excuses for his cowardice.

02

I once saw a news.

An empty nester named Wang Suzhong insisted on being a nude model at the age of 89. He said it was his spiritual sustenance and he would never leave again.

A nude model is a nude model, allowing artists or photographers to take photos of themselves half-naked or completely naked.

The children don't agree with or understand their father's practice, and the son even puts down his cruel words: "If you go on like this, we will sever the relationship between father and son, and I won't accept your body if you die!"

However, Wang Suzhong did not flinch.

He said that his original intention of being a nude model was to make money and kill time. Later, he broadened his horizons and changed his concept, feeling that "this is not a shame, but an art."

Old Wang Suzhong really sees through life.

He also said that after death, everything is gone. When you are alive, break through the inner shackles and fetters and do what you want to do, so that every day can be spent in your favorite way.

Fuck off, a line by tumor jun: Even if you are impulsive, you will regret it for a while. But if you live too unintelligent, you will regret it all your life!

03

I don't know if you have noticed that the older some people get, the more "timid" they live.

I used to be full of justice, and even the leaders dared to contradict me when I met injustice. Now I dare not say anything for a long time, and I don't even have the courage to admit my mistake.

I used to do whatever I wanted, never caring about the worldly vision, but now I drift with the flow.

I've been thinking, what makes us so timid, cautious and tied behind our backs?

Later, I finally understood, because we bumped our heads again and again in front of reality, and later we learned more and more about self-protection.

This kind of self-protection is sometimes a good thing, sometimes it will miss opportunities and even hurt yourself.

On the bus, I saw the passengers tearing at the driver and tried to dissuade them, but I saw that everyone around me was indifferent.

If this had happened before, you would have rushed up and kicked the unreasonable passenger away! But now you think: you still don't know the details of each other. More than one thing is better than less, don't ask for trouble.

As a result, no one survived the traffic accident. Isn't the bus crash in Chongqing a living lesson some time ago?

This is the most extreme situation. In real life, everything happens for a reason, and your present situation is the result of your own choice.

At this time, you can no longer be "timid" If you think there is too much rage in society, you should stand up and become a fire extinguisher to destroy it. Kicking unreasonable passengers away is the safety of most people.

04

"Don't admit cowardice" also means being strong inside and being true to yourself according to your inner thoughts.

Some people give up surrender under the head-on blow of life just to protect themselves. Some people suddenly see through life, and the more frustrated they are, the stronger they become and become heroes.

Everyone's time is limited, we have absolute autonomy to decide how to live, and we should not be bound by our own hearts and what others do.

When you look ahead and look back, the opportunity has slipped away, and you will find that there are fewer and fewer chips in your hand.

When you care about other people's pointing fingers and fall into the dilemma of "neither left nor right", the dream of this life may also become shaky.

At this time, don't be too timid, which is the only way to live out your self-worth.

After all, there are still many possibilities and many beautiful things in life. Only by not being afraid of the present and the future can we see more wonderful things in life.

The writer is Xiaoqi, a Buddhist woman who lives in the 18th-tier city. I want to write your taste in my style.