What can I do to deserve you?

In the evening, Jing called me, and his words were very depressing. It turns out that his boyfriend is bidding for a project and wants Jing to help him get a quotation. Jing didn't know how to do it, so he asked me, "Do you think I should study accounting?"

I can feel Jing's mood. The male ticket in Beijing is an entrepreneurial man, very young, but very capable and hardworking. His company participated in all the bids. Jing belongs to that kind of lazy and casual person. She has good taste, dresses well and is very interesting. She is an expert in communication.

To outsiders, these two people really complement each other. A Jing's serious male ticket can drive A Jing, and A Jing can also relax the male ticket when she is tired of starting a business, because she is the person who can create that kind of "slow environment" and healing atmosphere. In addition, business needs communication. Jing is completely helpful in this respect. Her good taste makes her very suitable for attending some formal occasions.

However, Jing sometimes gets a little worried. For example, this time, A Jing's male ticket needs to be explained, but A Jing won't. Jing will wonder if he is not worthy of him and whether he wants to improve himself.

It must be a very important thing to improve yourself in your emotional life, but such promotion must be for yourself first and on the basis of reasonable evaluation of your ability. For example, Jing is studying accounting now, not for herself at all, but because she thinks that male tickets are needed, not to mention the time and money cost of learning, and whether it can be really useful after learning. That is, if you really learn accounting well and use it, you will make a cost bill tomorrow. Are you going to study engineering?

This life of chasing each other's needs will be very painful and not good for yourself. What's even more frightening is that you probably feel that you have sacrificed and contributed yourself. The other party thinks that I didn't ask you to do this, and I can't get your gratitude, cherish and love.

Therefore, in feelings, we should not think about what I should do to deserve you, but how to be a better self and how to manage this relationship well.

For example, Jing doesn't like counting things at all. This accountant really doesn't need to learn, but she can recommend a reliable accountant to give her a male ticket through her communication skills. A Jing likes photography and travel, so he should make some efforts in this respect, so that his male ticket can have a relaxed journey when he is tired, enjoy the beautiful scenery and leave beautiful photos, which will make this relationship even better.

Be yourself first, and then become the unique self standing beside each other.