What kind of person likes it better than pretending to know?

Ignorance is more terrible than ignorance. I had dinner with a friend some time ago, and she complained to me that the new intern in the company was unreliable and made people angry. Some time ago, my friend took a planning case and made it himself. As a result, interns have not even learned the basic work to guide "this should not be done." The friend asked, "What should I do?" The intern replied, "I don't know. I shouldn't do it anyway." The friend said angrily, "In this case, you write a copy and I'll have a look." Finally, the interns were speechless. Because his copy, at first glance, knows that it is patchwork from the Internet, and it doesn't even make sense. What makes his friend even more angry is that his friend asked him, since he can't do it, why shouldn't he do it? As a result, the intern answered three words "by feeling". Finally, my friend said this sentence helplessly: I am angry, not because of his ignorance, but because he doesn't pretend to understand. In life, there are indeed many people who are very low-key and modest, but some people like to pretend not to understand. Always hide things you don't know, don't pretend to know, pretend to be knowledgeable. Or know a little, just say it in front of others. From then on, leave a bad impression on others: this is a dishonest person, or a person who likes to show off.

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Why do people always pretend not to understand?

I once read such a joke: someone asked, "What do you think of Shakespeare?" A said, "Not bad, but not as good as XO." B retorted, "Hey! Don't pretend to understand! Shakespeare is a dessert, how can you order wine! " This joke is ironic, but it is short and full of philosophy. In fact, if you think about it, almost everyone will have such a person. So, why do some people like to pretend not to understand? Psychologists from Cornell University in the United States have studied this. They think that most people don't pretend to know in order to cover up their ignorance. Because if we can't answer other people's questions, we will worry whether they think we are ignorant. So the brain will quickly search and make up information that can be answered. Although our answers may not be correct, at least when chatting, we will not appear so ignorant. Of course, some people don't pretend to understand, just to save face or to win vanity praise. But in fact, many times, if you don't pretend to understand, it will only make you look down. This reminds me of a WeChat group added not long ago. There are experienced elders and young people in the group, and the topics are constant and the themes are fresh. One of them is a girl, who almost always speaks when everyone speaks. It seems that when everyone is chatting together, she can't show her knowledge without talking. But in fact, some topics, as long as you open your mouth, how much ink you have, everyone already knows. And don't pretend to understand, everyone has seen it, but no one has poked it.

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Admit that you don't understand, there is nothing to be ashamed of.

As the old saying goes, "there is a priority in learning Tao, and there is a specialization in the technical field." Everyone's knowledge is limited, even experts in a certain field have blind spots in other knowledge. Wang Guowei, a master of modern Chinese studies, is one of the "four mentors" of Tsinghua Institute of Chinese Studies. He can be said to be knowledgeable and well informed. However, whenever a student asks questions in class, if he doesn't understand, he will honestly answer, "I don't understand this." His student Wang Li once said that he remembered that sometimes Wang Guowei would say several "I don't understand" after a class. There are so many things that China scholars don't understand, not to mention us ordinary people. It is much better to admit your ignorance of something honestly and frankly than to pretend that you don't know anything. In fact, "not understanding" should be the norm. For example, many "buzzwords" may appear overnight, and it is normal not to understand their meaning. In addition, knowledge is changing with each passing day. It can be said that people's understanding of things is limited, and their ignorance of things is infinite.

You know the brilliance of starlight, but you may not know the geological structure of stars;

You know the ferocity of the river, but you may not know the hardness of the river bed;

You know the landmark buildings of a city, but you may not understand the inner spirit of the city. ...

Admitting that you don't understand is really nothing to be ashamed of, and nothing to be embarrassed about.

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Admit that you don't understand, and you have a chance to do it well.

In the final analysis, not pretending to understand is actually a kind of self-deception, and it is also a cover-up for one's own shortcomings in the process of seeking knowledge. In real life, many people will have such concerns when they encounter questions they don't understand: "Will others make fun of me if I ask such an idiot question?" "Everyone knows, I don't understand. It is really embarrassing. " It is these concerns that make people pretend to understand. Doing so may satisfy your vanity, but it loses the opportunity to learn new knowledge. And a person's ignorance never begins with learning. "What you know is what you know, and what you don't know is what you know." This is what Confucius taught Luz. For those who always pretend not to understand, this sentence is particularly instructive and should be kept in mind. Only by admitting that you don't understand can you have a chance to do better.

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