When you have a fight with your girlfriend, should you reason with her?

I watched an interview video online. When the host asked a boy "should you be reasonable when you quarrel with your girlfriend?" Friends? ”

Although it sounds funny, many netizens said that this is a very real situation. If a boy tries to reason with his girlfriend, the girl will be even more angry.

Many boys will find a phenomenon when they are in love: when they quarrel with their girlfriend, she asks you to explain, but she doesn’t listen when you explain. If you try to reason with her, she says You don't love her anymore.

Therefore, boys feel that their girlfriend is not a person who can reason, and trying to reason with her is asking for death.

So, when you quarrel with your girlfriend, should you reason with her?

Someone has said: When quarreling, what a woman often wants is not your reason, but your inability to give in to her and show your doting love.

Therefore, love is not a rational emotion. Most girls are emotional. It is difficult for you to make her rational.

Men and women have different perspectives on problems. If you try to reason with her, you will start endless quarrels and your relationship will be in crisis.

Azhi and his girlfriend quarreled because his girlfriend bought a set of cosmetics, which were quite expensive. He said that her girlfriend should save some money.

My girlfriend originally bought cosmetics to have a beautiful makeup and went on a date with Azhi, but he accused her of not knowing how to save. She felt very depressed, so she had a quarrel with Azhi.

Azhi said: If you have this money, you might as well save it and buy something practical in the future. Girls can’t waste it like this.

After hearing what Azhi said, his girlfriend said: Anyway, it’s not your money that’s being spent!

Then he turned around and walked away, leaving Azhi alone confused, not knowing what he said wrong.

Some people may say that Azhi shouldn’t have a girlfriend. First of all, his girlfriend didn’t spend his money on cosmetics, and his girlfriend also wanted to wear makeup to make herself look better. Unexpectedly, Azhi He is so incomprehensible, yet he still has to be reasonable.

A man with high emotional intelligence knows how to coax his girlfriend instead of trying to reason with her.

Even if you win by being reasonable, but your girlfriend is not happy, do you still want to continue to be reasonable?

A man who tries to reason with his girlfriend during a quarrel has really low emotional intelligence.

Xiaoqing had some conflicts with her friends and was in a bad mood, so she went to her boyfriend to talk about it. In fact, she wanted to be comforted by her boyfriend.

But her boyfriend started to analyze with Xiaoqing who was at fault for this incident, and said that both her friend and Xiaoqing were at fault for this incident.

Xiaoqing was upset after hearing this, and did not want to hear what her boyfriend continued to say. Later, the relationship ended.

After Xiaoqing reconciled with her friend, she told her friend that what she wanted was comfort, not reason.

In fact, all girls know the truth. The reason why she quarrels and bickers with her boyfriend is just to get comfort and a hug from the other party, so as to prove that her boyfriend cares about her.

But boys must be reasonable. This is what makes girls very depressed. What they care about is the boy's attitude towards them, so it is unrealistic to resolve conflicts by reason.

The reason a girl makes unreasonable troubles is because she does not feel safe enough. She hopes that through quarrels and unreasonable troubles, you can pay attention to her and care about her. If you pamper her, her mood will change. Get better.

I once read a real example on the Internet:

A couple had a fight. The wife cried and wanted to pack her luggage and go back to her parents' home, but the husband stopped her and asked her to stay. At home, he left.

My wife is very sad. She feels that her husband doesn’t love her anymore, and he doesn’t even comfort her. He actually wants to escape. She really married the wrong person.

But unexpectedly, an hour later, my husband came back, holding his wife’s favorite hamburger in his hand, and said: Come on, wife, it will get cold if you don’t eat it.

After saying that, he hugged his wife and sat at the dining table. My wife's mood immediately improved, and this time the quarrel was over.

When this husband quarreled with his wife, he did not adopt a reasonable approach. Instead, he chose to let his wife stay at home and go out by himself, buying her favorite food like a normal person and making her happy.

In fact, when a woman quarrels with a man, a man caring about a small detail of her can also make her feel better.

A man with truly high emotional intelligence will not be reasonable when his lover is angry, but will show weakness, which can also make the other person feel better.

As for why we can’t reason with girls, it’s because women have super high intuition and want to find out what’s wrong with men. They are like Sherlock Holmes. When they get angry, their fighting power is really strong and they are angry. When you are, it is impossible to listen to your reasoning.

I have heard many girls say: Sometimes when I am angry, all I want is for him to hug me. Being in his arms feels like I own the whole world, which can make me feel better.

What a girl wants is a boy’s attitude. When she is quarreling, she can tell you a lot of bad things. This does not mean that she is dissatisfied with you, but that she hopes you can be tolerant. She can express her love with her attitude.

What men must understand is that they should never reason with their girlfriends or wives, because it is really meaningless and a hug is more practical.

Therefore, girls never need to be reasonable. Your attitude is enough to care about her, which will satisfy her sense of security and make the relationship last longer.