The friend officer is getting bigger and bigger, and he gradually loses contact. Will you contact him?

Now people are used to using smart phones, and address books can be stored in cloud storage. Just upload the address book to the network, which is convenient and fast. The software in Android will automatically upload the address book without your knowledge, which of course involves privacy issues.

If you are interested, you can pay attention to the tips when installing software in Android system. Allow * * * to enjoy location information, * * to enjoy address book, * * * to enjoy cameras, pictures and other content? Alternatively, you can open the settings in the system and check the rights management in Security and Privacy. Is there any right to open it? For example, modify or delete call records, write/delete address book, locate and read SMS, MMS inbox, audio/video recording, mobile phone identification code and other permissions.

My tablet computer is Android. When installing game software for him, Jojo noticed that every software would pop up before installation, and he could not install it without permission.

Since I used WeChat, I have developed the habit of commenting in the WeChat address book. For example, colleagues, classmates, friends, big brother selling fruit, a department leader, courier, a group of friends and so on. There are more and more contents in the address book, and so is WeChat. Many people can't remember who it is without making comments. Because even if you can remember everyone's name, they will change their names and avatars at any time. If you are not particularly familiar with it, it is difficult for people who are in frequent contact to remember it. It's even more troublesome to have duplicate names in the address book. I really don't know how many people in this world are called Sun Li, Liu Yang, Wang Fang and Jason (this Jason is not Nana's husband). ...

Once in a psychology class, I met a teacher whose habits left a deep impression on me. After jojo wrote down her cell phone number, she took a picture of my head. In this way, even if she forgets who I am, seeing your face can help you remember and increase your mutual affection. I think that a person can think of you when he sees your face, and there is a sense of existence.

In the past two years, I have occasionally sorted out my address book and deleted strangers or people I haven't contacted for years. This person who hasn't contacted for many years includes a former good friend, but I don't know why he didn't take the initiative to contact me, and the other party will never take the initiative to contact me, slowly "disappearing" his friend. A friend of mine hasn't contacted me for about five or six years since I didn't take the initiative to contact her, and I gradually forgot her.

One day on 20 18, she suddenly sent me a WeChat: "Are you there?"

After a while, she kept asking me: Where do you work? What is the salary? Do you have a boyfriend? Are you married? Where do you live now? Did you buy a house? ...

After vaguely feeling uncomfortable, I replied, "Your interrogation chat made me very uncomfortable."

The other party replied, "I ask because I care about you."

My reply: "I'm fine, thank you for your concern!"

..... This kind of care, or don't care about is better? I never contacted her again, and then deleted her from the address book. When I click the delete button on the screen of my mobile phone, I feel sorry and reluctant, and my mood is complicated.

There is a folk proverb: "Heroes have three gangs, fences have three piles, and Qin Gui has three friends." It means: kneeling in the ancestral temple, the great traitor who framed Zhongliang and defeated Yuefei, a loyal minister, has three good friends (Zhang Jun, Luo Ruzhen and Wan), not to mention the others.

No matter how hard you live, as long as you don't die young, you will definitely know some friends, even fair-weather friends. There is an interesting saying between men: "The four irons of life, carrying guns together, whoring together, being free together, being dirty together, and opening the window together."

Do friends have a classification? Some people will say no, some people will say yes. No matter what you say, everyone has a steelyard in his heart, and only he knows which side the weight tends to. According to my decades of life experience and information on the Internet, I listed the classification of several friends:

1, make friends. They know you, know you, and remember your kindness. When you encounter difficulties or need, they will do their best to support and help you. When you get along with them, don't be on guard for fear that they will cheat you for the benefit. One such friend is enough in this life, but you can't have it. If you have such friends, you are lucky. Congratulations!

Fair-weather friends We can eat, drink, go clubbing, sing, dance and play games together. After eating, they urinate to avoid paying bills or borrowing money. In short, you can eat, drink and have fun with them, that is, friends who can't do serious things together.

3. Ordinary friends. For example, neighbors, community security guards, aunts and grandmothers in the vegetable market, and cashiers in the supermarket across the street. Occasionally meet and talk and laugh at will, help us get a courier, push a car conveniently, and let you know as soon as you see your pet taken away. If you can borrow money, but it's not too much, it doesn't matter if you don't pay back ten dollars and twenty dollars. Maybe we can't even remember each other's names. It's a casual acquaintance.

4. Business friends. Generally refers to like-minded company partners, colleagues who have business relations and work in a company or office at the same time. We usually bow our heads and see each other. Occasionally, we go out for lunch. When checking out, it defaults to AA system. Gossip about other colleagues' bosses behind their backs and introduce each other's blind date. But when it comes to interests (promotion and salary increase), you will suddenly change your face, one on the surface and one behind, and you can always stab each other for the benefit.

5, also a teacher and a friend. Regardless of gender and age, only look at experience and knowledge, teachers and friends. Both sides can learn from each other, and talk about everything from astronomy to geography. It's fun. Zi once said, "When the three of us are together, we must learn from each other." Choose the good and follow it, but change it if it is not good. "Everyone has different luminous points, just to see if you can see or want to see (selective blindness).

6, heterosexual girlfriends. For various reasons, they can't be lovers, but they are attracted to each other and become friends. Sitting on the sofa together, watching movies, eating, chatting and joking in pajamas. They will laugh with you when you are happy; When you are sad, they will cry with you and comfort you. They help you beat a mistress and catch an adulterer.

The world is too big, with a population of more than 7 billion. The above classification cannot cover everyone, so it is a glimpse of the leopard.

There are two kinds of friends that are special: 1 and friends in need. I will contact you only when I need your help. You will never contact you when I don't need it. This is a typical friend in need.

2. Inactive friends. This kind of friend will not take the initiative to contact you even when necessary. Unless you contact actively, the other party will never contact you actively. For example, send a WeChat on holidays. You don't send it, the other party will never send a message. As soon as your message is sent, the other party will reply. Although it is just a copy and paste of New Year's greetings, we all know an important message: "Oh! You are still alive and haven't deleted me. "

No matter what kind of friend you are, once the other party doesn't take the initiative to contact you, there must be a reason: maybe it's because of contradictions; Maybe they don't need each other anymore; It may be because of marriage, having a family that must be taken care of deliberately, and so on. In short, you are no longer important in the other person's heart, but you have not made it clear to the other person.

How many friends have you put forward the famous "Dunbar number"? Robin Dunbar, a professor of evolutionary anthropology at Oxford University in the United Kingdom, wrote in How Many Friends Do You Need: The Mysterious Dunbar Number and Genetic Code: "There is no difference between you and me in this history that all mankind have experienced together. If we go back to our own stories, the clues will get closer and eventually converge on the same point, that is, our common ancestor. Maybe we were just a family a few generations ago, or maybe we have been separated for thousands of years. "

"The number of people that individuals can know, trust and rely on emotionally will not exceed 150, which is the so-called Dunbar number. The reason why it is 150 is because the human brain has limited capacity and cannot carry more. "

"In most primate species, whether a female can reproduce successfully depends mainly on whether she can get the support of her sisters. In order to effectively maintain their social relations, female individuals need to be able to respond flexibly in complex social systems. "

There is a proverb in China: "Depend on your parents at home and your friends when you go out." People are social animals, and all people spend their lives interacting with others, from birth to death. Of course, you can choose to live in seclusion. But only if you are an adult and self-sufficient, otherwise you can't avoid contact with others. Whether animals or people want to live, they need to breathe, eat, drink and sleep.

Imagine how a person can survive in society without contact with others.

Reminiscent of the protagonist "Xi Er" in "White-haired Girl", because of the persecution in the old society, she fled into the depths of the jungle, and the rice was always exposed. Her hair turned white because of the long-term lack of salt intake.

There are similar things in today's society. There is a news online that the girl who resigned and lived in seclusion in Zhong Nanshan came back because she couldn't afford the rent. The report said: "On February 26, 2008, Xiaonan, a girl who lived in seclusion in Zhong Nanshan in her early years, was at a loss because the annual rent of the rented small courtyard rose from 4 million to 20,000 ..."

At this time, if a heart-to-heart friend gives her 100 million yuan, is it still a question of rent or something? It's all clouds ...

Modern society is a "stranger society". Because of personal prejudice and preferences, you will choose different friends and social circles that are beneficial to you. There was no concept of "society" in ancient China. In the 20th century, Fei Xiaotong proposed in Native China that the traditional society in China was an acquaintance society. "acquaintance society" is a "small circle" that talks about family, neighborhood and brotherhood. Such acquaintance society will eventually die with the development of globalization and networking.

In the city, neighbors who live in the same building and floor across the street have never even met each other and don't talk to each other. This phenomenon is not uncommon. However, man is not a lone wolf. In order to survive, whether for direct or indirect reasons, there will always be times when friends are needed. Friends are an indispensable social relationship for everyone.

A lone wolf is a wolf abandoned by wolves. Most adult lone wolves are elderly males. Abandoned by wolves, hunting alone and picking up leftovers from wolves. The lone wolf is ferocious and will do whatever it takes to survive. Wolves are predators and sheep are prey. But it turns out that wolves have been hunted by humans for thousands of years, because they can kill livestock and harm humans. Wild wolves are becoming more and more rare, and people want to see them only by going to the zoo. Sheep are not decreasing, but increasing. Because they are weak enough, lack of aggression, and tender meat, easy to digest and absorb after eating, they are one of the food sources for improving human immunity.

In the dead of night, indifferent people sometimes feel lonely. When you can't talk to your family, you need the comfort and companionship of your friends.