Why is it getting lower and lower?

I met a little girl for work reasons before. After the Ninth Five-Year Plan, I went to a local unknown university. Let's call her Xiaoya for the moment. One day, Xiaoya said to me in dismay, "Sister, I find that I am getting lower and lower."

"Why do you say that?" I asked her.

She sighed heavily. "I just feel that my taste in all aspects has dropped." The little girl sighed heavily.

Later, I learned that her family was well-off, attended the best high school in the area, and was full of talents. However, when she was admitted to an unsatisfactory university, most of her classmates had average grades and average performances, and she felt that there was a big gap. Most importantly, she fell in love with a boy, who was not good at all and was neither too cold nor too hot for her. "In the past, I certainly wouldn't look at him."

But in fact, Xiaoya's emotions are influenced by this not-so-good boy. She thinks she deserves a better boy and a better life, so she doesn't like eating in the canteen, the sense of dress of the girls in the dormitory and shopping with them. But the boy she likes will only date her occasionally because he wants something.

I don't know if Xiaoya has thought about this problem of lowering. Actually, it's true when you think about it. The high school where she went to school before was the best school in this city, which concentrated the best students in this city, mostly urban children. Their ideas and thinking are relatively advanced and active, while most of the students after university study are rural children in this province and neighboring provinces, and their ideas and thinking are slightly different. After all, there are differences in resources and education between rural and urban areas. The circle of life is getting narrower and narrower. Of course, she feels lower and lower.

And she just felt that she was getting lower. She never thought about expanding her social circle, never thought about learning from people who are not low, and she could only be unwilling to be low.

Environment can affect a person's overall level, if it is difficult to change itself. It's not hard to understand. After entering a good university, some people will get better and better, sign a central enterprise and go abroad for further study. Some people, after graduating from one or two junior colleges, mistakenly enter a very good enterprise, and will fall behind other students after three to five years. This is also the reason why after five years and ten years of graduation, there is a big gap between alumni associations who graduated in the same session.

If you are surrounded by excellent people, it is hard for you not to be excellent. If you are surrounded by people who work nine to five, it is difficult for you to become motivated.

If you feel yourself getting lower and lower, it must be that your environment is getting lower and lower, and you are doing nothing in a mediocre environment.

I moved to a new home and met a postdoctoral neighbor of a famous university. She works as a teacher in a local university. Because of her career, she takes care of her baby at work. Even so, she still took advantage of the gap with her baby to test all kinds of certificates with high gold content.

Once talking about college life, she said that at that time, all the dorms were masters, and she would go to the library for self-study in her spare time and watch others study hard. Besides, she thinks that "if you don't study hard at school, you will have nothing to do." After four years in college, their whole dormitory worked hard, not much easier than high school. Of course, the harvest is that when I graduate, half of the six people apply for graduate school and half sign the top 500. This is an inspirational example of Xueba Dormitory.

As far as I know, the learning atmosphere in famous universities is particularly good, and "4 am at Harvard" is also a fact. The atmosphere of ordinary two colleges and universities is definitely much worse. Most students are either chasing plays or lying in the dormitory in their spare time. When they go to the library on a whim, they just read novels and read magazines. So do most of my classmates. I also despise seeing a few hardworking schoolmasters. I was dumbfounded when I graduated, and I passed by the ideal enterprise. Can only be selected, into the enterprise, lack of enthusiasm, in addition to their own work, there is no idea.

Of course, most of my colleagues around me are like this. They are holding a stable salary, providing a house and raising children, and they have no idea more and more. They live at two o'clock and one line, brush their mobile phones and follow the drama. They also have a little envy and yearning for the rapidly rising elites in the new media era, but they don't have the courage and perseverance to change all this. As a result, the dream really became a dream, claiming to be low, and gradually adapted to a lower and lower life.

In addition to the environment, of course, more is their own factors. Learning is a very important aspect. China's education system makes most people regard being admitted to university as the end of their study, and even fewer people have study habits after graduation.

Want a raise, study.

I don't like my present job, but I want to change my major.

Want to be promoted and learn.

As long as you keep your enthusiasm for learning and stay on the road forever, the word low is absolutely irrelevant to you.

Learning from books, from leaders, from colleagues, looking for online resources, and even spending money on training courses are all ways to learn and improve yourself. Constantly improving yourself is the antonym of low.

A college student signed a contract to start a business after graduation, and found that it was not his interest at all in less than a year. Because I like photography, I decided to go to Beijing for further study for one and a half years. During the period, I have to pay for the house, tuition and be an assistant to a senior photographer.

After returning from school, he opened a studio, but he also struggled with the entrepreneurial team day and night. At the same time, I continue to learn from various big coffees and gradually form my own shooting style. Many local celebrities are his clients, and they are becoming more and more successful.

The reason why it is getting lower and lower is definitely that the previous accumulation is not enough. There will always be a period of hard struggle in one's life. Don't choose to suffer first, you can only suffer first. Success is to be accumulated. The achievement at the age of 30 is the result of the struggle between the ages of 20 and 30, and the mediocrity at the age of 30 is definitely the mediocrity of the previous decade.

In a hurry, after 30, I chatted with my friends and found that everyone had this feeling of oppression. Standing at the age of 30 is not age, but the basis of accumulated experience to make a living. Without a basis for making a living, there is no way to talk about it.

Friends who are not getting lower around have no time to shout tired. It's all in full swing They are all making steady progress.

Friends of large state-owned enterprises are still trying to study in-service graduate students. In addition to accompanying children for many years after graduation, attending classes, attending training courses and taking the teacher qualification examination have increased the possibilities for their own interests and put others' time for worrying about the future into action.

Friends who have transferred from hr to accounting have already started to take note cards and use their off-duty time to chew professional knowledge.

Newly married friends don't consider having children first, because the career has reached a critical period, so hurry to make the career smoother.

If you feel that people around you are getting better and better, and your desire to learn is getting stronger and stronger, then congratulations, your life will get better and better. On the contrary, you can only say that it is not far from the low.

I hope that friends will go further and further in their favorite fields and their lives will become more and more colorful.