Sister Lei said

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Yesterday I saw a girl posting a status in the circle of friends: "Because I'm not married yet, it seems like the whole world can't tolerate me! What's wrong with me is this There is something wrong with society! I feel like I really have to die to apologize, it’s not right!”

She said, when you are forced into a desperate situation, who should you live for?

Next, a friend of mine who has been married replied: Never treat yourself badly.

I clicked (?)? because I am not married either and because I am the same age as her.

But I didn’t want to die to apologize, because I lived a more selfish life.

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Maybe the elders do do it for our own good. I admit this, so I often preach about the importance of a stable job, marriage, and having children. I will also become someone else. The so-called "idleness".

In this era, there are two completely different worldviews. Among people of our age, half of us are taking the path that our elders think is wrong but we don’t think it is wrong, and the other half is taking the path that our elders think is wrong and we think it is okay. The way to go.

What I have always expressed is that many things will change from our generation. I just want to live the life I like. However, I found that being friendly and speaking high-quality and culturally meaningful words to others, and being persuasive and persuasive , I tell people that I am living a good life, but this cannot stop some people from talking, so now I can only be more direct: it is none of your business whether I make more or less, and it is not up to you whether I am happy or not. You're bullshit, do I have to post everything on Moments to tell the world? Instead of meddling in other people's business, it is better to go home and take care of your own family, husband, wife and children~

Of course, when telling people the above points, I will change my tone and add or delete words depending on the situation.

Perhaps, this will inevitably lead to being said that you have a bad temper, and that’s why you can’t get married.

I can never satisfy everyone's requirements, so why should I make big changes to my temper and personality? Will more people like me if I say less? Will more people hate me if I say a few more words? Just like you don't like people saying you have character problems, I don't like it either. Even if it is true, sorry, I can't change it!

I say more or less, just out of respect~

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When I was in college, there was a Nanjing girl in the dormitory opposite me who had a very good relationship with me. The opening line of all WeChat messages between us over the years was her saying: 1111. I replied: 222.

She said it was a code.

I still don’t know what kind of password this is, but I know that she has always been a very thoughtful person.

When we were in college, we had a studio together. Although it had a very unsophisticated name, it was called: Flower Studio. Her name is Hua Xiang Nong Nong, and I call her Snoring Leilei. Just as she doesn’t understand my name, I don’t understand why she calls herself Hua Xiang Nong Nong.

This studio mainly undertakes some design, art, and editing business. She does the design and I do the external work. She sells ideas and technology, and I sell execution and communication skills.

In my eyes, she is the most thoughtful and talented person I know.

Although the studio is not well-known, we are very happy doing it. There are a group of classmates from other colleges around me, as well as a group of juniors and seniors. No matter what difficulties or unhappiness we encounter, thinking about it now, it is always the happiest time.

I always thought that was the way we were going to go in the future, that was everything.

When she graduated, she told me that her parents had arranged a job for her and she might not continue on this path.

I said, it’s okay, there will be opportunities in the future.

However, there was no future.

The junior students followed the path that we did not finish back then and walked their own path.

Cameras, movies, studios, companies, they call us grandma.

And we never went back.

Many years later, she put aside all worries and walked out of the system with the support of her husband.

She said, I know how difficult it is to start from scratch, but I am not afraid, because no matter how difficult it is, I am still being myself and walking on my own path.

When I finished writing my first novel and turned my hobbies into a studio, I chatted with her a lot about my thoughts about the future, and listened to her on the other end of the phone talking excitedly about recent events. job, talking about my sharply increased salary, talking about my career plans, and talking about my plans to turn my hobbies into a studio, I couldn’t help but say: If you could do it again in life, you must never leave what your parents gave you. You have arranged a path. This path may be suitable for others, but it is not suitable for you.

She was silent for a while and then replied to me: Yes, if I could have my life over again, I would definitely do the things I want to do a few years earlier.

Just because life is long, you have to keep trying.

Just because you keep trying, be yourself.

And everything that cannot defeat you will succeed you.

Even if you can’t drive a trailer in life, you can still drive a tractor. It doesn’t matter if you go slower, the important thing is that you must be on the road~

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Some people say: People are like this. Trying their best to become good is just to win the respect of all sentient beings. You call it worldly, but this is life.

This is absolutely true. When I was working in the early years, I worked hard just for the purpose of "getting ahead".

After the dean of the fake school in the American movie "Admission Notice" talked so much nonsense, he returned to the topic and told the parents just this sentence: spend so much money, read so many books, come to a Isn’t the purpose of a good school so that you can find a decent and profitable job in the future?

A decent and profitable job is the ultimate purpose of studying. Whatever changes your life is all added value. I am lucky to get it, but I am destined to lose it.

So we work hard not to disappoint our parents.

I even sneered when I saw jobs that were high-paying, easy and not very respectable.

At least that was how I was a few years ago.

Then, one day, I couldn't attend the wedding of my best classmate and couldn't arrive when my parents needed me most. I couldn't help but start thinking about whether this was the life I wanted.

In fact, the only one who can really stop us is ourselves.

Today, many years later, I finally understand a sentence: Regret is given to myself, pressure is given to myself, and happiness is given to myself.

Don’t listen to the things you don’t want to hear, and don’t remember the unhappy memories.

No one knows which will come first, the future or the unexpected.

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In addition to our parents, we also care about what we look like in the eyes of our friends. Sometimes the pursuit of fame and fortune is not about how much you desire it, but just to be able to not be looked down upon in the eyes of others and to be able to integrate into the large circle of secular society.

Sometimes, we need a little more courage to bravely admit our shortcomings, to bravely break away from the constraints of the outside world, and to bravely pursue ourselves in our minds.

Yes, I am indeed not as good as them; yes, I am a stupid kid; yes, I really don’t have much potential like this.

I'm sorry, I may have disappointed you, and I didn't live the best life in your eyes. I'm sorry.

But, at least I didn’t let myself down, I lived the best of myself!

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