Not extreme, not complaining, very reliable and beautiful article

Not extreme, not complaining, very reliable and beautiful article

What should girls do

How many of my college roommates are there? a foreign student. Once, there was a flood in the dormitory. We girls stood on the bricks in the corner with our hands on our waists and called the building management carefully. She was the only one with her trouser legs rolled up and her bare feet wearing rubber slippers, soaking in the full room. In the dirty water... we all advised her: "Don't do it, this is not what girls should do!" She stopped and asked us seriously: "Then what should girls do?"

When I first started working after graduating from college, I worked as a basic courier liaison in a large company. I was responsible for notifying the courier to pick up the machine every day, or waiting for the courier to deliver the machine to the company for me to sign for it. Sometimes, when the express arrives and I am not at my work station, the machines will be piled up around my seat. I feel that I am also a girl who graduated from Peking University. I obviously shouldn't be able to move those 10 kilograms of machines. So if there are no male colleagues around, I would rather let those huge objects be placed in the most obstructive place. Until one day, the cleaner couldn't stand it and offered to move it to the warehouse for me. I was really embarrassed, so I had to bite the bullet and carry the machine to the warehouse one by one.

When I really reached out to do it, I realized that it didn’t seem as heavy as I thought. In the days that followed, I bought professional disassembly tools and began to learn to disassemble and assemble machines by myself. I often dragged the trolley around in the warehouse, climbed up and down to organize the warehouse, and even sat down steadily. I put the goods on the shelves of the big truck and went out. After a few months, I could either wear a small suit and walk with small steps to deliver documents between offices, or carry a 20 kilogram machine to the place designated by the photographer. No more complaints about why a male intern was not hired. At the company's annual meeting at the end of the year, my leaders said with emotion that I, a fledgling girl, could actually do all the things that traditionally should be done by male colleagues. That was the first time I realized in a profound way that nothing is ever inherently assigned to boys or girls.

We often complain that during our four years in college, our grades have always been better than those of boys, and our performance in various activities on campus is no worse than theirs; but one day we will be integrated with society, whether it is internship, social research or job hunting. , will be defeated, especially after entering the workplace, there is obviously a lack of stamina. If a girl is lucky enough to become an executive or leader, people will immediately cast their eyes with great admiration. Does the workplace have to be a man’s world? I admit that there is indeed prejudice and discrimination against girls in some industries, but I am afraid that more of the reasons lie within ourselves. We are all in the workplace and receive the same salary. Why do girls often take it for granted that they have to work less than boys? Why can't girls struggle like boys? Why can’t girls maintain the same strong motivation to study in college after entering the workplace?

Who will compete with whom in a battle of wits and courage?

Today, Du Lala has become a career mentor that countless girls are trying to imitate. However, many people only saw the side of Du Lala who studied hard and learned office politics, but automatically ignored that she was very anxious when she first joined the job, stayed up late to study, and shouldered the budget, design, construction, and material selection on the shoulders of a weak woman. The banner, finally successfully completed the trivial decoration, and this was the first time that it was appreciated by the big leader.

One day, I had dinner with my long-lost college classmates. She asked me in confusion: "Do you think your job is happy?" I said: "It's pretty good." She then asked: "So is there any intrigue or personnel struggle in your company?" I was very serious. The answer: "I don't know." She asked unwillingly: "Then will you join the company's group gang?" I asked back: "Is there a gang? I don't know." She twisted her sitting posture and continued to ask: " Will your colleagues avoid you on purpose or bully you on purpose?" I thought for a long time and said, "I don't know." She scratched her head and asked, "Don't you want to know more about your work environment?" I replied: " No time." She finally sighed: "Do you only care about the work at hand?"

I put down my chopsticks and answered seriously: "I have to complete my work efficiently every day and try to get off work on time. After returning home, I have to study, read classical Chinese that I didn’t learn thoroughly in college, update my blog, write columns, prepare an outline for the book that is being pursued by the editor of the publishing house, and contact charity organizations to do projects at any time. Do you think I have the time and energy to know other things? ”

I have seen too many girls who spend their energy on dressing up, falling in love, asking around for gossip, and being interested in meaningless gossip. . As a columnist, I receive many letters from girls every day, and 80% of them are like complaining women, detailing their workplace complaints to me. They were extremely trusting and told me every little tangle they encountered in the workplace in detail, for fear that I would not understand the dire straits they were in, such as who discriminated against them, who criticized them, and who glared at them. At a glance, I can see who is trying to make me feel inferior, who is suppressing me and not being promoted, who is in the position, and who is no longer a thing, and then I ask me what to do, how to fight with these people.

As a result, these girls who have studied hard since childhood and have always been at the top slowly exhausted all their passion and dreams on trivial matters, forgetting what they had carefully planned in college. In the course of life, I missed many opportunities that could have been my own, and watched helplessly as the boys transformed from being idle and not doing their jobs on the college campus to becoming elites in the workplace. What's even more frightening is that these girls will gradually use nonsense words like "Society is so cruel and will always dull my shine" to convince themselves, and they will also gradually believe in their mother's words "Girls should be stable and don't jump back and forth randomly." , the teacher said, "Girls should take aerobics or yoga classes, not Taekwondo." My best friend said, "Girls should return to their families, and don't be so ambitious." He lost his fearlessness and strength for the glory and dreams of the world.

I have also had days when I was cautious and struggling to make a living in the workplace from morning to night, walking on thin ice; I have also had days when I was on tenterhooks all day long because my boss looked wrong or said something unpleasant; There were also days when I offended a colleague because I said something wrong, and I was so worried that I couldn't sleep at night. However, when one day I started to focus on work according to my established goals, I found that I no longer had extra time and energy to worry about all kinds of messy and unreliable things.

Although there are still countless girls around me who are paying attention to the inside story of promotions, relationships with bosses, and competitions in dressing up, I don’t want to participate, and I can’t do any research. I escape to other places. I just want to be a good employee who is at home and alone. I pay attention to how to perfect every detail in my hands. I spend every minute of my work attentively. I hope that every moment that comes out of my hands will be perfect. Every work is a work of art, even if it is just a PPT or an Excel spreadsheet.

I can get up... I can get down...

It has been a year since I graduated from college. From the initial distraction to the regrouping of motivation, I can see more and more clearly that the college years The dream came flying back again. At that moment, I began to understand the stupidity of the distractions I had seen. I almost gave up my years of hard work for trivial matters, and gave up on the beauty that had nothing to do with others and existed only in my heart. New world.

Looking at my college classmates, the moment we walked out of Peking University a year ago, we were a group of proud, motivated girls with a broad vision and mind. In college, we often went to the UK for exchanges and the United States for research. At that time, we felt like we had the whole world in our hearts. But now, why do we become so fussy about work? I worry about whether a report is upsetting, whether a box should be moved by a male colleague, whether the virus in the computer should be reinstalled by my boyfriend, whether someone needs to accompany me to the hospital when I am sick, whether a new pair of shoes is good or not. There were scratches on the first day of wearing it... Where has the whole world gone within us?

So today, one year later, many of my female classmates are still standing at the starting point of graduation, while the boys in the same class have quietly run ahead of us at some point. Perhaps one day in the future, We can only look at their backs from a distance.

Maybe you will say that every girl has to face reality, but if we just convince ourselves to be a little bit lazy, then in a few years you will become like the most ordinary girl. The same parents, the same family, the same house, car and children, the same discounts from the owner and promotions from the west. We used to work so hard on the university campus to keep ourselves restless, uncompromising, and never give up, just for the sake of achieving the same destination through different paths in the end?

We are always taught that "girls should be softer, don't be strong, don't be good at everything, learn to be coquettish, and let boys do it for you." In fact, every girl is born without a sense of labels. Those so-called things that you should be like and shouldn't be like that are all imposed on you by the environment. I used to think that computer technology was not my business. Why would a girl know this? Of course there are boys lining up to help you do it. Until one day, work forced me to hold the instruction manual - find the optical drive and hard disk, determine how big the CPU is, and how to use the recorder. When I threw away my inner barriers, I took apart a broken computer and reassembled it, and then told my female colleague in detail what each component was used for, where each wire should be connected, and what each circuit board worked on. , she will only think that this girl is awesome.

Under the expectations of society, we gradually become educated and sensible, become good wives and mothers, and become gray-haired. In fact, those ideas that boys have looked forward to, such as designing a house, building a plane, becoming a master of technology, and mastering physics and chemistry, all existed in our hearts. It’s just that we are accustomed to using gender as an excuse and have given up the motivation for progress, so we have watched boys achieve legends and write myths.

There is a joke circulating on the Internet: What is the standard for women in the new century? I can go to the hall, I can go to the kitchen, I can write code, I can detect abnormalities, I can kill Trojan horses, I can climb the wall, I can afford a good car, I can afford a good house... Maybe this is not a joke, but what a girl should do A dream to work hard to achieve.