If you don't want to treat friends of the opposite sex as "lovers", you should keep in mind: bottom line, principle and distance.

Our relationship with friends of the opposite sex is like two parallel lines that don't intersect, so there will always be a distance, but how far is this distance?

Of course it won't be too far, otherwise it won't be friends. This distance may be only "one meter". If you take a step forward, you will get closer to each other. Take a step forward and you can step into each other's world.

These are two steps, but you can't just walk out. You must always keep this distance, which is the safest distance between you.

If you want to remain close friends forever, if you want to feel more at ease in your lover's heart, your relationship must be more open, healthy and sunny.

So the distance between friends of the opposite sex can be described in one word-one meter of sunshine.

1, it is not difficult to maintain a healthy relationship with friends of the opposite sex.

Lin Qing is an editor of an internal magazine in an enterprise, and Wang Tao is a photographer in the unit. Because there are few people in the department, almost every time I go out for an interview, I have two partners.

Two people are tied together from work to work, five days a week, which is longer than the time spent together by husband and wife. The two talked about everything at work and became good friends with each other in private.

If anyone bullies Lin Qing, Wang Tao will definitely stand up; What happened to Lin Qing? Wang Tao was more anxious than Lin Qing. Lin Qing did something wrong, and Wang Tao will remind her rudely. Especially the last point, let Lin Qing regard him as his good friend and buddy.

But none of my friends around me pointed fingers at the relationship between them, because both of them know how to grasp the distance between them, and their friendship has never "deteriorated".

Both of them have their own boyfriend and girlfriend, both of whom have been in love and have been lovelorn. Therefore, they became each other's emotional advisers. The two also introduced their lovers to each other, and the four often eat and play together. No one has ever doubted the affection between them. There is something beyond friendship.

Someone also asked them, "You two have such a good relationship that your boyfriend and girlfriend are not jealous, and no one around you doubts your friendship. How do you manage this relationship? " Why does my husband upset the jealousy when I have a better friend of the opposite sex? "

Lin Qing smiled and said, "We have never deliberately managed this relationship. We just get along naturally, and we all know how to handle it properly. There is a bottom line, a principle and a distance. If these points are not broken, everyone can believe that we are pure friendship. "

They know that this friendship is a fragile flower in the workplace and must be carefully cared for, so they try their best to make this friendship pure and sunny.

Later, they got married, married, and this simple feeling still exists.

The distance between Lin Qing and Wang Tao, a heterosexual friend, is the best distance between a woman and a heterosexual friend: one meter of sunshine. Such a distance makes Lin Qing and her friends and lovers feel at ease about this friendship.

2. How to grasp the relationship with friends of the opposite sex?

Maybe some friends are not sure about the distance of this relationship, so are there any simple methods and principles that can be easily mastered?

First, grasp the scale.

Although you may spend a lot of time with friends of the opposite sex, it doesn't mean that you can often contact alone or privately. Most of the time, you should still be with your colleagues and friends.

Too much separate contact will inevitably create opportunities for each other to spark or derail, and will inevitably lead to long-term love.

Therefore, no matter how close the relationship is, it is just a friend. We should grasp the scale of communication. Not too close, not too close.

Second, pay attention to discretion.

Although friends of the opposite sex can talk, it doesn't mean they can say anything. If it's too private, it's best not to say it, let alone go to the other party for comfort.

People's hearts are fleshy, the feelings between men and women are subtle, and sympathy can easily be transformed into love.

Third, the positioning should be accurate.

No matter how deep your relationship with friends of the opposite sex is, please never forget that you are just friends. Please don't forget your family, your lover and your responsibilities.

Even if we meet each other late, we can only keep this regret in our hearts, not to mention the nasty thoughts and dark psychology of finding a lover.

Fourth, don't ignore same-sex friends.

Why do we get too close to the opposite sex?

The key is that we have friends of the opposite sex, but we ignore the existence of same-sex friends. Over time, same-sex friends leave you, and only opposite-sex friends are around. At this time, you have to get closer and closer to ta.

So, even if you are close to your friends of the opposite sex, don't forget your friends of the same sex. Friends of the opposite sex are your wealth and your treasure!

In fact, these methods can be summarized as one: don't hide your opposite sex friend, let him appear in front of your husband, your colleagues and your circle of friends, and let him "bask in the sun" from time to time. In this case, the distance between you and him, if you want to break through one meter of sunshine, I'm afraid it's difficult!

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