What should be changed in the reform of marriage customs?

Marriage customs vary from place to place, but in recent years, vulgar marriages and high-priced bride price have frequently appeared. Obviously getting married is a happy thing, but it has caused a lot of smoke. The latest news is that the second batch of experimental areas for marriage custom reform have been released, so what should be changed in marriage custom reform? What is the "National Experimental Zone for Marriage Custom Reform"? Let's take a closer look with Bian Xiao!

What is the national experimental area of marriage custom reform?

On April 20th last year, the "National Marriage Custom Reform Experimental Zone" entered the public view for the first time. In order to further promote the change of customs, strengthen the moral construction of citizens in the new era, form a good social fashion, and promote the happiness and harmony of marriage and family, the Ministry of Civil Affairs issued the Guiding Opinions on the Pilot Work of Marriage Customs Reform.

On April 9th this year, Guangzhou, hejian city, Baotou Qingshan, Inner Mongolia Autonomous Region and other five cities 15 were identified as national experimental areas for marriage custom reform through local declaration, field investigation and comprehensive evaluation.

Focusing on the theme of the pilot reform of marriage customs, the cities in the experimental area actively cultivate and practice the socialist core values, vigorously promote the change of customs in the marriage field, inherit and develop the excellent Chinese marriage and family culture, advocate the whole society to form a correct value orientation of marriage and family, curb the unhealthy trend of marriage customs, and continuously improve the civilization level of the whole society and the spiritual outlook of the masses, which provides a vivid example for promoting the reform of marriage customs.

The "Opinions" require that the organic combination of top-level design and grassroots exploration should be adhered to, and pilot areas should be guided and encouraged to try first and boldly innovate around pilot tasks, explore and form a number of theoretical innovations, practical innovations and institutional innovations, and timely upgrade mature experiences and practices into long-term mechanisms.

What should be changed in the reform of marriage customs?

"More ostentation and extravagance than ostentation and extravagance": Don't let the wedding banquet become a "leftover banquet"

As a typical family consumption, wedding banquet is not only a witness of happiness and blessing, but also a "personal banquet". Especially in today's rapid development of social media, the phenomenon of "big scenes" following the trend is more prominent.

At the end of the wedding reception, there will be a table full of leftovers. Many people are used to the waste of wedding banquets. The waste of food and beverage at various wedding banquets is amazing. Leftovers generally account for a quarter to a third of the dishes, making the wedding banquet a "leftovers feast".

Empty plates mean "no face", "hard dishes" are not delicious, and the standard of wedding banquets is high every year, so I don't want to eat them all. The main reasons for serious waste are ostentation and extravagance, saving face and being old-fashioned

As everyone knows, this kind of ostentation and extravagance has increased the burden on the wedding organizers, which is incompatible with the frugality advocated by the whole society at present.

Weddings should not show off each other's wealth, but should reflect a sense of gratitude to the guests who come to congratulate; Making a "leftovers feast" does not represent how decent you are. Pursuing a healthy catering concept and a rational lifestyle is the greatest sincerity.

The host should warmly entertain the guests and show sincerity in the dishes with full weight, but a wedding that is not wasted is more decent. Dining table civilization is the epitome of social civilization. Because of vanity and old customs, it has become a wedding banquet in the hardest hit area of food waste, so we should step on the "sudden brake".

"Colorful Green": A high price bride price is not love.

The bride price, also known as betrothal gift, betrothal gift and betrothal in ancient times, originated from the "Six Gifts" followed by the Western Zhou Dynasty and later dynasties, and is a traditional custom in China. Now, in some areas and families, the bride price has been given too much material significance, and even become a heavy burden, losing its original intention.

There are many sayings about bride price, such as "three catties and two liang", "motionless" and "bride price green". "Three catties and two ounces" refers to the weight of a hundred-dollar bill. If calculated according to one hundred dollars 1. 16 grams, three pounds and two ounces is 1.5 million dollars. "Don't move", don't move refers to the car, don't move refers to the house, now marriage with a car and a house seems to have become standard; "Colorful green" is 10,000 five-dollar bills and 1,000 hundred-dollar bills, which add up to 150,000.

This kind of bride price requires people to be chilling. It used to be "all's well that ends well", but now it's "all's well that ends well with rich people"?

The wedding bride price in rural areas of China has been rising all the way, especially in some poor mountainous areas, from the initial tens of thousands of yuan to the present hundreds or even two hundred thousand yuan. Even some farmers regard marrying a woman as a means to change their poor lives, so that a large number of young people can't afford to marry because of the bride price problem. The "bride price loan" that offended the public some time ago can be described as accurately grasping the "user pain point".

As a thousand-year-old traditional custom in China, the existence of bride price also has a certain mass basis. It is not only a way to show the sincerity of the man, but also means that the family of both men and women has reached a marriage contract relationship, which is a "constraint" for both men and women to be loyal to love.

But from a reasonable point of view, the amount of bride price should also match the local economic development level and the man's economic strength. That kind of high-priced bride price without considering emotional factors and actual situation is not only an abnormal understanding of traditional customs, but also a disrespect for real marriage.

"Tie the groom and hug the maid of honor": it's not hilarious, it's bullshit.

Marriage is a traditional marriage custom in China, which shows the festive atmosphere of the wedding. For example, people often say that holding a wedding is one of the forms of marriage, and the marriage customs of "making a noise is a celebration" and "getting married without making a noise" are deeply rooted.

But this kind of behavior has already exceeded the bottom line of traditional customs and jokes. The unconventional way of celebrating makes the wedding that should be warm turn into vulgar pranks, and some even violate morality, affect social atmosphere and even bring security risks.

For example, the groom was locked in an iron cage and painted with green paint, the bride was sprayed with flour all over her face, the groom's father was made into the shape of a "fireman", and even the bridesmaids were taken advantage of it to be obscene. There are even news reports that a groom's official was hoisted into the air by a crane on the street of Zhengzhou, and the scene was very embarrassing.

Marriage is a great event and happy event in life. According to local customs, making fun of and "embarrassing" the couple appropriately can increase the festive atmosphere of the wedding, which is understandable.

However, the marriage that deviates from the track of civilization, wearing the cloak of custom and under the guise of blessing, is "bad customs" in essence.

Marriage customs should follow basic social morality and not deviate from the track of civilization. It is an extremely bad custom to destroy public order and good customs and go beyond the legal red line. It must not be regarded as a traditional folk custom, but should be included in the category of "reform" to strengthen standardization and rectification.

Marriage is a responsibility, not a task. The reform of marriage customs changes those "improper marriage customs", making marriage customs more civilized and marriage more pure.