Why is it so difficult for contemporary young people to get married?

"We had the marriage we expected, but we saw the failed marriage of our parents, so that we didn't have the courage to enter the marriage."

Today, with a good material foundation, there will basically be no such thing as "marry a Han, dress and eat" and "marry a chicken with a chicken and marry a dog with a dog".

In an idealized way, now we prefer to marry/marry love.

But, ah, many people don't see the marriage they expect in their parents.

Someone said, "Our marriage will end up like our parents."

This sentence once made many people very afraid.

I'm afraid to meet someone who can only lie in bed at home, someone who thinks his wife should wash the dishes after dinner, someone who goes out to socialize every day and only takes his family as a hotel, and someone who will never talk to me.

I am also afraid that I will become a person who makes a hullabaloo about because of trivial matters at home, a person whose value at home only exists in washing and cooking, a person who doesn't care about her husband's mood, and a person who doesn't communicate with her children/husbands.

My parents are both born after 70. In their view, as long as they don't make mistakes in principle, they can make do with it.

Yes, "not bad"

The word "make do" is so unacceptable to me in my twenties.

I'm only in my twenties. Why should I choose a "make do" life?

Therefore, I stubbornly resisted the life I didn't want to accept and told myself again and again: I can choose not to get married.

Although I don't know when I can hold on, I know that if I can, I will hold on.

Therefore, it is difficult for us young people to get married.

We don't lack material conditions, what we lack is the spiritual world, and we look forward to finding people who resonate with our souls.

We don't want to be trapped by the trivia of life and kill our little love in it.

We hope that marriage can make us better ourselves, find ourselves a backer and a teammate.

The recently hit drama "Dear Children" has a high degree of topic just after it started broadcasting.

I also watched several episodes, although I didn't.

Because the story behind is a bit dramatic, I can't accept it.

However, I still watched the first five episodes and felt a little touched. Maybe we don't necessarily agree, but please allow me to express it. When I first started watching the drama, I was told by the spoiler that the couple were getting divorced, and I also knew that the couple divorced because the man was cheating. But when I was watching it, I felt that if there was no mistress, the marriage outcome of this couple would not be much better, and it might even become a "make do" marriage. The couple didn't communicate and wouldn't communicate.

In many families, parents can't communicate, so in many things, both of them are not wrong, they are thinking of each other, but they are getting farther and farther because they can't communicate.

The man did not pay much attention to the anxiety of the woman to have children, and the woman did not see the harmony between the man and the mother.

It is difficult for two people who can't communicate and only care about themselves to go on together.

From this play, I saw what I might face in the future: the pain of pregnancy, the anxiety of being a new mother, and the shame of not being able to face my body. ...

I don't want to live like that in the future, so I refuse to get married now, and I am constantly looking forward to my ideal partner and cultivating myself at this time.