How can we build confidence?

Inferiority is a complex feeling of inferiority, such as shame, shyness, shrinking back and even losing confidence. People who feel inferior despise themselves and think that they can't catch up with others. Inferiority is the biggest hurdle in life, and everyone must successfully cross it to reach the peak of life.

Second, the causes of inferiority complex

There are many reasons for inferiority complex, mainly discussing the following situations.

1. was labeled as "I can't", "I can't" and "I can't" when I was a child. Such words often appear in some people who are not confident. Some people may be misjudged by some people on their abilities or appearance at a very young age, which has become a huge obstacle to their progress and caused some people's inferiority.

Adler, an Austrian psychologist, believes that it is normal for children to have this inferiority complex, because they are powerless, incompetent or ignorant since childhood, but this does not mean that they are immutable. Demosthenes, a famous orator in ancient Greece, stuttered at first, but after years of hard work, he became an excellent orator and orator. President Roosevelt, who suffered from polio, became a great leader during World War II and was loved by the American people. So, when you are labeled, I believe you can get rid of these labels yourself.

2. When you are not satisfied with your appearance: Some people will be upset and dissatisfied because their appearance does not reach a certain standard, resulting in inferiority complex. For example, people who are dissatisfied with their appearance, what we want to tell you is that everyone is born with a different appearance. Everyone has different characteristics from others. You are you, and you are a unique person. The book "Love Beauty, Know Beauty, Know Beauty" says that the Italian movie star Sophia? Roland, when she first entered the film and television circle, almost all photographers thought her neck was too long and her mouth was too big. I hope she can have plastic surgery, but what about Sophia? Roland thinks this is her own characteristic. She would rather give up filming if she were given plastic surgery. Sophia. Roland became a generation of stars with self-confidence and excellent acting skills and achieved success. Then, in the face of our unchanging appearance, we might as well learn from Sophia. Roland cherishes his own characteristics, which will make you confident.

In addition, what we want to say is that a person's ability and value are not determined by appearance. Madame Curie is the first female scientist in the world to win the Nobel Prize. Whenever we mention radium, we will definitely think of her. Whenever people see her portrait, they will first associate her great contribution in the field of science with reverence, rather than evaluating her appearance.

There are still many people in the world who are not tall, but they have made immortal contributions to their country and even to all mankind. For example, Marx, Lenin and Deng Xiaoping are extremely tall and magnificent in people's minds.

Instead of worrying about your appearance, your shortcomings and sadness, we should face up to the reality, constantly enrich ourselves, and base ourselves on the world with a keen artistic feeling, a profound understanding of life, excellent cultural accomplishment, a sincere and enthusiastic society, and diligent dedication.

3. when the environment changes: this kind of situation is easy to appear on our classmates. When some competitors change, they feel a little overwhelmed, so they have doubts about their abilities and feel sorry for themselves; Some students feel depressed and lose confidence when their academic performance is not ideal; Some students have the following thoughts because of the change of environment and the change of attention: do teachers, family members and classmates think I am ugly, and does my poor grades make them look down on me? So suspicious, sensitive, unsociable, withdrawn and neglected to communicate. If the above emotions are not relieved for a long time, it may cause inferiority, affect our progress and our development.

4. Poverty: Some people come from poor family environment, which is very different from the people they come into contact with or the new environment and easy to feel inferior. However, the family can't choose. We have not created the prosperity of the family, and the poverty of the family is not our fault. We can't change whether this family is rich or poor for the time being. We can only change ourselves. As long as we see our own shining side and strive to make some achievements, confidence will show up on us.

5. Physical defects: People with physical defects have more or less such an attitude: "I am disabled, I am useless". It is under the influence of this strong inferiority complex that some disabled people are just the objects of people's sympathy and accomplish nothing. However, what some disabled people have done has not won people's sympathy, but is a kind of respect. Helen? Keller, Zhang Haidi, Sang Lan and so on all make many normal people admire. Sang Lan, a young girl who should have stepped onto the podium, was lying unconscious in the hospital bed of Mount Sinai Rehabilitation Center in Manhattan, USA. Yes, she didn't become a world champion, but the American people called Sang Lan "the pride of the people of China" and "17 years old, she has extraordinary perseverance and courage". ABC filmed her feature film, and the influential People magazine once featured Sang Lan on its cover. "High paraplegia"-a disaster like the sky were to fall apart, is enough to turn people's hopes for life into confusion, but Sang Lan always faces it with a smile, because she firmly believes that she can create a miracle of life. It was Sang Lan's smile that ushered in the arrival of her idol Jackie Chan. Sang Lan firmly believes that people can hear Celine's voice in her ward? Dion personally sang "My heart will last forever" for her. The famous host of ABC said: "Sang Lan is such a good child, and Sang Lan is worth doing for her."

Third, the influence of inferiority on people.

In fact, everyone will face the mysterious monster of inferiority, which often intrudes into our inner world inadvertently, controls our lives, extorts courage and courage from us, and tries to erode people's courage and confidence step by step. It stands behind us and scares us loudly when we are in trouble; When we want to stride forward, hold our sleeves and tell us to be careful of mines. An unexpected failure will make you depressed and demoralized. If you deny yourself everything, you will feel worthless, extremely timid, and fall into the whirlpool of self-blame and guilt. For example, it will make you depressed, and your peers will look down on you and isolate you; It will make you doubt your ability and always feel that your ability is slightly inferior to others. Despite unremitting efforts, your grades are still not top-notch, so some people will give up on themselves, let themselves go, start to be afraid of meeting teachers, hold their heads in front of their classmates, and gradually become withdrawn and unsociable; It will also make you guess that others are hostile to you for no reason, complain that teachers don't pay attention to you, and lament that the world is cold; It makes you lack the courage to associate with people, and you blush when you see people. Heartbeat, nervous, so as not to socialize; It will also make you feel that there is pressure everywhere and everything goes wrong. Faced with difficulties, you will be at a loss and at a loss. Makes you doubt your charm. However, inferiority complex will lead to different results for different people. One kind of person is willing to admit his failure, and may be devastated or even give up after the landslide; The other is to find out the gap, pursue the gap, shorten the gap, admit the gap and strive to surpass it. People with this optimistic and positive attitude will eventually succeed. Not only in their studies, but also in their future lives, such people have moved from inferiority to self-confidence. Beethoven wrote an immortal music chapter and issued a self-confident cry of "I want to hold my destiny by the throat". Only self-confidence can succeed, because it is the wing of our success; People with self-confidence can be brave, frank, optimistic and open-minded; Only confident people know how to love others, themselves, nature and life. Only confident people can become mentally healthy people.

So how can we overcome inferiority and become confident?

Fourth, overcome inferiority and build up self-confidence.

1. Evaluate yourself objectively, knowing that everyone has their own shortcomings and shortcomings, as well as their own advantages and disadvantages. We should try our best to change our shortcomings and accept them frankly, which is a basic attitude of self-acceptance.

2. Learn to appreciate yourself, appreciate your own advantages, appreciate your excellent qualities, and use this appreciation and praise to increase self-awareness, self-acceptance and self-worth, so that we can gain self-confidence;

3. Positive self-suggestion. Positive self-suggestion is a self-stimulation process that produces good expectations through subjective actions. Its characteristic is not to experience the emotion after failure and then to act. Even in an unfavorable situation, we should encourage ourselves to face it with confidence. We often encourage ourselves with "I can do it" and "I can't" instead of underestimating ourselves with "I can't" and "I can't".

4. Accurately locate and adjust the target. On the road of life, not all needs can be met, and all goals can be achieved. Therefore, in addition to giving up those unreasonable goals, we should also be careful not to set the goals too high or too low. They should be achieved through hard work, and the initial goals should be adjusted at different stages. If the goal is set too high, it will be divorced from subjective conditions and objective reality, and may only torture itself in constant setbacks forever, bringing unnecessary psychological burden and anxiety to itself; The goal is too low, and the goal achieved without necessary struggle and efforts will often kill people's will. In the long run, it is easy to lose people's ambition.

If we constantly adjust our goals and work hard step by step, we will certainly enhance our confidence and gain self-confidence in constant small success.

5. Show yourself a movie. When you feel discouraged and lack confidence in something, show your past successful experience in your mind to establish your ability. Feeling the experience of success is also a way to rebuild confidence.

6. It is inevitable that anyone will be grateful for difficulties and failures, which may make anyone feel inferior. If we can look at difficulties and failures scientifically from different angles, we can learn from them, accumulate experience and find the next chance of success. When we can overcome difficulties again and again, then we will be better than others again and again, and we will grow again. Therefore, in life, it is the difficulties that make us grow and mature. Every time we overcome difficulties, it is a great progress, that is, an experience of increasing wisdom and experience.

Inferiority is a complex that everyone may have, which may make people miss opportunities and fear setbacks.

Psychology believes that people's development potential is infinite, so in theory, as long as we work hard, we can overcome our weaknesses and realize our strengths and potentials until one day. When we have a sense of accomplishment, self-confidence and happiness with the realization of our superior potential, when we enter a virtuous circle of development, our weak potential will be mobilized because of positive migration (that is, the phenomenon that what we have learned or what we have experienced has a good influence on new learning activities), so that we will naturally become confident people. Students who are weak in some aspects should see their bright side and make some achievements, so as to overcome your inferiority and anxiety, and you will certainly become a confident person. Extracurricular practice: after getting up every morning, I say to myself in the mirror, "I am confident, I am successful." Praise yourself: Reward and praise yourself every time you do a good job, so as to establish positive psychological hints, put yourself in a good psychological state, and let self-confidence return to you.