How to make the boy you like like like you?

Attention, high energy ahead. This is a girl's love strategy full of routines. If you are the kind of girl who thinks that love is just waiting for the only thrill, then this article is not for you.

The first type: beauty

It is often said that people look at their faces. In fact, to be honest, for most boys, the goddess really attracts them, but they may not be attracted by the goddess.

I summed up an interest formula:

External display+free time = boys' interest in you.

The goddess' external display is really strong, but it lacks usability for boys. Unless boys want to challenge the limit, most boys know how heavy they are, but they just hold an attitude of "watching the goddess from a distance and not playing".

So you only need to do one thing: satisfy the aesthetics of most ordinary boys.

I'll tell you what the aesthetics of most ordinary boys are:

1. The figure can be slightly thin to slightly fat (note: boys think girls are fatter than girls think boys think girls are fatter).

2. The dressing style is fresh and simple, and the British style is good.

3. Naked makeup looks good, fresh and lovely

Is it difficult? Studying how to make peach blossom makeup every day will make you feel naive, but in fact this is the aesthetic of most boys-you don't need to be as amazing as you think.

Ok, now let's talk about what the circle of friends has shown.

In fact, the display of friends circle only needs to remember one sentence: exquisite life.

Travel, fitness, pets, food and personal photos are all ok. As a girl, you should know more about retouching software and photography skills than boys, so I won't go into details here.

If you don't know how to present your image, it's easy. It's enough to spend hundreds of photos of a photographer and take a group of photos for you.

Friends circle should not be full of chicken soup, with positive energy and your own careful thoughts, even a little teasing is no problem.

Several classic friends circle show templates:

If a boy opens your circle of friends, his first reaction is: this girl has her own life, and her life is particularly wonderful.

Besides, her life photos are so beautiful.

Well, the first step of the process has been completed.

Yao Tao's Second Style: Media

"Media" means "media". You need the media to meet, communicate, date and build relationships with him.

Needless to say, as long as you achieve the first type of "beauty", whether in life or social software, you will attract boys' attention more or less.

The biggest function of "media" is not meeting, but chatting and dating.

Every time you go out, you must be famous, and the place you belong to must be a "third party."

I didn't mean to chat with you, because I talked about business and life.

I don't want to make friends with you. It is because of talking about life that I am surprised to find that we have the same hobbies.

I didn't mean to ask you out, because I haven't found anyone who can chat with me like this.

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Remember, everything happens naturally, you didn't take the initiative, it was just a coincidence.

I said in "Dating Three Axes":

"I always wanted to try playing basketball. Nobody taught me at school before, and I don't know how to start learning. I didn't expect you to play basketball so well. I really envy you. " "Ha ha ha, you may not believe it. I've been watching you boys play LOL, and I'm getting interested. I want to find a chance to try. " "Mm-hmm, I also think it is necessary to take the postgraduate exam, but the foundation is not very good, and mathematics has always been weak, so I admire you as a master who can play advanced mathematics."

At this time, boys with higher emotional intelligence will push the boat and say, "Then I'll teach you." At this time, you will have the opportunity to contact.

But we really can't have much hope for the emotional intelligence of straight men, so if he throws you a bunch of tutorials directly at this time, Amway can also throw you a bunch of books or teaching videos.

Come on, have a drink, curb soaring blood pressure and start selling cute: "A lot of things ... I'm afraid no one can tell me. Can you be my teacher now? " Please eat delicious food. "

By the same token, when we ask boys out, it's better not to say, "There's a new movie recently, shall we go and see it?"

You have to say:

"What are your plans recently ... it's depressing. Recently, a new film was released. I should go with my best friend. As a result, she abandoned me to find a boyfriend and left me alone. I really want to see it, but I feel embarrassed to go to the movies alone. "

You are innocent, you know what I mean?

Yao Tao's third style: sister

We have been talking about stimulating boys' desire for protection and making them like you, but we rarely mention the logic behind it-emotional input.

When a person invests enough in your emotions (like, care, pester), this person will fall involuntarily.

Girls don't pretend to be women, and your Excellence doesn't need to be reflected by proving that you are no different from boys. This is just killing your gender advantage.

What is the gender advantage of girls? Two core points: 1. Tender 2. Weakness.

Gentleness is used to appease the boy and make him linger in his gentle hometown; Weakness is used to motivate a boy and make him become a beautiful woman with anger.

When a boy shows great pressure or emotional instability, help him pour a cup of tea, pat him on the shoulder, and tell him like a little sister who cares about his big brother: "No matter how hard you work, you should pay attention to your health."

When he makes achievements, when he wants a little vanity, give him enough face like a little girl: "Wow, the predecessors are amazing, I admire them. Can you tell me how you did it? "

When he is superior in ability and young, give him a chance to show his ability like a little sister who needs care: "This problem has been bothering me for several days, and I have a headache. Do you have any good suggestions? "

In the dead of night, like a little girl who needs protection and comfort, tell him about your distress and your vulnerability: "Do you know, I sometimes envy you for being so free and easy? I work alone during the day, but when I go home several times and see the dark living room, I feel very sad and suddenly feel so lonely. "

Don't refuse some kindness and help from a boy. If the amount of the gift is not too big for him, just remember to invite him back.

Because this is the friendship between people.

The fourth style: Mei

If you only learn beauty, then you are a goddess who cannot be laughed at from a distance;

If you only study media, then you are like-minded friends;

If you only learn to be a sister, then you are a little sister who needs to be taken care of, because you are not familiar with the world;

Even if the first three formulas are omnipotent, there is no way to take the male god.

Don't forget the formula I said at the beginning:

External display+free time = boys' interest in you.

The first three formulas are all on display. Now, in the fourth formula, I want you to add availability.

Usability demonstration also has its own formula:

Interest+demand = availability

If you are interested in the boy's life, behavior and love, you can have a good chat and play. He has a close feeling for you and can pull into the relationship.

You are eager for personal company, hope to find someone you can rely on, and have a good vision for love. He received the signal that your window was open, and he dared to upgrade his relationship.

Show your interest by boasting and praising, and tell him that I like your lifestyle and I appreciate boys like you.

Show your needs through self-description and expression, and tell him if I had a boyfriend. Sometimes I really want someone to accompany me. If only someone could enjoy my hobby with me.

The most common remark: "I especially like boys who love fitness. Although my future boyfriend doesn't need eight packs, he'd better love sports so that I can go to the gym with him to show my love. "

There are two ways to flatter: the first way is to release usability, and the second way is to tease emotions.

The main point of teasing emotions is also one sentence: "Take a step back and take a half step."

Make fun of boys: "You know what to say" take a step back and add "I'm going to laugh" for half a step.

Make fun of boys: "Do you know that the way you eat is scary?" Step back and add "but a little cute."

Flirting: "I'm not giving you anything." Take a step back and say, "Who knows if you brushed your teeth?" Let boys feel that brushing their teeth will give them a chance to take a half step.

Advance and retreat in an orderly manner, can attack and defend, neither active nor indifferent. You are in a kind of "Schrodinger goodwill".

Yao Tao's Fifth Style: No.

Basically, the first four formulas can make boys think through your mind, but there are always unexpected situations.

For example, he treats you as a sister, for example, he is just lonely, for example, he treats you as a spare tire.

There are a lot of girls who will panic when they encounter this situation. They are on tenterhooks all day and feel that they have no hope.

Let me ask you a question. What is the real meaning of spare tire?

Please remember, understand and recite this sentence:

You are still a little attractive to me, otherwise I would have ignored you long ago, but it is not attractive enough; Or in my opinion, you are too easy to get, and I know you can't run away.

It stands to reason that the retreat of the word "mei" has made it impossible for you to make boys think that you are too easy to provoke, but just in case, we introduced the word "no".

Don't you think I can't run? I'll show you.

Note: any premise that is difficult to quit is that it must be attractive.

Therefore, the word "no" does not apply to those girls who have an overwhelming sense of demand from the beginning, let alone the spare tire that has not been left in the first four steps.

Regarding the problem of turning the spare tire into a regular one, I have written a syllogism about turning the spare tire into a regular one before, so I won't go into details.

The meaning of the word "no" includes the following points:

No conclusion-hang him and make him wonder whether you like him or not.

There is no following-only half said, let him look forward to the following; Chatting is interesting. Suddenly something happened, which left him wanting more. The frequency of sending messages has become lower, which makes him wonder what happened.

No result-last resort, tell him to get me or lose me forever.

There is no conclusion that we should combine the word "mei", to say the least. I can chat with you, but I won't stay up late or be on call; I can date you, but I won't ask you to sit up; I can flirt with you, but after a few seconds, I will say nothing.

There is nothing better to do below. "I've always wanted to tell you something, actually …" Stared at him, said nothing, and then sighed "Oh, forget it"; Talk about the climax of interest and tell him that something has come up temporarily, so that he will want to continue chatting with you next time; Slow down the speed of sending messages and make him want to know what you are doing and why you are not as active as before.

No result is the notice of the girl who was given a spare tire. How to use it? Look at the last sentence of my trilogy:

"I have been with you for a long time. You know I have feelings for you, and I dare to admit that liking someone is not illegal. "

"You didn't want to give me a result in the past. I know, you don't need to say why. This kind of thing doesn't need so many reasons. "

"I used to think that I could live a wonderful life alone. In fact, I am getting better and better. "

"I kept this idea until you came to comfort me."

"I thought I had got rid of you, but when you appeared in front of me, my heart would still shake, and I found that I couldn't erase your shadow from my heart."

"I'm old enough. You may wait for my feelings, but I'm sorry, I can't. I can't wait any longer. "

"Give me a ball, if you think we are right, and I really like you, then we will be together to make up for the fate we missed in the past. But if you really don't like me, then you don't need to use friends to interact with me to comfort me. I don't lack friends, what's more, you and I both know that we will not be ordinary friends. "

"If you have no feelings for me, or don't want to be with me, then please, never appear in my life."

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After summing up the five basic terms of Yao Tao, you will find these two points:

1. It strictly follows the logic of gender interaction.

Attraction-contact-emotional investment-receiving signals-bumping into deer.

The former is the foundation of the latter. Without the foreshadowing of the former, the latter will look pale and powerless.

2. To some extent, it is interrelated.

When you show your appearance with "beauty", don't forget to show your usability with "charm".

When you use "media" to be famous, you are actually using the word "beauty" to reduce the sense of demand.

When you use "sister", you need "media" to give you a suitable opportunity and excuse, and you need "flattery" to help you release some usability at this time.

When you flatter, you need beauty to lay the foundation for you, and you need the same hobby of media to make excuses for your interest in him.

Only the first four steps and the last "no" can make him dream about you and make your spare tire turn positive.

"Yao Tao Five Styles" combines "three-axis dating" and "trilogy of spare tire becoming a full member" to become a rigorous, meticulous, operable and clear-headed female love system, which simplifies and theorizes every step in love.

All this is to enhance our ability to get love and ensure that we will not miss a love as much as possible.

Only strict and systematic operation can guarantee the success rate and harvest, and protect the love we want.

To strike a thunderbolt, you must have a bodhisattva heart.

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