How to let oneself have a pair of talking eyes?

Although all parts of our body are transmitting information, the eyes are the most important, and the information it transmits is the most subtle. The power of eyes is far from what we can express in words. Psychologists have found that in addition to exchanging ideas, eyes can also reflect a person's psychological and mental state. Generally speaking, people may unconsciously express their psychological state, mood and connotation through the frequency of blinking, the length of staring, the width of gathering eyes and the degree of pupil dilation.

People's unpredictable and erratic eyes will make people doubt your trust. "What are you hiding from me? Did you really answer my question? " Or make people feel that you lack confidence.

When communicating with customers, the position of your gaze is also very important, because if you don't pay attention to these things, the other party will misunderstand and even resent them. Look at the other person's face when you speak at ordinary times, keep your eyes firm, and don't be distracted, otherwise it will leave customers with a casual and not serious feeling.

Draw an imaginary triangle with the two pupils of the other eye and the midpoint on the chin as the connection point. We call it "intimate triangle", which belongs to "random area". If you look at these places, the other party will think you are more casual than formal. If you are with your lover, such a gaze will immerse the other person in excited reverie.

When communicating with customers, the gaze area should be centered on the eyebrows, with a radius of 3 cm. The left eye and the left and right eyes draw a circle under the forehead and above the nose, which is called the "gaze area". If you lean your head forward slightly, smile gently, open your palm, palm up, and stare at the other person's area at the same time, then you will be open and frank and have nothing to hide.

Be careful: don't wander around each other's neck or chest. This is a "sensitive area". If the other person is a woman, it will make the other person misunderstand.

In addition, timing is also very important when making eye contact with customers. If you always stare at each other, they will feel unnatural or threatened. If you just glance at it, the other person will think you are not confident. Therefore, proper eye contact should not exceed 3 seconds, not less than 1 second, and 2 seconds is better. Maintain proper eye contact with guests, don't stare at them, and don't look around. You can look at your eyes in the mirror every day and look for different eyes. Let your eyes play their best role at the most appropriate time and place.

People often say that the eyes are the windows to the soul. Because eyes are so important to people, we should protect them more carefully! For people who often sit at their desks, eye care is particularly noteworthy. In this era when computers are more attractive than televisions, radiation and fatigue have also aggravated the damage to people's eyes to a certain extent. Therefore, in order to protect the eyes, it is necessary to do eye massage and eye exercises regularly, and choose appropriate rest after fatigue or in the middle of fatigue, and then go to an open place to overlook for a while to eliminate fatigue.

The eyes are like TV cameras, and the sensitive cornea behind the eyeball contains 1? 3.7 billion cells transmit the received information to the brain. These photoreceptor cells can process 6.5438+0.5 million pieces of information at any time. This shows that even fleeting eyes can send thousands of messages, express rich feelings and intentions, and reveal deep secrets. Therefore, the rotation of eyes, the opening and closing of eyelids, the speed and direction of sight, and the wonderful and complicated eye movements produced by the coordination of eye movements and head movements are all transmitting information and communicating.

Ancient Mencius believed that people's good and evil can be seen by observing their eyes. He said, "if it exists in people, the eyes are not good, and the eyes can't hide evil. If they stand upright in their chests, their eyes will stand upright. " This shows that a person's heart is good or evil, which can be expressed from the eyes that can't be concealed.

Modern research has found that the change of pupils is beyond people's control, and the enlargement and contraction of pupils truly reflect complex and changeable psychological activities. When a person feels happy, loved and excited, his pupils will expand four times as much as usual; On the contrary, when he is in an angry, annoying and negative mood, his pupils will shrink very little: they will not change, indicating that he is indifferent or bored with what he sees.

The psychology of eye contact is particularly prominent in the relationship between men and women. In ancient times, when men and women fell in love, there were words such as "one's heart is full of dreams" and "flirting" to express their love for flowers and fruits. There are many words used now, such as "flirting", "amorous", "flirting" and "love at first sight". Therefore, although the eyes are not spoken, it seems that there are thousands of words that can be spread at will. Any young lover is bound to shine beautiful and deep eyes to spy on each other or understand the deepest mystery of each other. As the ancient Roman poet Ovet said, "There are always voices and words in silent eyes."

In interpersonal communication, eyes play an important role in information transmission. Different eyes reflect different psychology and produce different psychological effects. People who suddenly look away once they are looked at by others have too much inferiority and feel very small; People who can't focus on each other and quickly withdraw their eyes are mostly introverted and unsociable; When listening to others, nodding your head instead of focusing on the speaker shows that you are not interested in new people and words: when speaking, focusing on the other person's eyes and expressions is sincere listening, respect and understanding; Only pay attention to the work in hand and don't look at each other's words, which is a sign of neglect, indifference and absent-mindedness; When two people who like each other talk, they will look into each other's eyes to show their understanding; When lovers meet, they usually try to avoid looking directly into each other's eyes to eliminate unhappiness.

The eyes are the windows of the soul, and many subtle feelings can be clearly answered from the eyes. When you meet someone for the first time, if you can maintain a pleasant state, your pupils will be dilated and have a charming effect. When most people create their own image, for various reasons, they will ignore their own eyes and maintain peaceful and lasting eye contact with each other, just as shy people don't know where to put their hands in public. The eye contact experiment proves that the most suitable eye contact should be to project binocular vision on the tip of the other person's nose, so that the other person will not easily have illusions.

When a woman looks directly at you, she is expecting. I hope you can say what she wants to say but doesn't want to say, whether as a compliment, a compliment or a signal of love. When a woman avoids your eyes, she is hiding. She doesn't want you to see too clearly and get too close to her. In fact, this is a signal distance. Women know that only distance can protect themselves better.

Why do men like big eyes and bright black eyes of women? Because big eyes contain infinite affection, black eyes contain more depth, and bright eyes are full of vitality. Talking eyes can replace the mouth. ...

A woman called attractive by men has a pair of talking eyes. Among the "four beauties" in ancient China, "bright eyes and white teeth are lovely", while "as long as she turns her head and smiles, there will be hundreds of spells, and the makeup of the sixth house will go up in smoke". Many women are afraid to look up at each other when they are talking. They look shy and think they are beautiful. In fact, this is very impolite behavior. When talking to others, you should look them in the eye.