Living with people who can't play together is "making do"!

The so-called three views are consistent, which actually means that we can play together. It is a spiritual satisfaction to be able to play together. Whether a person is your ideal partner depends first on whether you can play together. Living with people who can't play together is just making do.

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Seeing the photos of Cherie Chung participating in fashion activities, he is a little fatter and more wrinkled than when he was young, but his smile is still so bright.

And Cherie Chung has been widowed for nearly ten years. She is with Zhu Jiading, which can be summed up in one sentence? "He took her to play?" . They choose Dink voluntarily and travel abroad every year. Zhu Jiading taught her photography, wine tasting and beautiful scenery. A man who knows style has played with a woman who can live happily 16 years. Before Zhu Jiading got sick, they even started to build their own hut in Bali, named the Magic Garden.

16 years later, there is only Cherie Chung left in the world. But good love will not leave with the lover's departure. Cherie Chung continued to take care of gardens, travel and hold film exhibitions, and became a semi-professional photographer. A person who can play will not be too lonely living alone. Fate took away her lover, but left her interesting skills and girlish smile on her face.

The so-called couple is deep love, and the ideal state is to play together. Husband and wife play together. If they have been in love for more than half a year, apart from eating and shopping, they will become more and more bored together, and you can almost foresee your future life. We are happy when we are separated. If we are together, we will only have patience.

Whether a person is an ideal partner depends first on whether you can play together.

Some people's biggest hobby is drinking, chatting and playing mobile phones. They don't like to play with their brains, stick to their familiar places and familiar entertainment methods, and it is difficult to interact with their partners.

Falling in love is playing mobile phones separately. Can you imagine this strange picture?

Emotional tutors often educate us to find people with similar outlook on life and world, but what is the similarity of three views? The basic requirement is to play together. Sartre and Beauvoir are lovers with similar views, but if they can't have coffee together and attend various gatherings of young artists, but one likes to hang out in cafes, one likes to travel, one likes to party and one focuses on shopping, they can't be lovers of the Flower God Cafe we see today.

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Being able to play represents two abilities: one is to maintain * * *, and the other is to learn.

Many couples don't know what to play after six months of love. The surrounding parks have been razed to the ground, and the threshold of the cinema has been worn through. If you go out to eat every day, your wallet and stomach will be too much. Eat instant noodles at home, order takeout, play games on the computer alone, or watch the phone while I watch the tablet.

We often say that * * * is short, and love * * * is indeed short, but life * * * can be very long, so we need to find an interesting person to continue love through life * * *.

I know a couple who have been married for ten years and often walk. Ask them what the fun of hiking is, just to exercise. What's the difference between that and running in the gym? The girl smiled and said, "In that case, it would be too boring. ? "

It turns out that they have liked to walk together since they met. At first, they walked and talked like other couples. It's time to talk soon. The boys bought many books about plants. They began to identify plants on the roadside and sometimes bet on the name of a grass. Later, it developed into insects, birds and even clouds in the sky.

Ten years later, they can still squat on the ground to study one on the way to hiking. "One-horned fairy?" .

They love each other very much, but it's not that women chase men and ask, do you love me or not? Men coax women into saying that you are the only one for me. The sandstorm of time blew away the love words, but could not blow away the memories together. The happiest, funniest and most beautiful things in life are all experienced with someone. This is a long-lasting relationship that can stand the wear and tear of years.

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Maybe you want to say, who can't play? Of course, many people can't play. They are not interested in new things. It is more difficult for them to learn a hobby than to have children.

Everything that is really interesting has a certain technical content. After mastering these technologies, you will become more and more obsessed and happier. Going out to eat with Cai Lan, even in a fly restaurant on the roadside, is very interesting for this girl, because the food story he tells is more attractive than the food itself. This accumulation of knowledge is beyond the reach of people who don't read.

A picky girl married a woman. Asked why she finally agreed to get married, it turned out that boys were willing to practice yoga with her.

Girls like yoga and have been practicing it for seven years. She also likes diving. She got a diving certificate the year before last. She can also play baking, and everyone likes to invite her home as a guest, because it will bring her delicious snacks. Needless to say, she never travels with a group. With the travel plan, she will do her homework six months in advance, and her homework will be meticulous until sunset at every scenic spot. She once thought that she couldn't find a partner at all, because all the men in China were busy making money, and no one wanted to play with her. Even though she played for so many years, she didn't delay making money.

Until she met him. They met on a blind date, and they chatted together during a trip. Then she was surprised to find that he has a wide range of interests and is full of exploration into unknown fields. Knowing that she missed a yoga class for a date, she even said, why don't we go to a yoga class for two?

I think that if a man is willing to learn yoga from you on a zero basis, he is basically willing to play with you. So when I saw Christy Chung and her little boyfriend's tacit yoga moves, I understood why they could cross the differences of age, background and fame and come together.

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Can play, can't play. Playing ball is a style. Interesting people can play, and playful people are not necessarily interesting.

Fun is infatuation with simple but * * * games, such as video games, mahjong, KTV and drinking with friends. Being able to play means at least two things. First, you have the ability to learn and make progress together. Just like two little whites, they constantly criticize and upgrade, discovering new interests and new challenges. Since playmates are comrades-in-arms, think about how deep the feelings of comrades-in-arms are.

Second, you are not afraid of trouble and full of energy. I have friends around me who take their children by car every year. After giving birth to a second child, they have no determination to stop the whole family from going on the road. They love to play, can play, and are not afraid of trouble. They have a set of go on road trip's family secrets and bought a lot of equipment to make it convenient for children to eat and drink Lazar in the car. Others will give up their previous hobbies because they feel hard after giving birth, or at least take a few years off, but they think that family is on the road, which is the best time for emotional appreciation. Just like a small combat team, even if there are quarrels and unhappiness, it can't stop the joy of a family jumping in the desert at dusk.

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People shouldn't be bored just because they are in love. Life should not be changed beyond recognition because of marriage. The duties of love include finding interesting things together, and the duties of marriage also include taking care of each other's hobbies.

Love is not the relationship between man and ribs, nor the relationship between table and table corner, but the intersection of two circles. We should try our best to find the person who has greater intersection with ourselves, and after we are together, we should also try our best to expand these intersections. The greater the intersection, the higher the quality of marriage.

I often hear some girls proudly say? "We have completely different interests, so we play with each other?" As if this is a sign of independence and equality. I don't understand why I can't find anyone to play with. Just because the other person's economic conditions are more suitable, or can I make do with people who can't play together when I get married?

Living with people who can't play together is just making do. Maslow's hierarchy of needs theory shows that after solving the problem of food and clothing, people will inevitably pursue a higher level of satisfaction, that is, spiritual satisfaction. Being able to play and play together is a spiritual satisfaction.

Maybe you will say that there are so many interesting men in China, but most men in China can't play at all. It is unfair to say that many women in China stop thinking about how to play once their love life is stable. It seems that when they are single, they learn those fun skills just to meet someone they love and then live a boring life.

Playing is something that needs to be persisted. Its enemy is inertia. If you are not careful, it will slip away from you like a good figure. Married for three or five years, complaining that life is boring. But who changed you from a playful girl to an old lady? It's actually yourself.

No matter how tired you are at work, you should always leave some time, pick up a partner and play something different together.

People who can play together all the time must not be lazy. All the good things in this world that can stand the wear and tear of years are bought by diligence and the result of fighting against their own inertia.

Partners who can play together and do many things together are more likely to be happy. I hope you are so lucky. Do you like this article? Share this article with more people ~

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