Chen Guo photographer

Loneliness and happiness are the real strength in people's hearts and the highest realm of life. If you can't, force yourself to be able, and you will experience happiness, fulfillment and freedom.

Marquez said: "Before loneliness, you may be confused, and after loneliness, you will grow."

Gao Qiao Lizi, a famous photographer, said, "The most important thing for people is loneliness. Managing your own life is a career. "

Lions and tigers are lonely because they are strong.

Some people think that when you are alone, you are lonely. Not really. This is determined by one's heart. A person with an empty heart will feel lonely and bored when he is lonely. However, a person with a full heart will feel happy and free when he is lonely and completely let himself go.

Because when you are alone, you can think about everything and nothing; You can do anything, you can do nothing, you can do anything you want.

Chen Guo, a doctor at Fudan University, said: "Loneliness is the solitude of enjoying oneself and the integrity of its own system."

In fact, a person can do many things:

You can watch TV and computer documentaries, or read a good book to find the meaning of life and experience the pleasure of being alone.

You can learn to cook food, craft or a skill to increase the fun of your life;

You can sum up your past and plan your future. Only introspection can be self-evident, and only planning can lead to action.

You can do indoor cleaning. When cleaning the room, it is equivalent to cleaning up your inner negative emotions. When the room is clean, your heart will feel relaxed and happy.

Young people with ideals will use their lonely time to enrich themselves and improve their abilities, so they will not feel lonely; Old people with connotation will do what they like when they are lonely, enrich themselves, have fun and enjoy themselves in their spiritual world.

Schopenhauer said, "Only by being alone can a person become a complete self."

Zhou said, "Being alone is an ability that no one can have at any time. Having this ability does not mean that you no longer feel lonely, but that you are content with loneliness and make it productive. Being alone is a wonderful moment and experience in life. Although there is some loneliness, there is a kind of enrichment in loneliness. Solitude is a necessary space for the growth of the soul. "

It seems that solitude is not everyone's ability, but depends on people's nature and ideals. Those successful people grew up through lonely struggles. Therefore, if a person can enjoy loneliness, he can see the future direction of life.

In the article Loneliness is a Ability, Zhou summarized loneliness into three states:

First, I am nervous and confused, and I want to escape from loneliness;

Second, gradually get used to loneliness, establish a peaceful life order, and expel loneliness by reading and writing;

Thirdly, loneliness itself becomes a poetic soil, which leads to deep thinking and experience of life and self.

Let me understand these three states as the triple realm of loneliness.

The first level is of course the lowest. This kind of person is empty inside, accustomed to the superficial glitz, and it is difficult to restrain when he grows up. When he is alone, he is bored and at a loss. Therefore, when they are lonely, they often go to bars, karaoke, drinking, playing cards, playing mahjong and so on. , looking for excitement; Once you leave this place, emptiness and boredom will come back to you immediately.

The second level is higher. Such people don't want to waste their lives in loneliness. They know that loneliness is the normal state of life and only those who can enjoy loneliness can enjoy life. They plan their days in loneliness, do what they think is meaningful, and do what they wanted to do before but didn't have time to do. Although they are lonely, they are not lonely and live their own lives in loneliness.

The third is the highest realm. This is the work of a wise man, which a fool like me can't do. However, we can pursue and spend loneliness happily in pursuit, which is also a kind of beauty of life.

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People are conscious and self-controlled. People should have a spiritual comfort when they are alive. Otherwise, what's the difference between people and other animals? What's the point if a person is an empty shell or a walking corpse?

There are many flattering people in the world, but only you remain the same. May all lonely people pursue the highest realm of life, enrich themselves, purify their hearts, be content with the status quo and live in peace with the world as if they were living high.