250 words about the experience of "Internet addiction teenagers"

Once internet addiction is formed, it will have more disadvantages than neglecting studies and damaging health. There is not a child with internet addiction who doesn't want to quit. However, repeated defeats and repeated wars will make children feel out of control, while the backwardness of their studies and the disappointment of their families will make children fall into great mental depression and self-disappointment. If this state is not changed for a long time, the child's life will be negatively affected by the turning point.

Although it is not easy to overcome internet addiction, it can be done step by step with proper methods. Many parents are worried about this. I hope that through this book and various channels, I can build up their confidence in helping their children get rid of Internet addiction and help them find suitable methods.

Before discussing the steps to quit the net, we must first clarify two related issues.

First, I want to quit the net, and my efforts are outside the net.

As mentioned above, although the content of the network is varied and tempting, what the network brings to children depends on what the children want from the network. A child who can't use the Internet healthily, his offline life is also unhealthy. Children's demand for the Internet depends on their own interests, and the formation of children's interests is determined by their own characteristics and our education.

Whether children's offline life is colorful, whether children can gain a sense of value from their studies or other fields, whether they have a strong sense of initiative and self-development, and whether they have enough self-control ability are the direct prerequisites for whether children are addicted to the internet.

Therefore, whether it is to prevent children from developing Internet addiction or to help them get rid of it, we should pay attention to the guidance of children's offline life, including providing them with more opportunities to accept new things and new fields, such as cultivating their talents, such as participating in sports, or traveling and photography. This makes children feel that although the network has its temptations, there are more wonderful things in life.

Second, if new water does not come, old water will not go.

When Yan Shuai first came, he was obsessed with CS games. I know he had a fierce conflict with his family for this reason. In order to eliminate children's resistance, I decided to take a little strategy.

One day, I said to Yan Shuai, Seeing that you are having such a good time, I also want to try. Can you teach me? Unexpectedly, when I heard this, the child immediately stopped and said, OK! Then he taught me all kinds of rules and skills with great interest.

When I learned, we started fighting and I was defeated. I pretended not to be convinced, and I lost again when I came back, of course. A few days later, I said to Yan Shuai, CS, I can't beat you, but you are definitely not as good as me when you play other games. Yan Shuai said unconvinced: Are you so sure? Go ahead, what. I said: Go.

So I began to teach him to play Go. I try to make Go easy, and I often sell him some flaws. As a result, every time he plays chess with me, he is very excited and makes extraordinary progress. Slowly, his level of Go is getting closer to mine (my level stinks, hehe, sorry), and we have to fight every day. Two months later, Yan Shuai's interest in CS was greatly reduced, and to some extent, he got rid of his carelessness in doing math problems.

(Remember Meng Qian's concern and teaching)

The best way to get rid of the shackles of old habits is to establish new habits. New water does not come, old water does not go, and the best update is to introduce new content. The best way to prevent children from surfing the Internet is to guide their interests and energy to other places. If children have rich interests and value pursuits, they will naturally not be addicted to the Internet. The fear is that children do nothing without surfing the internet, and they are empty and bored, so they can only go back to the internet to seek anesthesia and stimulation.

Steps to quit internet addiction

Paying attention to the richness of children's spiritual life and establishing values and sense of responsibility can prevent children from indulging in the internet; For children who already have a certain internet addiction, it is a very effective means to explore interests outside the network; However, for children with serious internet addiction, these are not enough, and stricter plans are needed to alleviate these children's internet addiction. In the long-term practice of family education guidance, I think the following steps are more effective processes to help children quit Internet addiction.

The first step is to unify understanding.

Don't think that children with internet addiction are particularly in love with the internet. Many times, they rely on the internet rather than like it, and they can't help it. They generally have the desire to quit internet addiction, and often more than once, but each time they end in failure. To a large extent, they are in a state of being unable to get rid of themselves, numb, inertia and helplessness. They are not their own masters, but slaves of internet addiction. Therefore, while we are "angry at it", we should also have the mood of "mourning its misfortune". Because our "enemy" is not children, but children's "addiction", we should work with children to deal with children's "addiction" and gradually overcome it.

Many parents violently stop and severely reprimand their children's internet addiction, which often doesn't work and will be counterproductive. Because children already have the psychology of hating the Internet, but too much external interference and punishment will blur this consciousness and make him think that he hates the Internet because it is imposed on him by the outside world, not his original disgust.

Therefore, the wisest thing to do is to stop interfering with children's surfing the Internet, find a quiet time for children and talk to them calmly. Don't talk about his family's expectations and neglect of his studies, because these pressures are too great, which will make children more addicted to the internet because of escape. We should actively awaken the child to understand his current state. The following questioning methods and cut-in angles have achieved good results in practice.

Are you happy?

When you are playing online games or surfing the Internet, do you think about what you will face when you get off the Internet for a moment? Do you feel insecure because of this?

Do you like the present state of life?

Is life what you really want now?

Have you ever thought that one day you will stop surfing the Internet all day and live a life that makes you proud?

Have you ever thought that it may not be so difficult to quit Internet addiction, but your own method is wrong?

Our goal is to guide children to reflect on their current state, listen to their inner positive voices, and initially establish confidence, thus stimulating their inner motivation to quit the internet. We should not let children think that we are judges who forbid children to surf the Internet, but should be friends who help children get out of helplessness and start a new life. We must make it clear that what we hate is not children, but the dependence inertia on the network that has been formed in children. We should unite with children and work together to eliminate this "inertia" in children. Once you can reach a unified understanding with your child in this regard, you will be half successful.

When we successfully make children realize the necessity of quitting the internet, we should strengthen their positive thoughts, such as writing them down and sticking them on the wall or carrying them with us, such as reading aloud every morning.

The second step is to make a plan

After a unified understanding, you can make plans with your children every one or two days. The content of the plan depends on the specific situation of the child, but the principle is gradual.

The first is to shorten children's online time in stages. We can take five days as a stage, and the proportion of shortening the time in the first stage is probably less than 10%. For example, in the past, children used to surf the Internet for five hours every day, so we can reduce their online time by 20 minutes every day.

Therefore, setting the goal lower is to build children's self-confidence and find their self-control, not their sense of helplessness.

In the second stage, it is necessary to increase the difficulty and reduce the time by no more than 15%. And so on, so that children will spend less than half an hour online every day.

Secondly, we should create other life contents for children, such as learning a new thing for half an hour every day, or getting in touch with a new field, such as playing basketball and learning Go. This is based on the principle of "new water does not come, old water does not go".

The third step is strictly implemented.

The goal setting can be low, but the implementation must be strict. At this time, parents must firmly intervene, on the one hand, arouse their children's ideas when they make plans, on the other hand, firmly implement them.

The child really wants to quit Internet addiction, but because of the role of "addiction", he will do things against his inner will. At this time, no matter how the children object and beg, we must "resist". When we help our child control himself, he may be angry at that time, but deep down, they will appreciate us. The hardest part is actually in the beginning When the plan has just been implemented, we should firmly establish our own principles and break the illusion of children's accommodation.

In recent years, I have come into contact with more and more children with internet addiction. Practical experience tells me that quitting Internet addiction is not as difficult as many parents think. They failed and found it difficult because of strategic mistakes and lack of perseverance. Many parents are both hard and soft. Hard will cause confrontation, soft will become begging. Neither of them will do. The root of the problem is that children can't control themselves. On the other hand, because many parents don't understand the cycle and process of quitting the internet, they lose confidence and give up halfway when they see their children's internet addiction relapse. As long as you know your child's psychology and abstinence habits, you will succeed. . . .