The more women experience, the more indifferent they are to people.

The more women experience, the more indifferent they are to people.

The more experienced a woman is, the more indifferent she is to people. Each of us has an independent mind. In fact, we can also find that people who often have similar personalities get along more harmoniously. The following understanding is that the more experienced a woman is, the more indifferent she is to people.

The more experienced a woman is, the more indifferent she is to people. The more experienced people are, the more reticent they are.

In the TV series "Nirvana in Fire", the young marshal Lin Shu, who suffered from life and death, turned into a resourceful and talented teenager, Man Mei Su Chang. With a thorough understanding and careful planning of the imperial court, he carried out his revenge plan in an orderly way.

In the eyes of outsiders, he is a man of few words, weak and few words. It's just the determination and courage between the eyebrows, which gives people a feeling of awe-inspiring inviolability.

He used plain eyes to hide his sadness and pain, and faced the enemy like a stranger without flaw; In the face of the monarch who still loves him deeply, he also keeps a distance of respect and admiration everywhere and doesn't want to be seen through.

Looking at Mei Su Chang's soul-stirring revenge, I once again feel: "Life, except life and death, is a trivial matter."

For a person, the biggest change is to know your heart clearly and try your best to do what you want to do.

People and human feelings that I couldn't let go before are now let go. Life is too short to wait. Focus all your time and energy on what you want to do most, so as not to leave more regrets.

The more experienced people are, the more lonely they are.

I remember Mr. Lu Xun said, "Wild animals always walk alone, and cattle and sheep only flock."

In fact, the "beast" didn't grow up in a day. At the beginning of the story, he was so fragile and vulnerable.

However, no one knows when the waves of fate will beat on themselves. It's no use crying when bad luck suddenly comes. I am disappointed to ask for help, and I feel that I can't bear it. It's ridiculous.

Fate will always put a heavy burden on your shoulders in its way. Even if you can't jump for a while, you should learn to save some strength until you can shoulder this heavy burden, cross the bumpy thorns and run to the broad road.

For example, the children of the poor are the early masters; For example, a single mother who lost her husband had to support a family by herself.

They spend all their time and energy just to compete with life, so they don't care what others say or think, and they don't care how vicious and annoying those gossips are.

They can only hold their breath and earn enough living expenses to support themselves and their families; I can only swallow all the grievances and sorrows by myself, and tell myself over and over again with tears in the endless night: "Tomorrow, the sun will rise as usual."

The most unusual conversations or actions of people around them are beyond their power. Why look up to the happiness of others and give up control of your own destiny?

Therefore, they are becoming more and more "unsociable", not withdrawn or hostile to others, but stick to their own hearts, strive to go their own way, do their own thing well and achieve their own Excellence.

The more experienced people, the more "indisputable".

"Caigen Tan" wrote: "Human feelings are repeated and things are rugged. If you can't go anywhere, take a step back; If you can go where you want to go, you must give up one-third of your job. "

The more people who have experienced it, the deeper their understanding of it:

The world is constantly changing, and the road of life is tortuous, difficult and full of bumps. Where the road to life is impassable, we should know how to take a step back and let people go first; Where you can go, you should also give people three points of convenience, so that you can turn luck into happiness and have a smooth sailing.

Therefore, after experiencing great storms, it began to become "indisputable." It's your own, you don't have to fight, it's not your own, you can't fight.

Therefore, for the help of others, we also adhere to a "let nature take its course" attitude, and no longer force ourselves to help in vain; Or do hysterical struggles with others.

This choice often gives people a feeling of ruthlessness. It is not until a long time later that the parties may understand that some things, deliberately done, often backfire.

A different person is actually putting more energy into "fighting" with himself, no longer standardizing his words and deeds all the time, but improving his ability level.

The painful experience once made them re-set their goals in life. Only by making progress day by day can they get what they want. As the saying goes, success comes naturally.

Conclusion: Western philosophers once said that people should have two eyes, one for seeing the world and the other for seeing themselves. In fact, people who have experienced ups and downs always look forward with one eye and backward with the other.

Looking back is to analyze oneself and sum up experience from past experience. Looking forward is the result of the past. Regardless of success or failure, you should choose to let go and move forward with ideals and expectations.

At this point, no longer rush, no longer confused, and some just believe in themselves, they will be invincible and successfully cross the ups and downs. Live as a light, a lightning, an admirable peak.

The more experienced a woman is, the more indifferent she is to people. The more experienced a woman is, the more inclined she is to be silent. There are three reasons.

A woman's life is even a book with thousands of words.

How many stories, let others comment.

I never worry too much, but I can only swallow it myself.

So there are always one or two women in the crowd who are somewhat unsociable, because she doesn't participate or laugh, just quietly and silently.

People who don't know will only complain that she is too cold.

But I don't understand. She just doesn't know where to start.

A woman, the longer the society ups and downs, the more she tends to be silent.

The environment is different, others may not understand.

Environment makes people. Women are ups and downs in society, accustomed to hypocrisy and see through human nature. Whether you laugh or cry, in her eyes, it is just the performance of ordinary people. If she does, she's afraid of hurting you. If she says it, she's even more afraid that you won't understand.

Living a transparent life is a kind of loneliness that no one can understand for women.

The richer a woman's life experience, the more inclined she is to be silent.

If your mood is different, others may not believe you.

Life experience is directly proportional to experience. A woman who is used to wind and rain can understand those who long for comfort, because comfort is no stranger to her. But people who have a half-life will never understand why women have to live in the wind and rain every day.

Life is not your own, and it will not be understood after all.

The more bumpy a woman's emotional experience is, the more inclined she is to be silent.

If you meet something different, others won't understand you.

In an elderly blind date video, when the 70-year-old father suggested that he "has no room and wants to live in the woman's house." And she doesn't have a pension, so the woman has to pay more. "Women in their 60s just smiled gently and kept silent.

It's not that a woman didn't criticize, but that in her previous marriage, men ate soft rice for more than 30 years.

When I meet different women, my mood fluctuates and my heart is already tired, so no matter what you say, she will only choose silence.

Therefore, Yi Ming believes that when there is a silent woman around you, don't think that she is not good at socializing, and don't misunderstand that she doesn't know how to communicate, but her experience is something you have never had before.

The more women experience, the more indifferent they are to people. 3 The higher the realm, the more "indifferent".

There is a saying in Caigen Tan: "Look on coldly in the excitement, and you will save a lot of hard thoughts."

Sometimes, there must be a response to personnel matters. Not only will you have a burden, but you will be thankless.

In the company, two old colleagues in the same department as me, Sister Mei, give people the impression that she doesn't care much about people, while Sister Wang is very kind to people. As a result, everyone likes to find Sister Wang for everything, from a printer jam to reimbursement of business expenses.

Sister Wang doesn't want her sister to appear isolated. She will spend her spare time with her sister May. When making coffee in the tea room, I often hear Sister Wang urging Sister Mei to say, "Be warm to colleagues at ordinary times, and do a good job in the workplace." Every time Mei Jie drinks coffee, she doesn't respond.

In the annual job evaluation, the department head was promoted to manager. The candidate she recommended was not Sister Wang, but Sister Mei.

The reason for the supervisor's recommendation is: "Sister Mei seems difficult to get along with, but her business ability is the best in the department, and no one can achieve her work performance. Although Sister Wang has a good reputation, she doesn't know how to refuse unreasonable demands. Her enthusiasm is an important factor hindering her upward development. "

As a working woman, the more experience she has, the more transparent her thoughts will be and she will not break through. They figured out a truth: instead of asking outside, it is better to ask for it by themselves, and ultimately they have to solve the problem by themselves.

Women who do this will not be much lower in general. Especially in these three points, it is "cold".

0 1, independent, listen to your heart.

Mika Ninagawa is a Japanese female photographer. With the decline of Japanese media, China's job opportunities swarmed in, and her schedule was full. She is different from traditional Japanese women. Along the way, her work has developed quite smoothly-

At the age of 24, he won a photography award and made his debut. Cooperate with Japanese fashion media to shoot for popular artists.

At the age of 29, he won the "Kimura Giei Prize", which is regarded as the highest prize in Japanese photography.

At the age of 35, he directed the film "Based on Flowers" and was shortlisted for the Berlin Film Festival.

Her hard work at work is inseparable from her family and her father's teaching.

Her father Yukio Ninagawa is a famous Japanese drama master. Although I had to rely on my wife as an actress to support my family for a while, I was still respected outside. In Mika Ninagawa's impression, until she was five years old, her mother worked outside to earn money, while her father took care of the children at home.

Since then, the father has educated his daughter according to the rational female image in his mind. The father hopes that his daughter can be like her mother, instead of being an ordinary housewife in Japan, and encourage her to go out to work and become a self-reliant woman.

Yukio Ninagawa once said to her: "If you can't be independent economically, you will be tied behind and your freedom will decline."

Today, Mika Ninagawa has become the ideal appearance of women in his father's heart.

She has a successful career and a good reputation, and her economic independence has given her enough confidence to become a beautiful woman with absolute initiative in her feelings.

She said in an interview: "The economy has brought spiritual independence. I don't have to go back and forth emotionally because of money like most women. I just need to listen to my heart and break up with men confidently. "

If there are two paths in life, most people will follow others to choose the right path, while a woman with high level can firm her mind and decisively choose the left path that few people take.

Economic independence gives them the confidence to strengthen themselves and have more choices.

02, respect equality, neither humble nor supercilious.

Some people say that many women in society live a very insecure life. Even a successful woman like Michelle, Mrs. Obama, said to the people present at her autobiography book fair: "At this time, I still feel that you should not take me seriously."

If you want others to respect yourself, you must respect yourself first.

A group of young people dressed in Ming Dynasty costumes were playing in Suzhou Japanese style street to shoot a video, but they were stopped by the staff and advised to leave. The reason given by the security guard is: "You will affect the residents of the community!"

Surprisingly, the onlookers supported the young people and said that they were not affected.

One of the Hanfu girls said modestly, "It was your entanglement that led to the crowd gathering on the spot. Why do so many people wear kimonos without affecting residents, while we wear Hanfu? Are the Japanese in this street affected? Or China's? "

When encountering difficulties, a woman with a high realm will not be intimidated by it. On the contrary, they can affirm their normal demands, argue and never give in.

A stronger woman dares to question unreasonable things and does not give up the bottom line for a moment of peace.

For example, Jiang Yang. During the occupation of Shanghai, when she passed the Huangpu River Bridge from home to work, only empty cars were allowed to pass. She needs to get off and cross the bridge before continuing by car.

At that time, the Japanese had a rule: when passing by the Japanese sentry, you should bow to them; When Japanese soldiers get on the bus for inspection, everyone also needs to stand up and bow. Bowing and bowing to the enemy, this kind of thing is extremely exclusive to Jiang Yang. Once, she stood up a little late, and the Japanese soldier flew into a rage. He walked up to her with fierce eyes and lifted her chin with his forefinger.

This is an extremely frivolous move. Jiang Yang was angry, too. She looked straight into the eyes of the Japanese soldiers, and great energy burst out in her small body, shouting "How outrageous!"

Hit the floor four words let everyone dare not make any noise, secretly for Jiang Yang pinched the staff. Japanese soldiers didn't expect her to have such a reaction. After a period of confrontation, they turned away when they saw that she wouldn't give in.

Once a woman with a high realm is violated, no matter how strong your aura is, I can humble myself and fight for myself.

03, noble personality, give without showing traces.

Being quiet is a noble character.

In the classic novel Downton Abbey, Mrs Hughes is in charge of all the maids in the manor. I still remember a scene where Ethel, the maid and the major were caught in bed, and she drove Ethel out of the manor mercilessly. Nevertheless, she didn't tell anyone about it, but let the maid leave quietly.

When she learned that Ethel was pregnant and had a hard life, she secretly helped their mother and son.

Mrs Hughes let the maid go, not only for Ethel's reputation, but also for Downton's reputation. And she helps others without disturbing others, so that the people who are helped can feel at ease, pay silently and ask for nothing in return. Even when she suspected that she had an incurable disease, she kept silent and just told the secret to Mrs. Palmer, who had a good relationship. Although she will be afraid, before the diagnosis, she will try to be normal, work hard and go to work as usual like a normal person.

She knows that even if she is sick, she still needs to face the disease by herself. It is better to give others less trouble and make everyone relaxed.

A woman with a high realm becomes mature and calm after reading Qian Shan Wan Shui; Once you have it, you know it very well.

The book "Be a Bounded Woman" says: "Boundaries are timeless women's clothes."

Cai Kangyong once said, "I encourage everyone to be a cold person."

May you live a little "cold" for the rest of your life, not delay others, not wronged yourself, and be a woman with a fragrant soul.

If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come.