How to raise a girl

"I envy you, gave birth to a daughter, what a good girl! 」

Is this sentence familiar?

In the eyes of these people, once a daughter is born, she can grow up quietly and gracefully and become a successful person as long as she eats, drinks and drinks well.

As we all know, on the way to raising our daughter, we are extremely worried and try our best to give our daughter the best, but we often deviate from the track without knowing it.

It is difficult to raise a good girl, but it is easy to raise a girl.

|? 0 1 You just want to be happy: the biggest educational scam.

"Slave" Wang Xiaofei made it clear in the variety show:

"My daughter is to protect. I want to keep my daughter at home forever and give her the best, so that she won't have to struggle and be cheated away by other men. 」

Actor Qin Hao has also shown her gentle side because of her daughter's variety show:

"Since we have a daughter, we don't want her to be a schoolmaster, as long as we are happy. 」

Some "extreme partiality" words have exposed the privileges granted by many parents, especially fathers to their daughters:

You just need to be happy.

In the TV series "Qingpingle", Renzong had his first child at the age of 27 but died unfortunately. At the age of 28, he wants to be gentle.

Injong was overjoyed and boasted, "I want her to be the happiest girl in the whole Song Dynasty. 」

For freedom and love, the daughter is afraid of the dark, and Renzong directly gave two night pearls.

Make an exception and canonize Xiaorou as "Princess Fukang" and enjoy the treatment of the Crown Prince.

As for reading and literacy, it all depends on personal preference, and Renzong does not require it.

Free travel all the way, and finally the situation gradually got out of control.

Even if she married a woman, Xiaorou didn't change her previous pampering temper and drank wine with her servant all night. After being discovered by her mother-in-law, the two directly started work.

After falling out with her mother-in-law, she ignored etiquette and knocked at the palace door at night.

Ministers have written to accuse, Renzong tried to suppress for her.

After many disappointments, Xiaorou became more willful and set fire to her bedroom late at night.

On his deathbed, Renzong missed his spoiled daughter and worried that she would not be treated well in the future, so he sent her back to the Li family.

Losing her father's protection, Xiaorou was bullied and died of depression. When she died, her bedding was covered with lice.

This "happiest girl" is full of misfortune in her short life.

Think of a Peking University professor once said:

At present, the biggest deception in education is "happy education", "useless academic qualifications" and "releasing children's nature"

In the program "Life I yearn for", Angelababy saw Dahua playing the violin, which was both envious and a little regrettable.

"When you were a child, your parents forced you to learn? 」

"Yes, forced. 」

"What do you think of thanking your parents now? 」

"Thank you very much. 」

Finally, Angelababy thought:

"Yes, if they don't force you, these things will never grow on you. When I was a child, I grew up in free range and learned nothing. 」

On the other hand, another "other people's child" Lyric was given nine tutors by her mother at the same time.

Sister Lang surprised everyone as soon as she appeared and won the first prize.

There are girls who have just grown up in my family, and their every step reflects the guidance and dedication of their parents.

Self-discipline engraved in girls' bones is not innate, but is forced out by parents step by step.

David, who once played "Cat Dad" in the TV series "Tiger Mom and Cat Dad", said:

I am a cat father in the play, but a tiger father in reality. I often deliberately cultivate my daughter's study habits.

He said: "It usually takes three months to form a habit, and parents should always accompany them. This is a process of mutual torture. 」

Every footnote in a girl's life is drawn by her parents.

Parents' persecution is the biggest help for children's progress.

There is a good saying: if you don't force your child to "change to 72", who will help him block "8 1"?

|? Enrichment without a bottom line: the poison of blind education

The TV series "Dwelling House" reminds people of seaweed that is willing to be a mistress because of vanity, and it also successfully brought a sentence:

"Daughter is rich! When I grow up, I won't be kidnapped by men's candy. 」

How many parents have been cheated and how many children have been harmed by the poisoned chicken soup of a rich adopted daughter.

"An unemployed father is waiting for his daughter", a Weibo name, once shocked the whole network.

A single father who is nearly 60 years old spoils his daughter into a princess;

"Even if she feels unreasonable, she will eventually compromise. 」

When I grew up, my father saved more than 3 million yuan to satisfy his daughter's desire to study abroad.

However, instead of studying as hard as expected, my daughter "shows off eating, drinking and buying luxury goods everywhere, which is very high-profile and arrogant." 」

What is even more frightening is that because of her dissatisfaction with her father's criticism, her daughter arrived in Canada in advance on the pretext of defrauding her father of saving 3 million yuan and transferring it to her bank card.

In the end, there was no news, and all relatives and friends including Lahei's father.

Father sent a faint call on the Internet:

Daughter, you were brought up and spoiled by your father, and no one has treated you badly economically or materially.

Is our father-daughter relationship so pale and powerless in the face of money?

All the money is for you. I hope you can take care of the overall situation. The safety of your family and you is more important than anything else.

In the face of the interview, my father said: The biggest failure is to follow the creed of the ancients that "the son is poor and the daughter is rich", which leads to the daughter becoming "desperate".

The poor have rich women, and parents exchange their indulgence for their children's poems and distance.

Raising her daughter as a princess has made her accustomed to a chilling "princess" disease.

In fact, if a rich boy raises a rich girl, once the bottom line is broken, it is likely to brew a tragedy.

Hanjin Group, one of the five largest consortia in South Korea, was almost destroyed by its son.

With a suitable rich second generation background, my daughter once described it in her diary: children of rich families are born with silver spoons, and I belong to this category.

The son of a woman who brought up all the way was denounced by the Korean people as "the shame of North Korea".

20 14' s eldest daughter, Zhao Xiane, caused public outrage because of the "Nut Gate" incident.

On a flight, the stewardess provided her with a packet of nuts. Zhao Xiane was dissatisfied that she didn't tear open the packaging bag, and immediately flew into a rage, abusing and beating the flight attendants, and demanding to kneel down and apologize.

After doing so, the flight attendants were still dissatisfied, demanding that the plane that had started taxiing turn around and drive back to the boarding gate, and ordering the flight attendants to disembark, resulting in more than 200 passengers missing the plane.

And her sister, Miss Zhao Jiaer, Zhao Xian, was once caught in a "splash door".

In a business meeting on 20 18, Zhao Xian was angry because the other party failed to answer his question accurately, and a glass of water was spilled on the face of an employee of the other company.

The two sisters also paid a heavy price for this:

At the end of 20 17, the Korean grand court made a final judgment on Zhao Xiane's case, and sentenced him to 10 months' imprisonment, suspended for 2 years, for violating the Aviation Safety Law.

After the Watergate incident on 20 18, Korean people spontaneously petitioned on the website of Cheongwadae, demanding a heavy penalty for Zhao Xian. Finally, she was suspended from investigation by the local police.

It is the unrestrained wealth that encourages the arrogance of the two daughters and shames the family and even the country.

Rousseau said:

Do you know what you will do to make your children unhappy?

That is to be obedient to him.

How to raise a daughter?

Enrich and satisfy her freely.

|? Girls should behave like girls: ruthlessly kill children's talents.

Cui Yutao, a famous child-rearing expert, once said:

"There are girls at home, and there is one thing parents must have known:

Gender education is very important, but there is no need to force a gender label on your daughter! 」

This sentence reminds me of a scene in "Tales of Teenagers":

A girl was questioned by her mother because of her neutral dress: "You have to have long hair to look like a girl. 」

The girl felt wronged: "A girl should not have only one look. I don't want to live under the standards set by others all my life. " 」

American psychologist Bechor said: "Once a person is labeled, he will become a labeled person. 」

The gender label forcibly affixed by parents has become a constraint and shackle for girls: well-behaved, quiet and obedient. ......

There was a short film called "Like a Girl".

Boys and girls of different ages make different movements at the request of the director. The first group is the adult group:

When the director shouted "Run like a girl", they gave a coquettish cry: "Oh, my hair. 」

"Fight like girls", they are laughing, more like coquetry and slapstick.

"Throw the ball like a girl." They were weak, raised their hands slightly and made a feint.

The second group is the children's group:

All the instructions are the same, but the children's behaviors are quite different. They attacked with all their might, just as on the battlefield.

The director asked one of the little girls: What do you think of my saying "run like a girl"?

The girl confidently replied, "Run like hell! 」

What impressed me most in the short film was this sentence:

"If someone humiliates them like a girl, girls' self-confidence will fall to the bottom ... which will make them feel vulnerable and inferior to others. 」

"Girls should look like girls." This casual gender bias often kills girls' talent.

There is a girl who completely shattered all the girls' labels:

China, the first UFC champion in Asia and the best daughter of China, speaks with her fists.

After the fighting queen Zhang Weili became popular, an unfriendly voice appeared on the Internet: Such a girl is terrible!

In this regard, Zhang Weili responded:

Who says girls must be soft and weak, not strong and brave?

I think girls can also have many faces.

Girls can do well, even better.

Sebrina commented on her-the definition of a princess: fight for love, fight for yourself.

Beauvoir once said:

"The misfortune of a woman lies in ... not asking her to make progress and go her own way, but telling her that as long as she slides down, she can reach the paradise of bliss.

When she found herself fooled by a mirage, it was already too late, and her strength had been exhausted in the failed adventure. 」

Not long ago, a short video called "This girl is too arrogant" caught fire.

In the video, the girl wears a camera stabilizer and carries 60-70 kilograms of photographic equipment, and she shuttles swiftly in difficult environments such as snow-capped mountains and Chinese Super League stadiums.

This girl, Deng Lu, is the first female photographer of camera stabilizer in China.

Free and easy, handsome and professional, she surprised countless netizens. Some people call her "the Iron Lady of the Camera Stabilizer".

Deng Lu thinks this is a double praise and encouragement. Whenever he is free, he goes to the gym to lift iron, hoping to photograph him at the age of 70.

Some netizens exclaimed: In all respects, this is what girls should look like!

What a girl wants to be should not be prejudiced by her parents.

Girls are far smarter and more powerful than you think.

|? 04

In the book "Raising Girls", there is a passage that won my heart:

"When your daughter grows up, you can see the connection between the childhood you gave her and the strength and quality she has now. 」

Parents' parenting style hides their daughter's future.

"Girls are easy to raise" is the biggest misunderstanding. Which parents who raise girls are not careful and are walking on thin ice?

Mr Jiang Yang once said, "Daughter" is my best work.

As a parent, I don't want this work to be wonderful, but I don't want to write an abandoned manuscript either.

Raising girls has a long way to go.

Looking at the elf-like little girl in my arms, I kissed her gently and said to myself, I must take good care of you, my baby.

For families with daughters, we should work hard.