Tao Lixia, what is loneliness?

"Give You Time" was brushed by Sina Weibo some time ago. Tao published a new book in August. Because I was deeply impressed by Tao's Letter from the Island lent to me by my friend Paopao, I bought the book Give You Time without hesitation. A few scattered nights add up to several hours, and I didn't finish reading this book until nearly 1 am.

Proust is so right that every reader can only read what already exists in his mind. Books are just optical instruments to help readers discover their inner feelings.

After reading this book, I feel as if I have expressed some thoughts and recalled the feelings of traveling and living alone.

"Best-selling writer, translator and photographer" is a well-known title of Tao. She graduated from university of the arts london and worked as a senior white-collar worker in a foreign company after returning to China. Now she focuses on literary creation and translation, advocates a beautiful lifestyle and travels around the world from a unique perspective for many years. Her beautiful writing has a strong recognition and a strong literary flavor.

Tao has always used her unique language and aesthetics to convey the values and ideas about being a man, doing things, living and feeling. The new book "Give You Time" contains her literary notes and emotional experience essays. She believes that most lovers in the world meet and fall in love at first, and their thoughts are deafening. Companion friends regard each other as the most beautiful scenery, love has too many faces, and all emotions will flow into the most ordinary life. Therefore, it is better to entrust love and missing to time. On the other side of time, we never separated.

"This year, everyone read my words and accompanied me to Scotland three times, London twice, Denmark, Faroe Islands, Iceland, Italy, Dubai, Cook Islands, Guam and Japan." As a traveler, Tao has been traveling around the world, telling all readers with practical actions that all good things are worth experiencing and preserving.

Her expression is not only in the words, but also in the camera. She said: "Readers will subconsciously look for stories in the photos I took, because they have read my words, or it is easier for them to understand the stories I told in the photos. This * * * creative process is wonderful. "

There are many descriptions of loneliness in Tao's works, which can be seen from the previous Letter from the Island.

"There are so many places to go, why islands?"

"Atiu, Mitija Luo, Takuta O ... don't you think the names of those islands are beautiful?"

She thinks that this island is not lonely or complete, but lonely and complete. Life is the same. Each of us is an island, but not all of us will meet, and so will life. Maybe we never really knew each other.

Loneliness cannot be avoided or resolved. It's always there, a part of life. But there are too many beautiful, trivial, magical and dull experiences in the journey, and there is not so much time to be lonely. Loneliness, like hunger and death, is a neutral word in her view, and it is a process that must be experienced. There is no need to be afraid.

"People feel lonely for many reasons. Fortunately, it is not difficult to feel satisfied: do what you like seriously, taste the sweetness, and eat the bitterness ... "

Many people will think that traveling alone is a lonely and dangerous behavior. Every time I say that I almost go out to play alone, many people will be surprised and puzzled. However, I enjoy it. I walked again and again, exploring more possibilities.

During the journey, I am an emotionally stable person. I'm making peace with my old self and starting to learn not to be a person who only collects destinations.

"I like that we are interdependent and free."

I feel that Tao Lixia's emotional view is somewhat similar to Anne's, and I am inclined to this attitude myself, so seeing these words will replace my emotions more and deepen my original ideas.

"What I want is love that is still willing after waking up. There's a reason why I've been lonely for so long. My introverted family, good figure, is unfathomable indifference to others. "

She said that a person with diverse emotions and rich imagination like her can't stay anywhere for a long time. Rooting and sprouting is just a wish. As for feelings, falling in love with anyone is like dancing in front of the mirror and playing with yourself. But the advantage of this character is that you can always get a lot of happiness in the details of life.

Partners should be able to understand each other It is not tolerance, concern, forgiveness, love, but understanding, just like solving a math problem, going through twists and turns and darkness to understand a person's heart.

We are all looking for such a person, like a useful dictionary, like a coffee shop filled with fragrance in rainy days, who can best take care of my doubts and fatigue.

If not, it's nothing. Life does have ups and downs.