Exquisite at 70, give up at 40

I don't know why. Generally speaking, women in China seem to lack self-confidence and pursuit of beauty all their lives. Most of my memories of old and still beautiful women come from foreign women. Like old Audrey Hepburn and Dale Haydn. In France, ordinary women who are still attractive in old age abound.

Once, I bought shoes in a famous fashion street in France. When trying on shoes, I found a lady in her seventies on the other side of the chair trying on a pair of elegant and fashionable stilettos. The upper is golden, shallow, narrow and delicate. I thought at that time, my god, why does the old lady still have the heart to wear such shoes? Aren't you afraid of spraining your ankle and wrestling

Look at that lady, dressed up beautifully, sitting straight, her feet in new shoes stretching forward from her calves, swinging from side to side, changing the angle of new shoes. With the change of the calf, the lady has been leaning sideways and twisting her waist. Look around gracefully, like a modern girl. Looking at her, I forgot to try on my shoes.

This is the first time I have ever seen such an elegant old woman. She is slim and graceful, and she doesn't consider any age barrier when choosing clothes. I imagine that if you choose a pair of shoes like that, that lady must have an immortal poetic heart. Maybe she is her rose this season, blooming poetically. At that time, I thought, what kind of mentality should a woman have, what kind of pursuit should she have for life, and what kind of understanding should she have for women, so that she will have such amazing charm when she is old!

The scene of the old lady picking shoes is like a nail, which is deeply nailed in my mind.

I don't like something in the hearts of China people. For example, the most commonly used comment is: Oh, it's not easy to be like this at this age. What's wrong with this era? It seems that in people's aesthetic consciousness, beauty and beauty are only born to young people. When they are a little older, it seems that they should not be beautiful and should not be beautiful. Under such a group consciousness, women over 40 or even earlier accept such psychological hints: they are old and dying, and it is useless to pay more attention. Nobody appreciates it, but they are still very tired.

I love beauty when I am young. I can be beautiful when I am older, but I don't want to be beautiful. Just because you have passed the courtship stage and no longer need to show beautiful feathers to the opposite sex, you can be indifferent and completely indifferent? Is that woman beautiful for herself or for men? Are women really just trying to please their own people?

On the other hand, in the face of the beauty of the past, we are easy to feel sad. Some psychologists say that some women's psychological crisis comes from the fear of their age. When they were young, they disdained men's flirting, but when men stopped paying attention, their inner loss would lead to serious self-contempt. Many women give up from such inferiority complex.

A long time ago, I also thought about this question: What will happen if a man looks at you blankly?

For women who have always been conspicuous, this is an unavoidable problem. It touches a very essential point: who do we live for? As a whole, women in China gave up themselves too early.

Our beauty is not for courtship or appreciation. We have the responsibility to show the beauty of life, which is the dignity of our life. I always feel that women are the most beautiful scenery in the world, and men often make the world miserable. There are many things we can't do, but at least, we can make the scenery by ourselves.

I don't like to make men dislike us because we give up too early. Women's giving up is sometimes particularly terrible: unrestrained, unreasonable and irrational. That kind of giving up gives men more reasons.

Sometimes they will curse you without hindrance or even some pleasure: old woman, damn it! What we have to do is always keep a straight posture and always keep it clean and tidy. We have to keep this capital and say to those men who are wearing beer bellies, shiny and full of fat, and their faces are full of sauce and liver all day long, while picking their teeth, they show smug and shameless appearance: man, please put away your stupid appearance!

From the perspective of natural physiology, there is actually a biological competition between men and women. Either you are too beautiful to look down on his ugliness, or he beats you and looks down on you to give up. With the improvement of the overall living standard and education level, I believe more women will pay more and more attention to their long-term beauty and charm. This is extremely important.

Women in China are not as lucky as French women, and their aesthetic culture thinks that women at the age of 45 are the most beautiful. For a country that pays attention to women's cultivation and charm, the French believe that only when women reach this age, because of the accumulation of workplace, life experience and economic foundation, will they exude mature and refreshing charm from the inside out. The cultivation and charm produced by this long-term experience are full, heavy, chewy and ornamental.

French women are luckier than women in China, but they are also more careful than women in China. It is this intention that created the aesthetic and cultural foundation of French society for women. This, China women should learn from French women.

If you ask me, as a woman, you should always keep a heart for beauty and dress yourself elegantly and exquisitely, because that is the most superior right given to women by God. You can enter the hall, but please be sure to enter the elegant hall. A woman, you give life a refined attitude, and life will make you elegant.

Pick up your makeup tools, put on a beautiful makeup, at least change your appearance and regain your attitude towards life. No matter your age and geometry, elegance can be cultivated at any time, but I am afraid that you will give up your elegance at the age of 70 and choose to give up at the age of 40.