Why do some people long for an affair?

"Encounter" represents a strange temptation, opportunity and risk. Everyone has the desire to "seek novelty and novelty", which is an instinctive reaction.

In fact, most men look forward to romantic encounters. "An affair" often brings great psychological temptation and satisfaction to men. When they meet the right woman and finally win the beauty's heart, they will have a second affirmation of their status, power, wealth, appearance, masculinity and other qualities.

With the increase of communication time between men and women, one party's demands and expectations for the other party have gradually increased, and the earlier calm attitude of "only talking about love but not talking about love" has gradually evolved into meanness and reality.

When the direct benefits such as "ticket-car-house" are realized, the topic of birthright and marriage is often inevitably put on the table. Those men who meet the "affair" with a relaxed and playful attitude only seek to meet the most primitive and direct "ID" needs of animals, and enjoy the fresh stimulation to the fullest, whether mentally or physically, regardless of the constraints of moral responsibility.

When romance and fanaticism gradually return to reality, human "self" consciousness begins to play a role. On the one hand, men begin to calmly evaluate the reputation risk and marriage risk brought by "affair", on the other hand, they may be more and more disturbed and pressured by the object of affair. In this case, men will lose the sense of security to continue their "quiet life" and feel bound and in a dilemma.

It's time to call for help.

When men face all kinds of condemnation and sanctions because of "an affair", they will start to hate this kind of affair because of the damage of their own interests, which may arouse the instinctive impulse of "solving all obstacles with violence", but it is often restricted by rational and moral factors. This impulse only makes this "ID" consciousness pass by and will not be put into reality.